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09/03/2025

“Why can I not just be myself?”
The 5 Wounds That Stop You From Being Yourself
The answer is often hidden in wounds we carry from the past. They are not visible like scars on the skin — but they live in our hearts, in our fears, and in the meanings we give to life.

Here are the 5 emotional wounds that most often stop us from living freely and fully as who we are:

Rejection 💔
– Fear of not being loved or accepted.
– Shows up as: perfectionism, hiding your voice, fear of failure.

Abandonment 😢
– The wound of being left alone.
– Shows up as: fear of being alone, clinging to relationships, feeling unworthy.

Humiliation 😳
– Being shamed or made to feel small.
– Shows up as: guilt, people-pleasing, struggling with self-worth.

Betrayal (Broken Trust) ⚡
– Trust being broken by those you counted on.
– Shows up as: jealousy, control, difficulty trusting others.

Injustice ⚖️
– Being treated unfairly or not seen for who you are.
– Shows up as: rigidity, anger, difficulty feeling joy.

🌈 Why these wounds matter

We do not live the life we have — we live the life we give meaning to.
When our meaning comes from unhealed wounds, life feels heavy, confusing, and unfair. Instead of living as our Self, we live as our hurt.

But here’s the truth: wounds are not who you are. They are experiences. And experiences can heal.

✨ 2vquestions for you

👉 Which of these wounds do you recognize most in yourself?
👉 And what would your life look like if you were finally free of it?

🌹 Remember: I am here to support you, to guide you, to help you, and to give you a shoulder when you need it.

If you have more questions — about life events, challenges, wounds, healing, relationships, or finding peace — please feel free to ask me. 💌 I am always more than happy to answer and walk this path with you.

You are not alone. With Gratitude, Nicky😘

09/03/2025

New question: How to Set Boundaries for a Peaceful Life? Boundaries: The Secret Door to a Peaceful Life When you don’t set boundaries, life feels heavy. People take your time, your energy, and your peace — often without even realizing it. You end up tired, resentful, and wondering why relationships feel one-sided.

✨ The truth is simple: Boundaries are not walls. They are doors with locks. You choose when to open, when to close, and who to welcome.

🔑 5 Steps to Set Healthy Boundaries

Know your values.
What matters most to you — time, respect, honesty, rest? Boundaries are built around what you value.

Listen to your feelings.
If you feel drained, resentful, or uncomfortable around someone, that’s a signal that a boundary is needed.

Communicate clearly and calmly.
Use simple, firm words:

“I can’t talk right now; let’s set a time tomorrow.”

“I’m not comfortable with that.”

“Please respect this decision.”

Stay consistent.
Boundaries only work when you enforce them. If you bend them all the time, people won’t take them seriously.

Release guilt.
Saying “no” doesn’t make you bad or selfish. It makes you healthy, whole, and free to give love from a place of abundance, not exhaustion.

🌈 The Lesson

You do not need to explain or apologize for protecting your peace. The people who truly love you will respect your boundaries. The ones who don’t… are teaching you why those boundaries were necessary in the first place.

A peaceful life is not about avoiding people.
It’s about choosing love without losing yourself. Boundaries aren’t walls… they’re doors with locks.
You decide who to let in, when, and how.
Say “no” without guilt. Protect your peace. 🕊️With Gratitude, Nicky 😘

09/03/2025

🌹 Answer to a Question I Received Today 🌹

👉 “How can I discover a narcissist… and how do I stop this person and become free again?”

This is such an important question — because too many people suffer in silence, not realizing what’s happening until it feels too late. Let me share a story that may sound familiar…

Jack once thought he had found the perfect partner. Betty was charming, attentive, and seemed to understand him like no one else. At the beginning, it felt like magic — compliments, affection, promises of forever.

But slowly, things changed. The compliments turned into subtle critiques. The love turned into control. He began to feel like he was walking on eggshells. Nothing he did was good enough. Every mistake was magnified, and every success was dismissed.

💔 That’s how narcissists work. They:

Start with charm, so you trust and open your heart.

Then use criticism and manipulation to weaken your confidence.

They isolate you from support, so you feel alone and dependent on them.

Finally, they rewrite your meaning of love — making pain feel like “normal.”

🚨 How do they isolate you?

A narcissist doesn’t come saying “I’m here to control you.” They do it with a smile, pretending it’s love.

They criticize your family, saying they don’t care for you.

They discourage your work, making you financially dependent.

They push you to move far away, away from friends and support.

They destroy your relationships one by one.

They control every detail of your life — money, calls, outings, even clothes.

All with fake good intentions: “It’s for your own good. I just love you so much.”

On the outside, they look like the perfect partner. On the inside, you are slowly disappearing.

🌈 How to recognize a narcissist?

If love feels more like fear than joy… pay attention.

If their words confuse you instead of support you… it’s not love.

If you are losing yourself instead of becoming more of yourself… something is wrong.

🔑 How to stop them and free yourself?

See the pattern. Awareness is the first step. A narcissist’s power fades when you name the game.

Guard your meaning. Remember: you don’t live the life you have, you live the life you give meaning to.

Set boundaries. Say no. Limit access. Create distance — emotional and physical.

Rebuild your identity. Do the things you love. Surround yourself with people who value you.

Choose freedom over fear. Leaving may be hard, but staying steals years of your life.

✨ The lesson:
A narcissist thrives where you forget who you are.
You stop them the moment you decide: “I am enough. I deserve peace. I choose me.”

Freedom doesn’t come from changing them.
Freedom comes from changing your meaning, your boundaries, and your courage.

🌹 Your Turn:
If you have any questions — please feel free to ask me! I am here to support you no matter what!
I am more than happy to answer and guide you. You are not alone. With Gratitude, Nicky😘

09/03/2025

🌸 Why We Criticize — and How to Let It Go Before It Destroys Our Peace 🌸

Criticism is everywhere. We hear it in families, workplaces, even in the mirror when we look at ourselves. But the truth is this: we do not criticize others because of who they are — we criticize because of what we carry inside.

💡 Why do we criticize?

Projection of wounds: We attack in others what we can’t accept in ourselves.

Need for control: Criticism makes us feel above or “right.”

Fear & jealousy: When someone shines, it triggers our insecurities.

Habit: We grew up in environments where criticism was normal.

Clumsy help: Sometimes people mean well but express it harshly.

Every word of criticism is a meaning we attach — and that meaning can turn love into tension, closeness into distance.

🌪️ The danger of holding on to criticism

If we don’t let go of criticism — whether giving it or receiving it — it poisons our relationships and our own heart.

It creates walls where there should be bridges.

It steals joy from small moments.

It makes life heavier, more complicated, and full of fear.

💔 And in relationships, constant criticism becomes toxic.
At first, it’s little comments. Then it becomes the atmosphere. Soon, nothing feels good enough.

The partner stops feeling safe.

Love gets replaced by defensiveness.

Intimacy fades, replaced by silence or fights.

A relationship without encouragement, appreciation, and love cannot breathe. Criticism chokes it.

🌈 How to let go of criticism

Catch the moment. When you feel the urge to criticize, pause. Ask: “Is this about them, or about me?”

Change the meaning. Instead of focusing on the flaw, look for the intention, the effort, or the humanity.

Speak with love. If you must give feedback, soften it: “Can I share something that might help?”

Release what isn’t yours. If someone criticizes you, remember: their words are a reflection of their state, not your worth.

Practice gratitude. The more you focus on what’s good, the less space criticism has to grow.

✨ The lesson:
We do not live the life we have.
We live the life we give meaning to.

Choose to be the guardian of your meaning.
Because with a single word, you can turn a beautiful state of mind into a fearful one.
And with a single shift, you can turn criticism into compassion — and keep love alive. ❤️ With Gratitude, Nicky

09/03/2025

The Question That Built a Wall — And the Lesson That Can Save Us!!!
Jack adored his mother, Marry. She was his anchor, the one who sacrificed, worked, and loved him unconditionally. Yet Jack carried a hidden sensitivity: every word from his mother felt heavier than it was meant, every suggestion like a judgment.

Betty, his wife, noticed this. And instead of helping him heal, she used it to draw him closer to her. She never shouted. She never forbade him from visiting. She only asked one little question:

— “Not complain yet?”

At first, it seemed harmless. But the seed was planted.

Every time Jack went to see Marry, that question echoed in his mind. He began looking for signs of criticism, even when his mother only spoke with love. Slowly, phone calls became shorter. Visits less frequent. The bond that was once strong began to weaken — not because of what Marry said, but because of the meaning Jack gave to his mother’s words.

One day, Jack realized:
“I don’t live the life I have. I live the life I give meaning to.”

He understood that Betty’s question had changed the meaning of his mother’s presence. What once felt like love, he now translated as criticism. And he saw how dangerous one short question, one subtle suggestion, can be.

That day, Jack hugged his mother and whispered:
“Mom, I see you now — with my own eyes, not through someone else’s words.”

The invisible wall began to fall.

💡 The Coaching Lesson

We do not live the life we have.
We live the life we give meaning to.

With a single word, we can change a beautiful state of mind into a scared, defensive one.

With a single suggestion, we can make love feel like judgment, and closeness feel like distance.

With a single question, we can build walls instead of bridges.

Why do people critique others?

Because they project their own fears or insecurities.

Because they want control or validation.

Because they are jealous or threatened.

Because they are unconscious of the weight of their words.

Why do we accept criticism so deeply?

Because of our sensitivity, our past wounds, or the meanings we’ve attached to those voices.

Because we forget to separate who we are from what people say.

How can we change it?

By becoming the guardian of our meaning.

By choosing to see love where love exists, instead of letting others plant doubt in our hearts.

By asking ourselves: “Is this really true, or is this someone else’s story trying to rewrite mine?”

✨ Final Thought for You

Criticism will always exist. Words will always fly. But you hold the power to choose the meaning.

Be the guardian of your meaning.
Protect your love, your peace, and your truth.
Because at the end of the day, life is not what happens to us — it’s what we make it mean. ❤️

07/26/2025

🧘‍♀️ Feeling anxious, tense, or disconnected?
Here’s a powerful breathing meditation that works in just a few minutes — even while lying down.

It’s not a nap.
It’s not sleep.
It’s energetic transformation.

This method uses 7 intentional breaths, pulling your energy from the root of your body all the way up to the top of your head…
And releasing stress, anxiety, and emotional blocks with every exhale.

✨ Breath 1 – Root to sacrum → release stress
✨ Breath 2 – Solar plexus → reclaim strength
✨ Breath 3 – Heart → soften into love
✨ Breath 4 – Throat → release fear of speaking
✨ Breath 5 – Mind → quiet mental noise
✨ Breath 6 – Pineal gland → awaken light
✨ Breath 7 – Crown → feel completely free

With each inhale (few seconds long), you gently contract your lower muscles and lift the energy upward…
Hold it at the top…
Then exhale fully — letting go.

You finish in a calm, expanded state.
Clear. Recharged. At peace.

💬 Want the full script to try this at home or guide your clients?

Drop a “YES” in the comments
or send me a message and I’ll share it with you. 💖

07/26/2025

The Secret Technique People Use to Feel Better—While Lying Down
(No meds. No doctor visits. Just deep relief.)

They’re not popping more pills.
They’re not running to the doctor every time pain flares up.
But somehow…

🌅 They wake up without stiffness
🌙 They sleep more peacefully
💆‍♂️ Chronic pain? It slowly fades away.

What’s their secret?
They’ve learned to listen to their body while it rests.

✨ Conscious Breathing
✨ Guided Visualization
✨ Subconscious Reprogramming

All while lying down, in total relaxation.
Not sleeping. Not napping.
Just using a gentle, powerful, science-backed method that works.

💫 Want to know how people are transforming their lives—just by lying down?

👇 Type "I WANT" in the comments or message me 514-663-0104

07/26/2025

Because I am here to guide You! :) Atomic Habits – Summary
Core Idea:
Small, consistent changes (atomic habits) compound over time into remarkable results. The key to long-term success is focusing on systems, not goals.

“You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.”

🔄 The 4 Laws of Behavior Change
To build a good habit, apply the 4 Laws:

1. Make it Obvious
Design your environment for success

Use habit stacking: “After [current habit], I will [new habit].”

Example: After brushing teeth, I’ll do 5 minutes of stretching.

2. Make it Attractive
Bundle a habit with something you enjoy (temptation bundling)

Surround yourself with people who embody your desired habits

3. Make it Easy
Reduce friction: Prepare your tools in advance

Use the 2-minute rule: Start with just 2 minutes of any habit

Example: Instead of “Go to the gym,” start with “Put on my running shoes”

4. Make it Satisfying
Celebrate small wins

Use visual cues (like habit trackers)

Positive reinforcement helps repetition

🧠 Identity-Based Habits
Instead of focusing on what you want to achieve, focus on who you want to become.

Bad: “I want to lose 10 pounds.”

Better: “I’m becoming a healthy, active person.”

“Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.”

📈 Compound Growth
Habits are the compound interest of self-improvement. Just like money multiplies through compound interest, the effects of your habits multiply over time.

1% better every day = ...x better in a year

Small changes are powerful when repeated consistently

🚫 Breaking Bad Habits (Use Inverse of the 4 Laws)
Make it Invisible – Remove triggers

Make it Unattractive – Reframe the benefits of quitting

Make it Difficult – Add friction, like password-locking apps

Make it Unsatisfying – Add accountability (public commitment, habit contracts)

✍️ Favorite Quotes
“Habits are the compound interest of self-improvement.”
“You should be far more concerned with your current trajectory than with your current results.”
“Be the designer of your world and not merely the consumer of it.”

🔧 Tools from the Book
Habit Tracker: Build momentum with visual progress

Implementation Intentions: Plan ahead (When/Where/How)

Habit Stacking: Link a new habit to an existing one

Environment Design: Make the cues for good habits obvious
Questions? I am just a message away! (514) 663-0104 With Love and Gratitude, Nicky

07/13/2025

🚀 3 Steps to Get Rapid Action Results
When you’re done overthinking, stuck spinning, and ready to move FAST.

✅ Step 1: Clarify Your Outcome
Don’t just get busy—get intentional.
Ask yourself: “What do I really want—and why does it matter?”
Your clarity is your compass. Without it, you’re just reacting.
🎯 Define ONE meaningful goal. Give it a deadline. Feel it in your body.

✅ Step 2: Reverse Engineer the Action Plan
Break your big dream into small, doable moves.
Ask: “What’s the first, easiest thing I can do that moves me forward?”
🔥 Use the “Power of 3” — 3 actions a day. That’s it.
Consistency wins, not complexity.

✅ Step 3: Anchor the Momentum
Rituals build results.
Create one daily habit that reconnects you to your WHY.
Breathe. Visualize. Move. Check in. Celebrate your progress.

💡 Your energy flows where your focus goes—so focus like a laser.

🎁 Want help applying this in real time? Message me: 514-663-0104
Book your free 30-min Fast-Track Clarity Call 👉 https://calendly.com/nikol_mtl/30min
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07/10/2025

💥 From Chaos to Calm: 4 Life-Changing Shifts to Break Free from Overwhelm, Guilt & Emotional Traps
Have you ever laid in bed at night thinking, “I can’t keep living like this”…
But then you wake up, put on your smile mask, and push through another day?

☕ Coffee. Emails. Pressure.
💬 Kids, coworkers, chaos.
😩 Anxiety, again.

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, emotionally drained, or trapped in your own head—you’re not broken.
You’re just overdue for a powerful reset.

❓ “How do I stop feeling overwhelmed and anxious all the time?”
Let’s start with this truth bomb: Anxiety isn’t who you are. It’s just a warning signal.

Your nervous system has been running on high alert for too long.
The deadlines, the overthinking, the people-pleasing—it adds up.

💡 What you need isn’t a vacation. It’s a new rhythm.
With just a few simple daily rituals (like breathwork, grounding, and what I call “emotional check-ins”), you can train your body to feel safe again.

Imagine starting your day with calm confidence instead of chaos.
Yes, it’s possible. I teach my clients how to regulate, not react.

❓ “How do I handle my emotions instead of letting them control me?”
Here’s a secret: You don’t need to suppress your emotions—you need to decode them.

Anger? It’s usually hiding a boundary being crossed.
Sadness? A need for connection or rest.
Anxiety? A fear of losing control.

When you learn to name your emotions and ask, “What do I really need right now?”—you stop being a victim of your mood and start becoming the master of your moment.

👑 You reclaim your power. One breath at a time.

❓ “How do I forgive myself for past decisions?”
Oof. This one hits deep, doesn’t it?

Here’s the truth: You were doing the best you could with what you knew at the time.
But your inner critic? She’s still playing the shame game. And it’s time to end that match.

Forgiveness isn’t weakness. It’s freedom.
When you forgive yourself, you stop bleeding energy into the past—and finally pour it into your future.

🎯 In Transformation LibreChoix, we don’t avoid the past—we reframe it so it fuels your growth.

❓ “How do I find peace when life feels chaotic?”
Peace isn’t a perfect schedule.
Peace is a practice.

Even if your world is loud, you can create a calm core—through rituals, routines, and mindset shifts that ground you in your values and vision.

✨ You don’t need to control everything. You just need to stay connected to you.

🔑 Ready for the Shift?
If you’re tired of surviving, pretending, or running on empty…

It’s time to reset your nervous system, your mindset, and your emotional power.
That’s what we do inside Transformation LibreChoix—my signature coaching program for professionals 40+ who are ready to reclaim clarity, calm, and control.

💬 Want to talk? Message? Sure! (514) 663-0104
Book your free 30-min Clarity Call here 👉 https://calendly.com/nikol_mtl/30min
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💛 You’re not too late. You’re right on time for your transformation.

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07/10/2025

🔥 Feeling Stuck? Here’s How to Reinvent Yourself—Professionally and Personally
You’ve done everything right—career, responsibilities, family…
But now you’re standing still, asking:
👉 “Is this all there is?”
👉 “How do I reinvent myself when I feel so stuck?”

Let me tell you something real:
You’re not broken. You’re just overdue for a breakthrough.

Here are 3 simple, powerful actions to start your reinvention today:

✅ 1. Get radically honest with yourself.
What’s draining you? What are you tolerating that no longer fits?
Clarity begins when you stop lying to yourself about what's “fine.”

✅ 2. Rewrite your identity.
You’re not just a job title or a role. Who do you want to be?
Start speaking and acting as that future version of you—today.

✅ 3. Create your Power Ritual.
A new life begins with new energy.
Start with one habit that grounds you—journaling, movement, prayer, breathwork—and make it non-negotiable.

🎯 If you’re ready to break free and become who you really are—
Book your free 30-min Clarity Call with me now 👉 https://calendly.com/nikol_mtl/30min

💬 Let’s talk about your reinvention. I’ve helped professionals over 40 do it—and you’re next.

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✨ It’s not too late. It’s your time now.

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