Couples In Therapy

12/02/2025

Why do you react the way you do in your relationship?

Most people think their reactions—snapping, shutting down, getting defensive—come out of nowhere. But reactions always have a story behind them. They come from old emotional patterns, raw spots, and the moments in your relationship that didn’t quite heal.

When you understand what’s underneath your reactions, you can finally shift the cycle instead of getting swept up in it.

In my newest blog, I’m breaking down:
• why reactions happen so quickly
• how your nervous system shapes your responses
• what raw spots are and why they matter
• how to share the emotion underneath the reaction
• how couples can repair and reconnect after missteps

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why did I react like that?” — this will make it clearer, gentler, and easier to change.

Read the full blog here:
https://couplesintherapy.ca/why-you-react-the-way-you-do/

11/27/2025

11/20/2025

When trust has been broken, it can feel impossible to see a way forward. But rebuilding after an affair doesn’t happen through one big apology — it happens through hundreds of small moments of honesty, care, and consistency.

In my latest post, I walk through 5 compassionate steps that help couples move from chaos to calm — rebuilding safety, emotional connection, and genuine trust along the way.

If you’re in that fragile place of wanting to heal but not knowing how to start, this one’s for you.

Read the full guide here → https://couplesintherapy.ca/rebuild-trust-after-an-affair

11/13/2025

Ever looked at your partner and thought, “When did everything start feeling like work?”

Parenthood changes everything — the pace of your days, your energy, your priorities, and sometimes your connection with each other. None of that means you’ve failed; it just means life got full.

In my latest blog, I share 5 honest truths about why being parents changes your relationship — and what actually helps couples find their way back to each other again.

If things have felt a little off between you lately, this one’s for you.

👉 Read it here: https://couplesintherapy.ca/being-parents-changes-your-relationship/

11/06/2025

Closeness doesn’t come from one big moment.
It’s built in the small ones — the glance across the room, the quiet check-in, the shared laugh after a long day.

When life pulls you apart, these moments are how you find your way back.
💚 Read more in this week’s post:
https://couplesintherapy.ca/feel-close-again-when-youve-drifted-apart/

10/29/2025

Sometimes couples don’t fall apart — they just drift.
Life gets busy. Conversations shrink. You start to feel more like teammates than partners.

If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone — and it doesn’t mean your relationship is broken. It means you’re human.

This week’s post is all about how to feel close again when you’ve drifted apart — small, real-life ways to reconnect, rebuild warmth, and find each other again (without pretending everything’s perfect).

💚 Read the full post here: https://couplesintherapy.ca/feel-close-again-when-youve-drifted-apart/

10/28/2025

You love each other — but somehow you keep ending up in the same fight.
The words change, but the feeling doesn’t.

One of you pulls away, the other pushes harder,
and you both end up feeling alone, unheard and misunderstood.

In my newest blog, I share what’s really happening underneath those repeated arguments — and how to break that pattern so you can start finding your way back to each other again.

Read it here 👇
https://couplesintherapy.ca/how-to-stop-fighting-about-the-same-thing/

09/12/2025

Just because you’re not legally married doesn’t mean it’s casual.
Whether you're just moving in together, raising kids, or considering a separation — the emotional patterns between you matter. And therapy can help.

In this blog, I share 5 powerful truths about common law relationships that most couples don't talk about — but should.

💬 Learn how to get on the same page, slow down the negative cycle, and create the relationship you actually want.

📖 Read the full post here: https://couplesintherapy.ca/common-law-relationships-in-bc/ (or follow the link in the bio)

08/29/2025

The September long weekend in BC isn’t just another holiday—it’s the moment where summer ends and fall begins.

For couples, that shift can stir up a lot:
• Maybe summer felt connecting—slow mornings, lake time, campfires.
• Or maybe it felt overwhelming, and you’re ready for routine again.

Either way, transitions matter. They tend to magnify the patterns in our relationships—where we lean on each other, or where we drift apart.

This weekend, take a moment to pause with your partner and ask:
💚 “What do you need from me as we head into fall?”

Small check-ins like this build trust, connection, and resilience.

🍂 Ready to work on your relationship this season? Let’s connect.

08/20/2025

💬 Conflict isn’t the problem in a relationship — disconnection is. The couples who thrive aren’t the ones who never argue, but the ones who know how to repair and reconnect after the hard moments.

That’s the heart of what we do in therapy together. We slow things down, notice the patterns that pull you apart, and practice new ways of turning back toward each other. With support, repair becomes possible — and reconnection becomes dependable.

If you’re tired of feeling stuck in the same fights, let’s work together to rebuild trust, safety, and closeness.

👉 Learn more at www.couplesintherapy.ca

08/18/2025

Wow. Reading words like these humbles me every time. 💚 I’m so grateful for the couples who trust me with their story, especially when things feel at a dead-end. It’s never about perfection — it’s about remembering why you chose each other and finding your way back, one step at a time.

Thank you for letting me walk alongside you. 🌿