Linda Kalman MA, MSW

05/01/2026

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04/29/2026

Our newest support group for Spouses and Partners takes place for the first time tomorrow, Wednesday April 29th, at 6:30pm. If you have a partner who lives with mental health challenges, this group can help you. Free, online, and no need to register in advance. Details: amiquebec.org/support

04/18/2026

10 things she learned in 2026

1. She’s not responsible for managing other people’s emotions. She finally understood that carrying everyone else’s feelings was never her job, and that protecting her peace doesn’t make her selfish—it makes her wise.

2. Saying no without explaining herself doesn’t make her rude. She doesn’t need to write paragraphs just to justify her boundaries. A simple “no” is complete, valid, and enough.

3. She doesn’t owe anyone access to her just because they want it. Just because someone misses her, needs her, or chooses her doesn’t mean she has to choose them back. Her energy is not an open door anymore.

4. People will call her difficult when she stops being convenient. And she learned to be okay with that. Because being “easy to deal with” often meant she was abandoning herself—and she refuses to do that now.

5. Her gut has been right every single time she ignored it. Every red flag she excused, every feeling she brushed aside—it was all trying to protect her. Now, she listens. Now, she trusts herself.

6. She can’t pour from an empty cup so she’s got to take care of herself. She stopped running on fumes for people who wouldn’t do the same. Rest, healing, and self-care are no longer optional—they’re necessary.

7. Rest isn’t lazy. Burnout is what happens when she forgets this. She no longer glorifies exhaustion or overworking just to prove her worth. Slowing down doesn’t mean falling behind—it means preserving herself.

8. She’s been apologizing for existing and she’s done with that. Done shrinking, done over-explaining, done making herself smaller to make others comfortable. She deserves to take up space—fully and unapologetically.

9. Not everyone deserves a second chance just because they asked for one. Some people only come back because they know she has a good heart. But she learned that protecting her heart matters more than proving it.

10. She’s allowed to outgrow people, places, and versions of herself. Growth means change, and not everyone is meant to come along for the journey. She’s no longer afraid of leaving behind what no longer aligns with who she’s becoming.

In 2026, she didn’t just learn lessons—she became someone stronger, wiser, and more at peace with herself. And that’s something no one can take away from her.

12/24/2025

My wish for you

12/21/2025

At P.L.A.Y.@ CLINIC, our OT services take place in a clinic setting designed to support children & families. Located in the West Island as part of AccessAbilities Therapy Clinic, we offer evaluations and treatment sessions tailored to your child’s strengths, interests, and goals.

Here’s what we offer:
✨ Assessments and evaluations grounded in evidence and aligned with your child’s goals
✨ Evidence-based, goal-oriented Individual Therapy
✨ Focus on daily skills + meaningful participation
✨ Collaborative, personalized treatment plans
✨ Access to a multidisciplinary team for comprehensive support

Our OTs use Handwriting Without Tears, Sensory-Motor, Motor Learning, CO-OP, and Play Based Approaches, amongst many others, to help children build confidence, develop motor skills, and reach their full potential.

💡 Most services are covered by private insurance, with receipts provided!

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À P.L.A.Y.@ CLINIC, nos services d’ergothérapie se déroulent dans un environnement clinique conçu pour soutenir les enfants et leurs familles. Situés dans l’Ouest-de-l’Île au sein de AccessAbilities Therapy Clinic, nous offrons des évaluations et des séances de traitement adaptées aux forces, aux intérêts et aux objectifs de votre enfant.

Voici ce que nous offrons:
✨ Évaluations et bilans fondés sur des données probantes et alignés sur les objectifs de votre enfant
✨ Thérapie individuelle basée sur les preuves et orientée vers des objectifs précis
✨ Mise en valeur des habiletés quotidiennes + participation significative
✨ Plans de traitement personnalisés et collaboratifs
✨ Accès à une équipe multidisciplinaire pour un soutien complet

Nos ergothérapeutes utilisent Handwriting Without Tears, des approches sensorimotrices, d’apprentissage moteur, CO-OP, ludiques, et bien d’autres encore, pour aider les enfants à développer leur confiance, leurs habiletés motrices et à atteindre leur plein potentiel.

💡 La plupart des services sont couverts par les assurances privées, avec reçus fournis!

10/13/2025

I know this is taboo, but not all estranged adults miss their parents or regret the estrangement when their parents pass away. In fact, for many, the relationship was so toxic, so fundamentally damaging, that stepping away was not just a choice—it was a necessary act of self-preservation. These adults have often carried the weight of emotional abuse, neglect, manipulation, or outright harm for years, sometimes decades, and the decision to sever ties was a way to reclaim their own lives, their sanity, and their sense of self.

They have already grieved the loss of the parent they wished they had while that parent was still alive. They mourn not the actual person, but the endless “what ifs”—the small, fragile hope that things could have been different, that love could have been genuine, that respect and care might have existed. They miss the idea of a parent, the potential of what could have been, but they do not miss the reality of what was—the cruelty, the disappointment, the repeated betrayals.

Sometimes, when these parents die, estranged adults feel something unexpected: relief. Relief that they no longer have to navigate toxic interactions, relief that they are free from the emotional chains that bound them, relief that they can fully live their own lives without fear of manipulation, guilt, or judgment. This relief is not callousness; it is the recognition that preserving one’s mental and emotional health often requires boundaries that society struggles to understand.

Estrangement is often misunderstood. Outsiders see it as abandonment, as unforgiveness, as a moral failing, but for those who have lived it, it is survival. It is the courageous act of protecting oneself when love was absent, when harm was constant, and when the healthiest choice is to let go. Mourning the parent who was never truly there, yet being at peace with the distance, is a quiet, complicated, and profoundly human truth.

10/10/2025

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06/16/2025

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That flinch when a door slams? The way your breath still hitches at raised voices, even decades later? Your nervous system isn’t stuck, it’s vigilantly protecting the child who learnt danger wore a mother’s face. Age is a number in a diary your body never read. It only knows the years spent deciphering love as conditional, safety as fleeting, and trust as a liability.

This isn’t “falling behind.” It’s rewiring an entire ecosystem built on fault lines. Every time you prioritise rest over productivity, every boundary that steadies your pulse, every meal eaten without guilt, these aren’t small acts. They’re revolutions in a system trained to believe survival meant shrinking. That hypervigilance scanning for threats? Redirect it. Let it marvel at sunsets instead of landmines, savour silence instead of bracing for storms. Let it learn that a ringing phone can be a friend, not a gr***de.

Healing isn’t a race. It’s architecture. You’re laying bricks where she planted bombs, replacing the echoes of “You’re too much” with floorboards that creak, “Welcome home.” The girl who survived on crumbs is now building banquets of safety, of choice, of love that doesn’t demand her disintegration. Some days, progress is planting herbs on a windowsill. Others, it’s staring at a therapist’s rug and whispering, “I think I hated her.” Both are sacred.

Let the world cluck about timelines. You’re too busy teaching your cells a new language. One where “home” isn’t a battlefield, but a sanctuary designed breath by breath. Where joy isn’t a threat, and your name isn’t synonymous with “problem.” Where you can finally unclench your jaw, lower your shoulders, and realise the war is over.

However long it takes, this isn’t delay. It’s defiance. Every slow, intentional step is a middle finger to the legacy that tried to claim you. Keep going. The daughter they tried to bury is now the woman building a life her body trusts. And that? That’s a revolution no narcissist can gaslight.

05/31/2025

Guilt allows us to live in the past. It judges, never seeing positive, has no empathy or compassion for you. So…why do we hang on so tightly?

Ingrained beliefs can limit healing.