Perspectives Counselling: Relationship Help

06/12/2023

Interesting!

The U.S. surgeon general says loneliness poses health risks as deadly as smoking up to 15 ci******es daily, costing the health industry billions of dollars annually. Dr. Vivek Murthy's report issued Tuesday says about half of U.S. adults say they’ve experienced loneliness. The surgeon general is c...

10/29/2022

Shame is a barrier for both emotional and physical intimacy.

03/03/2022

01/16/2022

Got this quote from a client this week, thought I would pass it on!:
“The truth is, none of us are
easy to date, deal with, or
please all the time. We have -
our vices, attitudes and way of
doing things that make us
unique. You won't like
everything about somebody,
it's impossible. This is life, and
it isn't about finding the perfect
person, there's no such thing.
It isn't about living some
happily ever after fairy tale. It's
about finding someone you're
willing to work for, and who is
willing to work for you. It's
simple, but yet so hard
to achieve.”

04/14/2021

The danger of shutting down:

It's very hard for most of us to really grasp how we threaten our lover by simply by staying silent or distant. We shut down to protect ourselves or to try t...

01/16/2021

It has been a while! From David ( Relationship Help)

This is a replay of Dr. Sue's conversation, entitled "When Lockdown Becomes a Relationship Wake-Up Call," on May 21, 2020.You may be emerging from a stay-at-...

04/19/2020

Hope you are all keeping safe!

We all experience some fear when we have disagreements or arguments with our partners. As we’re all sheltering in place, being around one’s partner 24/7 may be putting extra strain on the relations…

02/12/2020

Don't say sorry! Great write up from one of my EFT colleagues about what is more important than saying sorry. David (from Relationship Help)

I don’t care about people saying sorry. Sorry is just the cherry on the cake. And don’t you hate those plastic red cherries, aren’t they…

01/23/2020

"When you rid yourself of the burden of a lie, it’s freeing―you can be transparent and you again―and positive for your relationship with your partner."

Learn what it means to "fully own" your dishonesty and how to tell your partner when you've lied. David ( from Relationship Help)

Marriage therapists share how to divulge a falsehood to your partner, whether it's a little white lie or something more serious.

01/20/2020

Good overview of EFT - which is what I practice. David ( from Relationship Help)
“You can’t change highly emotional behaviors with cognitive insight or skill-building,” says Sue Johnson, EdD, a clinical psychologist and the primary developer of EFT. Emotionally Focused Therapy drills into the root of how and why you feel what you do, and then helps you and your partner manage those feelings better together. “In EFT, we organize emotions so that they make more sense,” she says.

This specific type of counseling might help you get to the bottom of those repetitive fights.

01/11/2020

Did working on your friendships make your 2020 resolution or even goal? It rarely does. Intimacy with other people — whether it’s a spouse, a family member or a friend — is one of the most profound ways to be happier, healthier and calmer.
David ( from Relationship Help).

Even if you find it easy to make friends — and it’s not, for most people — getting truly close to people is still difficult. Here’s how to make it easier.

01/11/2020

Loneliness has the same impact on mortality as smoking 15 ci******es a day and has been estimated to shorten a person’s life by 15 years! Who would have known. All the more reason for us to work on our relationships!

Research underscores the role of social isolation in disease and mortality