Kevin Lowe RTC - Light of Hope Counselling

04/18/2026

Grief is one of those things that doesn’t follow rules.

You might’ve heard of the “7 stages of grief” denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance.

But honestly, it is not that straight forward or linear.

Some days you might feel okay.
Then the next day, it hits you all over again.

Sometimes you move forward, sometimes it feels like you’ve gone backwards.

That’s not failure, that’s actually part of the process.

Grief moves in waves, not steps.

One of the most important things early on isn’t “figuring it all out” it’s stabilizing.
When everything feels shaken, the goal becomes simple:

Getting through the day
Creating small pockets of normal
Giving your mind and body something steady to hold onto

You’re adjusting to a completely new reality… and that takes time.

If you’re in it right now, try not to rush yourself.
Slow it down. Notice what’s actually coming up.

Some days it might be sadness.
Other days anger.
Other days… nothing at all.

All of that is allowed.

You don’t need to force healing..

If this resonates, I wanted to share something practical and free to help guide you through this, I’d genuinely recommend checking out MyGrief.ca.

It is a Canadian resource you can review at your own pace. These modules include loss of partner, child, trauma, or just trying to make sense of how you feel.

If you’d rather talk to a real person, you can reach out to myself or for immediate crisis the British Columbia Bereavement Helpline is also free and connects you with someone who will simply listen and help you find support.

For the reader that feels overwhelmed right now, you are not alone and this is not supposed to be easy - you are not doing it wrong.

04/04/2026

Why You’re Not Lazy

What people are avoiding is typically where the work is.

Sometimes what we’re avoiding isn’t even the issue itself…

it’s the pattern of not initiating - the executive functioning side of things.

Have you found yourself avoiding certain situations, procrastinating, or stuck in a loop of waiting until the last minute to start or complete something?

If this pattern feels familiar, there is good news.

There are tools that can interrupt these patterns of behaviour.

Some evidence-based ones include:

Limiting screen time before bed and first thing in the morning;

This reduces artificial dopamine spikes that come from things like social media, which can make normal tasks feel harder to start.

Creating structure;

Anxiety, worry, and lack of direction often grow in unstructured environments.

Avoidance tends to thrive in that space as well.

Starting your day by completing a simple task- dishes, making your bed, a small chore.

Research supports that early task completion increases the likelihood of continued task engagement throughout the day.

These small shifts begin to interrupt autopilot patterns and replace them with ones that are more aligned and productive, rather than maladaptive.

If you took something from this, share it with someone who might need it.

I’ll continue putting out content like this; practical, grounded, and usable.

Supporting mental health throughout Vancouver Island and British Columbia.

What people are avoiding is typically where the work is.

03/25/2026

Sometimes days feel heavier than they should.

It’s not always loud.
Sometimes it’s quiet… a lingering sense that something is missing.
A pull toward “simpler times,” or moments that felt clearer, lighter, more certain.

We often think relief comes from going back.
But more often, it comes from learning how to see differently…
to understand where we are, and what it means to move forward from here.

I’ve been seeing more people come in carrying this weight, a loss of direction, a fading sense of purpose, or a quiet question:

What is my life actually about?

I offer a space for people who are asking:

• What is my life about?
• Why do I feel disconnected from purpose?
• How do I move forward when life feels unclear or uncertain?

Using values-based approaches, this session is designed to help you slow down, reflect, and begin clarifying what actually matters to you.

This isn’t about giving you answers.
It’s about helping you find clarity,
and identifying a direction that feels grounded, intentional, and real. Supporting you to discover your own answers.

Available conveniently at two locations.

https://mpcounselling.ca/booking



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03/18/2026

You’re holding it together… but it’s heavy.

Mind doesn’t shut off.

You feel stuck, off track, or just tired of carrying it alone.

Clients often comment on feeling more clarity, lighter, and even eager or motivated.

How I support:
We slow things down, make sense of what’s going on,
and get you moving forward again, practically.

03/14/2026

Some people come to counselling because they feel a deep sense of a lack of purpose, loss of meaning, or uncertainty about life direction.

I am offering a specialized consultation for Meaning & Existential Distress.

Designed for individuals wrestling with questions such as:

• What is my life about?
• Why do I feel lost or disconnected from purpose?
• How do I move forward when life no longer feels meaningful?

Drawing from existential and values-based counselling approaches, this consultation provides space to thoughtfully explore questions of purpose, personal values, and life direction.

The goal is not to prescribe meaning, but to help individuals clarify what matters most to them and identify pathways toward a more intentional life.

My personal faith tradition is Christianity. For clients who desire it, faith and spiritual questions can be integrated into the conversation. However, this service is first and foremost a respectful space for each client’s own exploration of meaning, worldview, and life direction.

Available conviently at two locations.

https://mpcounselling.ca/booking

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02/28/2026

Limited spots available for new clients.

When life feels heavy, clarity helps.

Many people carry anxiety, relational tension, or quiet burnout longer than they need to. Counselling is a space to slow down, make sense of what’s happening. I hope to come along side and support you to move forward during life's difficult circumstances.

I work with individuals and couples navigating:
• Anxiety and overthinking
• Relationship strain
• Stress and burnout
• Questions around narrative, purpose, and direction

If it feels like the right step, I’d be glad to connect.

Kevin Lowe, RTC

02/24/2026

Not everything that weighs on us looks like a crisis.
Sometimes it’s just the quiet exhaustion of coping for too long.
This was written for those moments.

There is a particular kind of struggle that often goes unseen.

02/20/2026

A lot of the people I work with don’t come in because they’re “broken.”
They come in because they’re tired of carrying everything alone.

One of the most common pieces of feedback I hear after a few sessions is:
"Things are starting to feel better".

Not because life suddenly got easy - but rather because things finally had somewhere to go.

When we slow down enough to actually process what’s been sitting under the surface, clarity starts to emerge naturally.

We look at the story you’ve been telling yourself, not to rewrite it dishonestly, but to re-author it with intention.

To notice where you’ve been carrying blame that isn’t yours.
Where you’ve been reliving moments instead of integrating them.
Where you’ve survived things that deserve more meaning.

You don’t need to have the right words when you walk in.
Part of the work is discovering that and exploring the narrative and what has been.

If you’re looking for counselling that values depth, honesty, and grounded progress - this space may be a good fit.

Evening availability is now accessible at Lake House Physio + Therapy.

You can book your session, or take advantage of a complimentary 15-minute phone consultation, using the link below:

https://lakehousephysio.janeapp.com/ #/staff_member/11

02/09/2026

Some processes can’t be rushed.

In British Columbia, we’re surrounded by landscapes that don’t force growth -
they allow it. Forests don’t hurry. Lakes don’t justify themselves.
They become what they are through time, pressure, and patience.

A lot of mental and emotional distress comes from trying to accelerate what’s still forming.
We tell ourselves we should be “past this by now.”

Calmer. Clearer. Stronger.

But healing doesn’t respond well to deadlines.
It responds to attention.

Counselling isn’t about fixing you as quickly as possible.
It’s about helping you listen to what this season is actually asking of you -
without judgment, without rushing, without abandoning yourself.

At Light of Hope Counselling, I work with people who want depth, honesty, and grounded progress.

Sometimes the most therapeutic thing you can do
is stop fighting where you are and start understanding it.

02/02/2026

Most of us don’t struggle because we don’t know enough.
We struggle because we’re constantly at war with where we are.

We tell ourselves we should feel different by now.
That if we were stronger, more faithful, more disciplined, this season would be over.

So we resist it.
We rush it.
We judge ourselves for still being here.

But there’s a quiet cost to that resistance.

When we treat the present moment like a mistake, we stop listening to it.
And when we stop listening, we miss what it’s actually trying to teach us.

Some seasons aren’t asking to be solved.
They’re asking to be stayed with.

Not everything that feels uncomfortable is a sign you’re doing life wrong.
Sometimes it’s a sign you’re being stretched into something you couldn’t become any other way.

Growth doesn’t always feel like clarity.
Often it feels like tension, waiting, and learning how to remain honest without rushing to escape.

You don’t need to force meaning out of everything right now.
You don’t need to rush yourself into the next version of you.

It’s enough to notice where you are.
To stay present without self-contempt.
To let the season finish its work.

Not because it’s easy.
But because it’s shaping you in ways speed never could.

01/23/2026

New Year’s resolutions often assume something needs fixing.
That if we just try harder, plan better, or correct ourselves enough, we’ll finally become who we’re meant to be.

But change doesn’t usually work that way.

We aren’t problems to solve, we’re people being formed over time.

What are we trying to resolve, really?
And why do we assume the past has to be erased before we’re allowed to move forward?

In counselling, I often see people carrying the quiet belief that they need to “deal with everything” before they’re allowed to grow. As though understanding must come before movement.

But formation doesn’t wait for perfection.
And healing isn’t always about digging backward, it’s often about learning to see our story through a different lens.

The past matters. It shapes us.
But it doesn’t disqualify us from what’s ahead.

Sometimes growth isn’t about correcting what went wrong, but about walking forward with humility, truth, and trust, allowing change to unfold rather than forcing it.

If this year feels less about fixing and more about becoming, that’s not avoidance.
That’s often where the deepest work happens.

01/10/2026

Evening availability now accessible at Lake House Physio + Therapy

Use the link below to book your appointment; as well to take advantage of our complimentary 15 minute phone consultation.

https://lakehousephysio.janeapp.com/ #/staff_member/11