01/20/2026
Ever notice how when life gets intense, you somehow handle it really well?
You’re calm.
You’re competent.
You get everyone through it.
And then later… you’re wrecked.
Crying. Snappy. Exhausted. Numb.
Wondering why you “can’t just be fine” now that it’s over.
That’s not you failing.
That’s high distress tolerance.
It gets you through the moment, but it doesn’t mean your nervous system had the capacity to take care of you while it was happening.
A lot of us learned how to endure, while very few of us learned how to support ourselves in real time.
So we push.
We hold.
We power through.
And then the body taps out once it’s safe.
Nothing is wrong with you.
You’re not dramatic.
You’re not “too much.”
You just deserve skills that don’t require collapse as the recovery plan.
If this feels familiar, you’re not alone. And no, this isn’t about being tougher. It’s about being kinder to your nervous system.
With care, Lea