10/31/2025
Delayed Grief
Delayed grief occurs when grievers are unable to respond to the changes that occur following a significant loss. The difficulty may be related to diminished emotional or cognitive capacity or factors in everyday life that interfere with the process of grieving.
Examples of significant loss include: trauma associated with the loss of a child, loss from su***de or murder, or multiple losses within a short period of time. These losses are often too much for grievers to bear, causing them to engage in protective mechanisms to avoid the pain and suffering they are experiencing.
If normal grieving is prevented from happening, some symptoms that may occur include: frequent periods of physical exhaustion, poor concentration, disorganization and a gradual withdrawal from social activities. The happiness a griever once found in joyful and fun activities may no longer be there for them and is often replaced by negative self-thinking and emotions.
It’s important to face the emotions and feelings that accompany grief. In order for a griever to access healing resources within, stories of sadness must be told. Finding a non-judgmental listener is a great place to begin. Additionally, self-care is of the upmost importance during this period. Some examples of activities that will stimulate the body’s happy hormones include: rest and sleep, healthy and enjoyable food, adequate water intake, regular exercise, time in nature, sunshine, laughter and music.
Once grief is acknowledged, it is important that the griever doesn’t delay facing their loss and that they embrace the feelings they are experiencing. In doing so, they will be able to process the impact of this loss, come to an understanding of their new reality and ultimately begin their journey towards healing.
Bertha Brannen
Grief Recovery Specialist
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