Barb Anderson MSW

04/22/2025

Thanks so much everyone for the birthday wishes and messages. I appreciate them all. Getting older is better with friends that’s for sure! Grateful for all of you!

06/10/2024

06/01/2020

Traditional masculinity kills intimacy and also women’s desire.

Patriarchy was never built for intimacy, but for stability, clear lineage, production, and consumption. The idea of lasting romance in marriage is historically brand new. And if we’re honest, it’s an ideal that has been driven primarily and most emphatically by women.

05/08/2020

In RLT, we focus on the internal states. We ask the question, "Which part of you is speaking?" Is it the mature, present-based part, which wants a solution, or the immature-child part, which wants to be proven right, control his or her partner, or vent frustration, anger, contempt, and self righteousness?

04/26/2020

Covid19 may be stressing out partners if so have a look at this.

“No one is perfect at expressing their feelings all of the time. As stress levels rise, experts say couples can use these tips to improve their communication skills during conflict. https://t.co/smjet9uEFO”

04/26/2020

These are troubling times. I am offering sessions by phone and online through the pandemic and you can reach me by email to book an appointment. Stay safe we will get through this.

04/26/2020

Wonderful way to transform a relationship.

Treat your spouse with the same level of politeness you would afford, like, any other human being

02/25/2019

I talk more about this wound, and the divide between masculine and feminine, in my webinar "Patriarchy Now:" https://www.terryreal.com/patriarchy-now-webinar-replay/

01/23/2019

https://www.facebook.com/506223117/posts/10157055403733118/

When it comes to phrases that count in relationships, "I love you" gets all the love. Here are three others that are just as important for your partner to hear.

12/15/2018

I love this wonderful woman.

From the New Yorker Festival, the couples therapist and podcast host discusses infidelity, apologies, and the problem with wedding vows these days.

11/26/2018

So very true. Be generous with your partner. Fill their need and bring them back to harmony with you.

Repair, and moving back into harmony, requires you to focus on what your partner needs. This isn't a time for you to air your own complaints or issues. It's a one-way street.
Remember that it's in your best interest to repair things.

05/31/2018

Wonderful therapist Esther.

Each episode of Perel’s riveting new podcast, “Where Should We Begin?,” is a recording of a real, unscripted consultation session with a real couple.