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03/08/2022

A reminder to be kind with ourselves.

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12/09/2018

Great video about arguing and resolving conflicts by a master in the field: Esther Perel.

Belgian psychotherapist and relationship expert Esther Perel talks about why and how couples fight in this episode of Scandinavian talk show Skavlan. More Sk...

12/04/2018

Wise words guiding us to be in the eternal now.

STEP BY STEP

Take the focus off the 10,000 steps yet to come, the 10,000 steps you have not yet taken, the 10,000 things that are missing in your life right now.

Just remember this single present step, this ancient living ground, this eternal Now, and your own intimate presence.

Breathe. Feel the life of the body.

Breathe again.

Often we don’t know where we are headed, and that's perfectly okay.

Befriend any uncertainty, doubt, trepidation that you feel now; learn to love this holy place of “no answers yet”. It is alive, and creative, and full of potential.

No answers today! But a wide open heart. And a curious awareness.

Moment by moment, breath by breath, let the answers step towards you.

- Jeff Foster

05/17/2018

An interesting distinction.

Is egocentric the same as narcissistic? Learn what it means to be egocentric, signs to look for and what to do if you or a loved one is egocentric.

05/10/2018

Daily appreciation rituals can make a big difference.

Daily rituals keep the sense of connection strong in marriage and assure that romance, affection, and appreciation are a part of your married life every day.

03/09/2018

Sulking: Failing to Explain Ourselves So often in romantic relationships, we can get into trouble with one another by expecting our romantic partner to read our minds. In the early part of getting to know each other this tactic may work much to our surprise as we are discovering all of the things we have in common. Unfortunately, as the following… [ 209 more words ]

Sulking: Failing to Explain Ourselves So often in romantic relationships, we can get into trouble with one another by expecting our romantic partner to read our minds. In the early part of getting to know each other this tactic may work much to our surprise as we are discovering all of the things we...

12/20/2017

Let yourself receive this LOVE

THE KIND OF LOVE YOU DESERVE

More than anything, we long to be seen.
To be held in a safe, nonjudgemental, all-accepting presence.
To be seen through loving eyes.

And ‘being seen’ is what we fear the most.
More than death, we fear intimacy's piercing gaze.

And yearn for it all the same.

It takes such courage to show yourself!
To take off your mask, when you look and feel your worst to take off your mask (the one that was suffocating you anyway) and to say, "Look. Look. Here I am, world".

To let yourself be seen
before you're ready.

When you feel the most rotten, the most dirty, the most wretched and unloveable, the most unevolved, the most boring, the most confused and lonely and broken and sad and angry and hurt, to let yourself be seen there.
There, in that sore, shameful place.

Let light in.
Come out of hiding and invite someone into your 'private' world.
Let them witness the real, authentic you.
Before that pitiful defence called 'personality'.

Say, "Look. Look, friend. Here I am".

Take the risk of being loved!

The risk of being rejected, yes.
The risk of being shamed again, laughed at again, ridiculed again, maybe.
The risk of being seen as a failure. As sick, or broken, or ugly, or weak.

But the risk of being loved?

Yes. Take the risk today because life is short, and it's exhausting trying to repress your authentic self. Let yourself be witnessed in the raw. The vulnerable you. The you without protection, without answers, without expertise. The imperfect you.

Because the deepest shame is only healed in love's light.

And your flaws were always longing to be touched with an awareness so tender that it would birth entire universes to find itself.

And you can fall now into the arms of a loving friend.
Who will hold you.
Naked. Unprotected. Imperfect.

Loveable.
Just as you are.

This is the kind of love you deserve.
True human love which is also God's love.
The kind of love that bathes you in gentleness when you feel the most ashamed, the most frightened, the most lost.
When you feel the smallest.

A huge love that holds you.

Never settle for less.

- Jeff Foster

01/06/2017

Happy New Year 2017! Congratulations! 2017 You made it! No small feat. A lot of people, many of them rich and famous are not so fortunate. Now that we've made it, now what are we going to do? It might be helpful to take a moment and take stock of certain things, things that we can hopefully be grateful for: [ 323 more words ]

http://www.ronlafleurcounsellingservices.com/optimism/welcome-to-2017/

Happy New Year! What if 2017 were the year in which we all discovered gratitude in a big way? You can experiment and see what a difference it might make.

11/25/2016

Sustenance for the Journey

Responding with Love and Courage In a healthy response to pain and fear, we establish awareness before it becomes anger. We can train ourselves to notice the gap between the moments of sense experience and the subsequent response. Because of the particle-like nature of consciousness, we can enter th...

06/16/2016

Vulnerability Makes The Difference!

http://www.ronlafleurcounsellingservices.com/relationships/vulnerability-makes-the-difference/

05/05/2016

Blame: Love Goes Astray Arguably one of the most destructive forces in a relationship is BLAME. The problem with blame is that it projects negative energy and intent at our loved one. Blame rarely seeks to understand or empathize or reach out in compassion. It is most likened to this familiar phrase: The best defense is a good offense! [ 593 more words. ]

http://www.ronlafleurcounsellingservices.com/couples-counselling/blame-relationship-killer/

Blame can be one of the most destructive energies in romantic and everyday relationships. Find out how blame may be affecting you and what you can do.