Kelowna EMDR Clinic

Kelowna EMDR Clinic Kelowna EMDR Clinic is the first-of-its-kind clinic in the Okanagan that focuses on EMDR thearpy.

Sometimes your body remembers what your mind hasn’t fully named yet. Somatic trauma shows up as physical sensations—tigh...
12/28/2025

Sometimes your body remembers what your mind hasn’t fully named yet.

Somatic trauma shows up as physical sensations—tightness in the chest, chronic tension, shallow breathing, gut discomfort, numbness, or a sudden freeze response—often without a clear memory attached.

This happens because trauma is stored in the nervous system, not just in thoughts or stories.

Your body learned to react quickly to stay safe, and those survival patterns can resurface long after the danger has passed.

These responses aren’t overreactions or weaknesses; they’re intelligent signals from a system that adapted to protect you. Healing begins when we stop trying to think our way out of trauma and start listening to what the body is communicating through sensation, movement, and regulation.

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12/27/2025

As an EMDR therapist, I hear many stories about relationships that leave clients drained, anxious, and doubting themselves. Most don’t call their relationship “toxic.”

They describe confusion, emotional exhaustion, and a constant sense that they’re the problem.

What I listen for isn’t just events—it’s patterns in the nervous system.

How I Identify a Toxic Relationship

Certain themes show up again and again:

• Chronic self-doubt and second-guessing reality
• Strong body reactions before conscious awareness
• One-sided responsibility for emotional repair
• Fear or guilt around setting boundaries
• Cycles of harm followed by brief relief or closeness

These patterns point to trauma bonding. The nervous system learns to associate connection with distress, not safety.

Five Ways EMDR Helps Clients Heal

1. Targets early moments of lost safety, not just the breakup

2. Breaks trauma bonds by separating love from survival

3. Restores internal trust so red flags register sooner

4. Reprocesses shame and self-blame that keep clients stuck

5. Builds boundary capacity at the nervous-system level

The Reality

Toxic relationships retrain the nervous system. Insight alone isn’t enough. EMDR works because it addresses the injury where it lives—in the body, not just the mind.

Healing means your system no longer mistakes harm for connection.

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12/24/2025

A humanistic therapist responds to stress by slowing everything down and centering your lived experience.

When they say, “I hear that you’re stressed—and that’s totally okay,” they’re communicating unconditional acceptance, not urgency to fix you.

The long silence isn’t neglect; it’s intentional space. In that quiet, you’re invited to notice what you’re feeling without judgment, to exist as you are, and to trust that nothing about your stress makes you broken or too much.

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12/23/2025

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Intrusive thoughts can feel scary, confusing, and completely out of character—but having them does not mean something is wrong with you.

These unwanted thoughts, images, or urges often show up when the nervous system is stressed or overwhelmed, especially with anxiety, OCD, trauma, or major life changes. The more you judge or fight them, the louder they tend to get.

Learning to name them, let them pass, and understand where they come from can take away their power. With the right tools—and therapies like EMDR—intrusive thoughts can lose their intensity and stop running the show.

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12/22/2025

When therapists share that a client has childhood trauma, it’s not a label meant to blame or shame—it’s an explanation.

Many adult patterns like emotional overwhelm, people-pleasing, hyper-independence, or fear of closeness are rooted in early experiences where safety, consistency, or emotional attunement were missing.

Understanding childhood trauma helps clients reframe their struggles as learned survival responses rather than personal failures, opening the door to compassion, nervous-system regulation, and real healing instead of self-criticism.

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12/19/2025

We often attract emotionally unavailable people not because we want pain, but because our nervous system is drawn to what feels familiar.

If you grew up with emotional distance, inconsistency, or having to earn love, those dynamics can register as “normal” even when they’re exhausting.

Emotional unavailability can feel exciting, challenging, or magnetic because your system is still trying to resolve an old pattern.

Healing isn’t about blaming yourself—it’s about retraining your body and mind to recognize that steady, responsive, emotionally available love isn’t boring.

It’s safe. And once your nervous system learns that safety, your attraction patterns begin to change.

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Setting boundaries often feels unsafe—not because someone is rude or difficult, but because the nervous system learned e...
12/18/2025

Setting boundaries often feels unsafe—not because someone is rude or difficult, but because the nervous system learned early on that speaking up could lead to conflict, rejection, or emotional harm.

For many people with trauma histories, especially relational or childhood trauma, boundaries were once followed by punishment, withdrawal of love, or emotional invalidation.

As a result, the body associates boundary-setting with danger rather than self-respect.

EMDR therapy helps reprocess these stored trauma responses by targeting the memories and beliefs that say “it’s not safe to say no” or “I’ll lose connection if I assert myself.”

Through EMDR, the brain and body learn that boundaries can coexist with safety, connection, and emotional regulation.

Setting boundaries is not about being rude—it’s about nervous system healing, trauma recovery, and learning to protect yourself without fear.

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12/16/2025

A somatic therapist responds to a client in stress by paying close attention to what the body is communicating, not just the words being spoken.

Instead of rushing to analyze or fix the problem, they gently slow things down, helping the client notice physical sensations like tightness in the chest, shallow breathing, clenched muscles, or a racing heart.

The therapist may guide the client to ground themselves through breath, posture, or small movements, creating a sense of safety in the nervous system.

By validating the body’s stress response as protective rather than “wrong,” a somatic therapist helps the client move out of overwhelm and back into regulation.

Over time, this body-based awareness allows stress to release naturally and teaches the client how to recognize and calm their nervous system before it spirals.

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12/13/2025

Listening like a therapist isn’t about fixing people or giving the perfect advice — it’s about presence.

It means slowing down, reflecting what someone is feeling instead of rescuing them from it, noticing what’s said and unsaid, and allowing silence to do its quiet work. When people feel truly heard, they open up differently.

They go deeper. This video breaks down simple, practical ways anyone can learn this skill — whether you’re a friend, partner, parent, or just trying to show up better in your relationships.

Watch the full video on YouTube — link in story.

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12/11/2025

Sometimes the body keeps score long before the mind is ready to look at the full picture.

When you “forget” a trauma in your thoughts, it doesn’t magically disappear; it goes underground and shows up as tight shoulders, random stomach aches, sudden anxiety, irritability, or that strange freeze response you can’t explain.

That’s your body’s memory system doing its clumsy, overprotective version of a security drill.

Therapies like EMDR help translate these physical alarms into emotional understanding so your body and mind stop arguing and start collaborating.

Your body isn’t betraying you—it’s protecting you, just using outdated instructions that need to be rewritten in safety.

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12/10/2025

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12/08/2025

Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy treats your mind like a small community of inner characters—each with its own fears, goals, and attitudes.

When an IFS therapist says, “Which part of you feels stressed right now? Maybe your inner overachiever just needs a hug,” they’re helping you separate the stressed part from your whole identity.

That tiny shift is powerful. Stress stops feeling like a personal failure and starts looking like a hardworking, anxious part of you that’s trying—clumsily—to protect you.

Once you see it that way, compassion comes easier, reactions make more sense, and calm becomes something you can actually negotiate with instead of wrestle.

IFS is basically self-leadership training: you learning to comfort your inner committee instead of letting it drag you around.

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