Blue Leaf Counselling

03/17/2026

Effort alone is a poor approach for ADHD symptoms. Medication and systems changes are much more useful, but effort is still necessary and beneficial for the relationship.

03/17/2026

S*x, ADHD, and Marriage; So many interesting dynamics to explore.

A few ideas top of mind regarding ADHD in couples. In couples where one partner has ADHD, one of the most commonly reported reasons for a low frequency of sexual intimacy is lack of time . This is...

01/28/2026

Here's a brilliant video on the idea that we marry the wrong person and what to do about it.

Blue Leaf Counselling

12/15/2025

Something to think about. How do you end relationship? Are you quick to cancel a relationship without respecting what it's worth.

Cancel culture often creates tension in relationships by forcing people to take sides or cut others off when conflict arises. In the rush to cancel someone, we sometimes forget the integrity that...

11/24/2025

Listening!! Do you know how? Check out this post. https://www.blueleafcounselling.ca/resources/listening-do-you-know-how

11/03/2025

I often work with couples who are struggling with how ADHD is impacting their marriage and they don't even know it is ADHD

I often work with couples in which one partner has ADHD or is likely to have it. A common challenge they face is not fully understanding how differently their minds work. Each partner tends to assume...

10/20/2025

This is a great post: simple, to the point, and very practical. https://www.instagram.com/p/DP6tQzFiQrf/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

10/20/2025

https://www.blueleafcounselling.ca/resources/couples-need-time-together You need to spend time together, somehow.

10/20/2025

Helen Mirren once said: Before you argue with someone, ask yourself, is that person even mentally mature enough to grasp the concept of a different perspective. Because if not, there's absolutely no point.

Not every argument is worth your energy. Sometimes, no matter how clearly you express yourself, the other person isn’t listening to understand—they’re listening to react.

They’re stuck in their own perspective, unwilling to consider another viewpoint, and engaging with them only drains you.

There’s a difference between a healthy discussion and a pointless debate.

A conversation with someone who is open-minded, who values growth and understanding, can be enlightening—even if you don’t agree. But trying to reason with someone who refuses to see beyond their own beliefs? That’s like talking to a wall. No matter how much logic or truth you present, they will twist, deflect, or dismiss your words, not because you’re wrong, but because they’re unwilling to see another side.

Maturity isn’t about who wins an argument—it’s about knowing when an argument isn’t worth having. It’s realizing that your peace is more valuable than proving a point to someone who has already decided they won’t change their mind. Not every battle needs to be fought. Not every person deserves your explanation.
Sometimes, the strongest thing you can do is walk away—not because you have nothing to say, but because you recognize that some people aren’t ready to listen. And that’s not your burden to carry.

10/20/2025

Do you agree?

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10/14/2025

Is AI stealing your partner from you? It's a strange new world isn't it? AI is entering relationships and we should probably be having these conversations with each other. Start a conversation today.

09/06/2025

Strong relationships don’t just happen—they’re built. ❤️ Every couple needs time, effort, and intentional love to grow together. Invest in your relationship today, because the strongest bonds are the ones we nourish daily.