Healthy With Kelsey

11/10/2025

The final stretch 🥹

I’ve never felt more positive, accepting and grateful for my body than I have during these last 12 weeks.

It’s changed so so much in such a short period of time and as someone with a history of distorted thoughts about my body I thought that I would struggle more.

But I feel so at peace.

I feel like I’ve also developed a deeper sense of understanding and compassion I could not have reached without going through this experience.

Almost like I’ve developed of layer of internal and external softness I didn’t have before.

Everyone scares you with the “just you wait” and post partum fear of being less desirable, stretch marks and loose skin but I don’t have any desire to try to have a baby without looking like I’ve had one.

Like why are we chasing a previous version of ourselves and for WHO?

I’m leaning into the changes. Not every moment feels joyful but it I certainly don’t feel resentful or disappointed about my body.

I think that’s a beautiful part of having a baby later in life. You’ve done the work, you know who you are and that your value is not attached to your physical body.

Pregnancy is just the part that says “you know all these things, but this is where you’ll affirm it be true” 🥰

11/01/2025

Goodbyes are always hard 🥲

Our first home will always have a special place in our hearts as the birth place of where I started Healthy With Kelsey.

I started this community with the hopes of connecting with other people struggling with body image and exercise especially through the dark and isolating days of 2020.

It’s become our haven with so many meals, patio hangouts, and snuggles with our dog!

But as our family is growing it felt like the right time to find a home with more space, a yard and a safer neighborhood so our days in this condo has come to an end.

Our 15 month search for the right home has also come to an end as we’ve found our perfect home and will be moving in at the beginning of the new year!

In the meantime…. back home to the parents for a winter filled with lots of family time as we wait for our possession date.

Isn’t it funny how EVERYTHING seems to happen all at once 🥲

Hopefully we will be settled in before baby arrives but for now, our first hurdle is complete!

I can’t wait for 2026 🥰

10/23/2025

This is all I got and also due in Feb 🫠

I guess I should start soon?

*cue anxiety* 😳

10/23/2025

Everyone warns you about post partum depression but nothing mentions the prenatal depression that creeps into your life before the baby even arrives.

Staying active throughout the first and second trimester has been my saving grace when the darkness sets in.

The anxieties of motherhood, how my life is going to change, sacrifices I know I’ll have to make and having a overwhelming responsibility to care for a vulnerable human consumes so much of my brain these days.

I know it’s normal to feel overwhelmed and unprepared but the uncertainty does wear you down.

With only 3.5 months to go I thought I would be starting to enter a nesting phase where I’d have things for the baby, decorate a nursery and keep stress low before the baby comes but it’s actually been the complete opposite.

But I’m leaning on therapy, calming rituals, exercise and doing small things each day within my control to get through the next weeks ahead of massive change.

Every day is a lesson in letting go of my tight grip to control everything and allowing things to happen as they are knowing it will all work out in the end and if they don’t, that I have the capacity to handle it 🫶🏾

If you’re feeling overwhelmed today, go for a walk, light a candle or just breathe. You are exactly where you’re meant to be ❤️

01/07/2022

12/19/2021

“My body is not up for discussion”

is a complete sentence. It needs no follow-up. No justification. No explanation.

You don’t have to give anymore energy to the topic than the statement above.

It’s not an invitation to have a debate.

You can set healthy boundaries while being polite and concise.

Someone commenting on your body because they’re “concerned” isn’t love. It’s projecting their own internalized body insecurities onto you.

People who love you, respect you.

People who respect themselves, create clear boundaries around how they will accept love from others.

For me, I keep it simple. Their reaction to my statement tells me everything I need to know about our relationship.

How do you set boundaries when body talk comes up during the holidays?

12/11/2021

You’re not going to want to hear this.

But a lot of people I meet are in denial about their true motives behind their desire to lose weight.

They are terrified of stepping away from diet culture because it comes with a scary reality of having to own your sh*t.

The reality that you will have to unpack the implicit biases you have about other bodies and your own.

So instead you say things like “I’m doing this for health” but your actions continue to follow disordered behaviours like restricting foods or feeling guilty about skipping a workout.

There are the 4 major reasons you’re still struggling with the idea of letting go of dieting, so let’s address the elephant in the room.

1️⃣ You've benefited from thinness—You've experienced times in your life where you were validated or celebrated for losing weight or being thinner afforded you more privilege.

2️⃣ You tried before and it didn't work— The only alternative to dieting you've experienced is rebound weight gain from it which scared you back into dieting again.

3️⃣ You’ve already invested too much — You've invest time, energy and money into dieting in the past and you don't want it to be all for nothing.

4️⃣ You're afraid of materializing your fatphobic beliefs— You recognize that being in a larger body comes with discrimination and you're afraid to experience that for yourself.

I want you to know that none of these reasons I’ve stated above are poor reflections of you or I as people.

We all carry implicit biases and fatphobia runs DEEP. It’s the product of diet culture, a capitalistic, toxic ideology that infiltrates every area of our lives.

I too, constantly have to check my thoughts, catch myself making assumptions about other bodies and remind myself that my greatest act of resistance in this fight against diet culture is self love.

Because living in a constant state of insecurity and being preoccupied with our bodies, sedates our ability to fight these systems of oppression.

But we can’t just continue sweeping it under the rug and hope that losing weight will save us from the discomfort we feel about of bodies.

You’re either contributing to diet culture or against it. Which one is it?

12/04/2021

I want to share some of the things I really needed to hear when I was going through the early stages of my body acceptance journey.

Instead of compliments on my body from the people around me, I needed to hear:

“Thank you for sharing [insert vulnerable story] with me, I think you’re really brave.”

“I feel [insert kind sentiment] when I’m around you.”

“I want you to see yourself the way I see you, and as see you as [insert kind adjective].

“I have so much fun with you when we [insert activity you do together].”

“I feel so lucky to know you because you’ve taught me that [insert something you’ve learned from them].”

“You have such great taste is clothes. I really love that [insert article of clothing].”

“My favourite thing about our friendship is [insert something you bond over].”

These non-physics compliments emphasize the value on the person, not what their body looks like.

It reminds them that they are so much more than just their bodies. That regardless of what their body looks like, they have immense value in this world.

If someone you know is going through a struggle with body image, try sharing one of these body-neutral comments with them.

You never know how much impact a kind words can make in someone’s day.

What did you need to hear at the beginning of your journey? 💭