03/04/2026
If you’ve ever wondered whether your suffering means you’re doing something wrong… this is for you.
So many people carry quiet shame when hard things happen. Not because they failed — but because they were taught to look for fault instead of support.
For a long time, I believed versions of this too. For a while, when something painful happened, I wondered what in me caused it.
But over years of working with people, watching really kind, or young, or wise people have “bad” things happen to them, I started to lose faith in that world order. Unpacking my bias and delving into decolonization helped me see the underlying problem with that kind of thinking.
I can say with 💯 confidence that I’ve never seen shame or blame help people heal. Everything is energy, vibration, sure (Im a big fan of energy healing, things like acupuncture and Reiki). I’m just no longer convinced that “transcendence” thinking is the way to be better humans here in these bodies that feel…
You’re not broken.�And you were never meant to carry pain alone.