04/20/2026
Real talk about post-partum...
We don't know what we don't know.
Sure you can read books and talk to people (hear every one's horror stories) but the reality is nothing can prepare you for giving birth and becoming a parent.
You give birth then are handed a little potato and trusted to take care of it - feed it, love it, protect it, help it grow into a respectable contributing member of society; no pressure or anything.
The truth is, no one is given an instruction manual or told what to do - we are all struggling to figure it out as we go.
I remember sitting in the rocking chair in the middle of the night googling everything I could about developmental stages and what is 'normal' and not because how was I supposed to know?! I never had a baby before.
Then lets throw in hormones - giving birth is the single largest hormonal shift in HUMAN HISTORY. It takes 2 years for your body to develop a NEW baseline. That does not include breast feeding or getting pregnant again within that two year window.
Maybe you have intrusive thoughts because thanks Postpartum Anxiety or Low Mood (looking at you Postpartum Depression). All while trying to take care of the little potato that the nurses at the hospital sent you home with.
Even if you've had multiple kids - you've never had one the age of your oldest. You are trying to figure it out as you go and each kid is so different from each other.
Stop expecting yourself to have it all figured out because how are you supposed to?
Find your support, the real support that won't judge you when you say you're losing your mind or refer to your kid as a gremlin.
Post-partum is messy and full of big emotions and fears you've never experienced before. Becoming a parent is magical and terrifying all at the same time.