11/22/2025
Longer post than normal but... Here is a concept I talk about alllllllllll the time at work. WE all have some Hedonistic pursuits. IE. I want a nice steak 🐂, and you get one. Cool 👍. You want another better steak, OK you found a better Chef👨🍳 and you got it. And another and... How long until you can never really get a better steak? Not long. Then what? You eat one on the top of a hot air-balloon over the Alps with a movie star. OK, then what? You see it all the time in the news. Some rich person who has everything and their lives blow up.
There is another way. Eudaimonic relating to deep human flourishing—living well through meaning, purpose, and virtue (not just pleasure). I think of it as skill building. No matter how good I get at Acupuncture, guitar, tai chi.... I can always get better. It gives me an unlimited runway to work on for the rest of my life. Which brings me a pleasure also. A lot of frustration as it is hard for me to get better at guitar, and my progress at Acupuncture and Tai Chi is very slow. But it never gets old.
I saw this quote from James Clear. It is not exactly comparing Eudaimonic to Hedonic but the concept is similar. As some point Hedonic pleasures become hollow. I think that leads to what he is talking about. But, some people have a harder time to be happy and can work on that through pursuits that 'enliven the soul'.
It is tough to answer deep questions in a post but I just wanted to introduce Eudaimonic pursuits as at Christmas you can focus on the presents or you can be present with the people.
"If your past achievements didn't make you meaningfully happier, don't expect your future achievements to make you happier.
Remember that thing you so badly wanted? If getting it didn't meaningfully change your long-term happiness, then you shouldn't expect the thing you want right now to change your long-term happiness either.
You are roughly as happy as you decide to be today. And some day, years from now, after you accomplish the thing you've been striving for, you'll have to decide to be happy on that day too."