02/18/2026
I turned 52 last week.
And if I’m being honest, I’ve never really liked celebrating my birthday. Not even as a kid.
Big parties. Being the center of attention. Everyone looking at you while you smile and try to act comfortable…they are my kryptonite. They’ve always felt a little overwhelming to me. Even now, the idea of a big celebration makes my nervous system tighten up.
For most of my life, I’ve preferred something simple. Quiet supper. Good conversation. No production. No spotlight.
This year? Chinese takeout at my parents’ place… because it was familiar, comfortable, safe, and quiet.
As I get older, I’m starting to appreciate something I didn’t always see…Aging, as much as we dislike it, is a gift not everyone gets to experience.
That shift hasn’t erased a lifetime of discomfort for me. Growing up autistic, I often felt different, even if I didn’t have the language for it. Being the center of attention only magnified that feeling.
Add in self-consciousness, grey hair, glasses, and the slow changes in the mirror, birthdays haven’t always felt like a celebration.
But this year, I’m trying to give myself a different kind of gift.
I am going to give myself more grace, practice more self-acceptance, and put less pressure on myself to be someone I am not.
Maybe getting older isn’t about becoming someone new. Maybe it’s about finally making peace with who you’ve always been.
So many leaders, entrepreneurs, athletes, and caregivers are quietly carrying overwhelm, self-doubt, and the pressure to “have it all together.”
The spotlight might look different for some - a boardroom instead of a birthday party - but the nervous system response can feel the same.
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