Renée Willis: Freed & On Fire

12/12/2025

Let’s change emotional immature with unhealthy. The breadcrumbs one many will relate. 🧠❤️‍🩹

Travelling with you with all the healthy love,
Renee

12/12/2025

This one I can love more. And the thing that blows, my mind is that we were all kids, and we all know how it felt when our parents made us feel a certain way, and that still is with us to this day any struggles that we have or in any intrusive thoughts that we believe something negative about herself all goes back to when we were little so we gotta realize that our brains do not fully developed until we’re 28 years old. And so many of us adults are walking around and not emotionally regulated and then we expect a child to act like a healthy adult when most of us are not healthy and if we were healthy, we would have reasonable expectations for my child knowing that they do not have the skills yet and there to be developed and it takes time and that children will have uncomfortable emotions because their normal healthy humans and the goal is not for them to act like they’re happy all the time and perfect all the time because if they did, they are robots and disconnected from their ability to feel because you’re too afraid of how we are going to react.

Travelling with you with all the healthy love ,
Renee

A big part of parenting is reminding ourselves not to make a child feel bad…
for being a child.

It sounds obvious, but in real life it’s surprisingly easy to forget.
We get tired.
We get overstimulated.
We’re juggling a thousand things at once,
and suddenly their noise, their mess, their emotions, their slowness,
feels bigger than it actually is.

And because we’re human, it’s easy to expect maturity they simply don’t have yet.
Babies will cry.
Toddlers will unravel.
Children will push limits.
Teenagers will be moody.
Not because they’re trying to make our lives harder,
but because their brains, boundaries, and emotional skills are all still under construction.

And that’s where we slip sometimes —
when our expectations run ahead of their development.
When we forget they’re still learning impulse control,
still learning regulation,
still learning how to communicate needs they don’t fully understand.

This doesn’t mean we avoid boundaries.
It doesn’t mean we excuse hurtful behaviour.
Guidance still matters — limits, correction, repair, all of it.
But HOW we give that guidance matters just as much.

Instead of shaming,
we teach.
Instead of taking it personally,
we stay curious.
Instead of assuming they “should know better,”
we remember they’re practicing being human, not performing it perfectly.

We don’t have to get this right every time — none of us do.
But noticing when our expectations are bigger than their capacity
is one of the kindest things we can offer them…
and ourselves.

They’re not giving us a hard time.
Most of the time, they’re just having one. ❤️

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12/12/2025

And watch out for oh I’m just joking or you’re being too silly comments back. People need to be held responsible for the things that come out of their mouth. And if it’s not kind and is not helpful, then they need to ask themselves. Why did they want to say something to make somebody feel bad about themselves? It’s important to redirect back this kind of a question saying something like when you said blah blah blah it made me feel blah blah blah and why did you want me to feel that way? Why did you want me to think that way what was your intention?

Travelling with you with all the healthy love,
Renee

12/12/2025

Tis the season to emotionally regulate. Make sure eat well, sleep well, take care of physical health and not feel lonely because if one of these are off, we go ‘off’ the handle 😎😊🧠🤓😁

Travelling with you with all the healthy love,
Renee

12/12/2025

Healthy, healthy and yep, healthy! (Big 😊)

Healthy love,
Renee

Signs You Are Self-Validating

12/11/2025

Do you have questions?

Travelling with you with all the healthy love,
Renee

12/11/2025

I had a random conversation a few days ago when I overhead someone talk to their friend about their eye twitching. She thought it was dry eyes. I decided to lean into her conversation and tell her it’s about the nervous system and how it’s ’freaking out’ because she is going too much and likely juggling so many balls for a long time, not balanced, running on empty with little or no support. Her jaw dropped. And said that she has never been ‘seen’ like that before.

Pay attention, and learn to pivot.

Travelling with you either way all the healthy love,
Renee

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12/11/2025

I do not get anything from making a suggestion to get this for you and your partner. A great Christmas present!!

Ask great questions to get great feelings.

Travelling with you with all the healthy love,
Renee

12/11/2025

There are many variables and we now have a new area of religious trauma.

Travelling with you with all the healthy love,
Renee

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12/11/2025

12/10/2025

Real talk: those that have healthy supports when there are trauma moments, tend not get ptsd. Those that get ptsd, are those of us that were not supported in healthy ways; we had no safe place, no safe person.

Travelling with you with all the healthy love,
Renee

They love to praise our resilience. But the truth us that resilience is not born from suffering. It’s born from support. From safety. From being held when we fall apart.

Without that?
What we develop isn’t resilience—it’s trauma. Adaptation to harm. Survival-mode in disguise.

So if you’re exhausted from always being the strong one… if your coping has turned into isolation… please hear this: you were never meant to do this alone.

Ask for help. Lean. Let someone else carry the weight with you. That, too, is strength.
꩜ Ella