Intuitive Compassionate Awareness for Rejuvenation-Expression with Soleila

03/13/2024

03/13/2024

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05/01/2022

The glorification of busy will destroy us. Without space for healing, without time for reflection, without an opportunity to surrender, we risk a complete disconnect from the authentic self. We burn out on the fuels of wilfulness, and eventually cannot find our way back to center. And when we lose contact with our core, we are ripe for the picking by the unconscious media and other market forces. After all, consumerism preys on the uncentered. The farther we are from our intuitive knowing, the more easily manipulated we are. The more likely we are to make decisions and affix to goals that don’t serve our healing and transformation. To combat this, we have to form the conscious intention to prioritize our inner life. To notice our breath, our bodies, our feelings. To step back from the fires of overwhelm and remember ourselves. It may feel counter-intuitive in a culture that is speed-addicted, but the slower we move, the faster our return home.

—Jeff Brown

art | Harry Watson (1871-1936) Girl in a Tree

09/22/2021

Before it has anything to do with s*x, families can create a consent-conscious home by how they interact with each other in many different ways:

❇️ “May I take a picture of/with you?”
❇️ “Would you like a hug?”
❇️ “Can I have a bite of your snack?”
❇️ “Is it okay if I tell ___ what you shared with me?”
❇️ “Would you like help with that?”
❇️ “They said stop, so that’s enough.”
❇️ “May I post this picture online for others to see?”
❇️ “Can I borrow your...?”
❇️ “No? Okay, I respect that.”

Some may argue, “why do I have to ask permission from a child?” or “they’re MY child, and until they’re on their own in this world, they do what I say.” Thoughts such as this are what make children accustomed to being controlled by another, operating out of a sense of obligation, and less able to assertively communicate their needs or boundaries without fear. It essentially grooms them to be victims or oppressors within abusive relationships.

A few sound exceptions are when children are in stages of earlier development or require caregivers to make full decisions on their behalf. In those cases, the leading phrase before an action is performed may sound more like, “I’m going to...,” as a way of walking through intentions with open communication. Then paying attention to non-verbal cues is important, being ready to make adjustments or stop as needed in response.

When we don’t seek consent, we assume another person’s feelings, wants and needs. We send the message that our will and desire is more important than theirs.

Raising children who become adults that understand consent, respect, and healthy boundaries means creating a home culture where the necessary skills and communication are consistently practiced, long before it has anything to do with s*x.

⭐️ For resources to support the talks at every stage, visit s*xpositivefamilies.com.

09/06/2021

✨Expected Death ~ When someone dies, the first thing to do is nothing. Don't run out and call the nurse. Don't pick up the phone. Take a deep breath and be present to the magnitude of the moment.

There's a grace to being at the bedside of someone you love as they make their transition out of this world. At the moment they take their last breath, there's an incredible sacredness in the space. The veil between the worlds opens.

We're so unprepared and untrained in how to deal with death that sometimes a kind of panic response kicks in. "They're dead!"

We knew they were going to die, so their being dead is not a surprise. It's not a problem to be solved. It's very sad, but it's not cause to panic.

If anything, their death is cause to take a deep breath, to stop, and be really present to what's happening. If you're at home, maybe put on the kettle and make a cup of tea.

Sit at the bedside and just be present to the experience in the room. What's happening for you? What might be happening for them? What other presences are here that might be supporting them on their way? Tune into all the beauty and magic.

Pausing gives your soul a chance to adjust, because no matter how prepared we are, a death is still a shock. If we kick right into "do" mode, and call 911, or call the hospice, we never get a chance to absorb the enormity of the event.

Give yourself five minutes or 10 minutes, or 15 minutes just to be. You'll never get that time back again if you don't take it now.

After that, do the smallest thing you can. Call the one person who needs to be called. Engage whatever systems need to be engaged, but engage them at the very most minimal level. Move really, really, really, slowly, because this is a period where it's easy for body and soul to get separated.

Our bodies can gallop forwards, but sometimes our souls haven't caught up. If you have an opportunity to be quiet and be present, take it. Accept and acclimatize and adjust to what's happening. Then, as the train starts rolling, and all the things that happen after a death kick in, you'll be better prepared.

You won't get a chance to catch your breath later on. You need to do it now.

Being present in the moments after death is an incredible gift to yourself, it's a gift to the people you're with, and it's a gift to the person who's just died. They're just a hair's breadth away. They're just starting their new journey in the world without a body. If you keep a calm space around their body, and in the room, they're launched in a more beautiful way. It's a service to both sides of the veil.

Credit for the beautiful words ~ Sarah Kerr, Ritual Healing Practitioner and Death Doula , Death doula
Her original video link is here ~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q7mG0ZAym0w

Beautiful art by Columbus Community Deathcare
Always With Love

07/30/2021

So True!