05/19/2025
Telling women to be “flexible” in their birth plans is just priming them for sabotage.
In the system, it’s rare to hear anything truly supportive. Instead, women are told to stay open to all outcomes, that birth is unpredictable, and that their plan might have to go out the window.
Let’s be honest—that’s not support. That’s conditioning. Conditioning women to hand over their instincts, their vision, their power, the moment it becomes inconvenient.
Here’s an entirely alternate perspective: your body was made for this. You can call in the birth you desire. You are the co-creator of this experience.
Undisturbed physiological birth isn’t some outlier miracle, it’s the norm when you’re left alone. Your body knows what it’s doing. The risk is not in you, it’s in the interference.
Most providers, even with good intentions, have been trained to take over. To manage, to rescue, to control. And often, they end up creating the very problems they swoop in to fix.
Birth plans inside the system don’t offer protection. They’re symbolic. They’re meant to make women feel like they’re in charge, while the system still holds the power.
So why focus on preparing for compromise?
Spend your pregnancy building the reality you do want. Trust your body. Love on your baby. Fill your world with people who believe in you.
You don’t need a printed plan to claim your birth. It’s already yours.
✨ If you’re ready to step outside the system and prepare for a sovereign birth, I offer 1:1 coaching for women planning a freebirth and those healing from medicalized births. Reach out—I’d be honoured to walk beside you.
