Pamela Michienzi, Registered Psychotherapist / Art Therapist

11/02/2025

Avoidance is the struggle with emotional exposure. Instead of staying and communicating, one pulls away to regain a sense of control. Disconnection brings temporary relief. Silence brings the illusion of stability. Ending communication stops the emotional tension one doesn't know how to handle. That is the function of avoidance—it regulates what one can’t process.

Avoidance reflects capacity, not value. Silence often shows how much emotion one can handle before collapsing into defence. This tells you more about limits than about worth. Once you understand that, something inside you settles. Stop analysing and start accepting reality for what it is. Behaviour is information, not identity. And the moment you see it that clearly, you get your power back.

10/04/2025

09/13/2025

When a child experiences emotional neglect, they develop a tendency to abandon their own needs as a survival mechanism. Unconsciously, they internalize the belief that they are undeserving and settle for less. This is where the process of transformation begins. Recognizing patterns and reframing limiting beliefs enables individuals to transcend their current circumstances. It is time to thrive, rather than merely survive.

09/05/2025

The antidote to shame is connection and being seen.

09/04/2025

Are you stuck in the same loop.

You say “yes” when you mean “no.”
You pull away instead of speaking up.
You give 70% — and you feel it.

Self-betrayal doesn’t always scream. Sometimes it whispers — in one more skipped workout, one more conversation avoided, one more promise quietly broken.

Over time, those whispers wear down your self-worth. Not because you’re weak — but because you’re out of integrity with yourself.

Self-worth isn’t built on affirmations. It’s built on evidence. And that evidence comes from living in alignment with your word.

08/28/2025

People's intentions become irrelevant if their actions continue to hurt you.

08/26/2025

Feelings are often communicating.

08/16/2025

All things die when treated as optional.
Goals.
Dreams.
Relationships.

08/13/2025

I don't believe you need to be healed to have the things you want and need.
You need new experiences to show your nervous system a new and safe reality.

08/10/2025

Jealousy isn't always about wanting what someone else has. Sometimes it's actually the hurt of what you were never given. The love you didn't receive. The safety you never felt. That sharp stab when you see other's being treated the way you needed. It’s not jealousy, it's grief.

08/01/2025

Accountability feels like an attack when you're not willing to acknowledge how your behaviour hurts others.