St. Stephen Seniors Complex

St. Stephen Seniors Complex We are a Special Care home that assist in personal care and medication, cleaning and laundry and pro

Happy Birthday to Bonita Elliot …. Bonnie is 65 years young todayπŸ‘πŸΎπŸ•πŸŽŠπŸŽ‰πŸŽ‚
01/22/2026

Happy Birthday to Bonita Elliot …. Bonnie is 65 years young todayπŸ‘πŸΎπŸ•πŸŽŠπŸŽ‰πŸŽ‚

Happy Belated birthday to Margaret (Maggie) Richard …. Maggie was 84 years young on the 18th of January πŸŽ‰πŸŽŠπŸ«ΆπŸ»πŸ‘β€οΈ
01/22/2026

Happy Belated birthday to Margaret (Maggie) Richard …. Maggie was 84 years young on the 18th of January πŸŽ‰πŸŽŠπŸ«ΆπŸ»πŸ‘β€οΈ

Happy Belated Birthday to Ernest David Defazio …..David was 66 years young on Jan 15/26πŸŽŠπŸŽ‰πŸ•πŸ«ΆπŸ»β€οΈπŸŽ‚
01/22/2026

Happy Belated Birthday to Ernest David Defazio …..
David was 66 years young on Jan 15/26πŸŽŠπŸŽ‰πŸ•πŸ«ΆπŸ»β€οΈπŸŽ‚

Happy Belated Birthday to George Watson , he was 81 years young on Jan 6/26 πŸŽ‰πŸŽŠπŸ‘πŸ«ΆπŸ»πŸŽ‚
01/22/2026

Happy Belated Birthday to George Watson , he was 81 years young on Jan 6/26 πŸŽ‰πŸŽŠπŸ‘πŸ«ΆπŸ»πŸŽ‚

01/22/2026
01/17/2026

The terrible truth I learned in a hospital ER is that for an elderly person, sitting in a favorite recliner is like sitting on a concrete block.

I didn't understand that until 3:47 AM on a Tuesday, when my phone rang with my mom's nursing home saying she needed to go to the ER immediately.

Not a fall. Not a stroke.

A pressure sore. Stage 3.

I'll never forget the ER doctor pulling back the bandage.

The wound was the size of a baseball, deep enough that I could see... I can't even write it.

My hands were shaking so hard I had to sit down.

"How long has she been sitting in that recliner?" he asked, not unkindly.

"She loves that chair," I whispered. "It's the one thing she has left that's hers. She sits there watching her shows, looking out the window. It's where she's comfortable."

He nodded slowly. "I understand. But you need to know something about elderly skin."

What he told me in the next three minutes changed everything I thought I knew about keeping my mom safe.
He said when we age, we lose the natural padding in our buttocks. The fat layer that used to cushion our tailbone and sit bones disappears.

"Your mother is essentially sitting bone-on-surface now," he explained. "And here's what most people don't realize..."

He pulled up a diagram on his tablet.

"When an elderly person sits on a regular cushion, even a thick, expensive one, their body weight creates pressure points on those bones. The cushion compresses down to almost nothing under those specific spots. It's physics."

I thought about all the cushions I'd bought. The memory foam one from Amazon. The gel one from Walgreens. The "orthopedic" one I'd spent $60 on.

She'd complained they all "went flat" or "got hard" after a while.

I thought she was just being picky.

"But it feels soft when I touch it," I said weakly.

"Touch it with your finger. Now imagine 130 pounds concentrated on a two-inch area of bone, for eight hours a day. The foam compresses completely. The gel spreads out to the sides. And underneath? Bone on chair. Bone on concrete."

He drew a simple diagram. "Blood flow gets cut off. Skin dies. Tissue dies. You get what we're treating tonight."

My throat closed up.

This was my fault.

I'd been putting bandaids on a problem I didn't understand.

I'd been Googling "best cushion for elderly" and buying whatever had good reviews, thinking soft meant safe.

I spent the next week in what I call my "dark education."

While Mom was in the hospital getting wound care twice a dayβ€”I cannot describe what that looked like, but she cried, and I criedβ€”I researched pressure injuries like my life depended on it.

I learned that 95% of pressure sores are preventable. That number haunted me.

I learned that hospitals use special "pressure redistribution" mattresses that cost $5,000+ because they understand this physics problem.

They don't just add MORE padding.

They actually redistribute weight away from bone.

I learned that the most dangerous thing you can do is use a soft cushion that compresses, because it tricks you into thinking there's protection when there isn't.

I found an article written by a wound care nurse. She said something that made me stop scrolling at 2:30 AM:

"Foam cushions bottom out. They feel soft to the touch but provide zero protection under sustained weight. The person might as well be sitting on the floor."

I thought about Mom's favorite cushion. How I'd squeeze it and think, "This is soft, this is good."

How I'd never thought to sit on it for eight hours and check if it still felt soft then.

I started calling wound care specialists. Physical therapists. Occupational therapists.

One OT finally explained it in a way that made sense:

"You need something that works like water," she said. "When you put your hand in water, the water moves around your hand. It supports every surface area equally. No pressure points. That's what medical-grade gel technology does, it flows and redistributes."

"But I bought a gel cushion," I said. "It didn't work."

"Was it actually gel? Or was it gel-infused memory foam?" she asked.

"Because those are completely different. Gel-infused foam still compresses. What you need is a cushion where the gel itself is the structure. Grid technology. Honeycomb cells that collapse and distribute."

I felt something shift in my chest. A tiny crack of hope.

This was the thing nobody had told me. The thing that wasn't in any of the Amazon reviews.

When Mom came home three weeks later, with a wound that would take four more months to heal, I had transformed her chair.

Not with another foam cushion.

With a medical-grade gel cushion that used what they called "column-buckling technology."

When weight presses down, the gel columns collapse and spread the pressure outward, like water. It doesn't compress flat. It can't bottom out.

The OT who assessed Mom said, "This is what we use in rehab. This is the real thing."

The first day, Mom sat for two hours while I watched her like a hawk, terrified.

When she stood up, I checked. No red marks. None.

I cried in the bathroom for ten minutes.

It's been eight months now.

Mom still sits in her recliner every day, watching her shows, looking out at the birds. She can have that dignity. That small joy.

But now I can breathe.

I check her skin every evening, that's my new ritual, and she tolerates it because she knows, and there's nothing.

Pink, healthy skin. No red marks. No breakdown.

The wound care nurse who comes monthly now just for monitoring said last week, "Whatever you're doing, keep doing it. This is exactly what prevention looks like."

I wish someone had explained this to me two years ago.

I wish I'd understood that "pressure redistribution" isn't marketing speak… it's physics.

It's the difference between protecting skin and destroying it.

I wish I'd known that the $30 foam cushion, no matter how thick, was never going to work.

Because foam compresses under sustained weight. That's what foam does.

I wish I'd known that elderly bodies need medical-grade solutions, not consumer-grade comfort products.

But mostly, I wish I'd understood sooner that my mom's body had changed, and what used to be comfortable, a regular cushion, a regular chair, had become dangerous.

If you're reading this and your parent spends hours in a chair every day…

If you've noticed red marks, or they complain their cushion "went flat," or you keep buying new cushions hoping the next one will work…

If you're feeling that low-grade panic I lived with for months, that sense that something isn't right but you don't know what to do…

Please understand what I learned at 3 AM in that hospital:

Soft doesn't mean safe.

Thick doesn't mean protective.

"Gel-infused" doesn't mean actual gel technology.

Your parent's bones need something that redistributes pressure, not something that just compresses under their weight. They need what hospitals use, scaled down for home.

Because 95% of pressure sores are preventable. But only if you understand what you're actually trying to prevent.

I learned that the hard way. You don't have to.

01/08/2026

Due to the urgent nature of this matter and the lack of a timely response, I am reaching out through all available avenues. Susan Holt

Dear Premier Holt,

I am writing to you from the Doctor Everett Chalmers Hospital in the middle of the night, sitting beside my 88-year-old grandmother as she lies confused, frightened, and utterly vulnerable. She does not know where she is. She does not understand what is happening to her. I wish this letter were an exaggeration born of exhaustion, but every word that follows is true.

My name is Katarina Lekborg. I am 31 years old. I am a registered nurse living and working in Fredericton. Tonight, I am also a granddaughter watching the health-care system fail someone who has given her entire life to this community.

My grandmother, Theresa, is nearly 89. She has lived her whole life in Fredericton. She raised eight children who went on to serve this province as engineers, nurses, and RCMP officers. She spent 62 years married to the love of her life before losing him during the pandemic. She has lived with dignity and quiet strength, until this week.

On Friday, she became acutely ill. She slipped into delirium so severe she did not recognize her own daughter. What followed was not care, it was a maze. Delays. Barriers. Desperation. Family members scrambling, begging, advocating, trying to access timely medical attention that simply was not there.

Now she lies uncomfortably on a stretcher in what is called the β€œMTU.”

Premier Holt, I need to be honest: this is not a unit. It is legitimately the garage with curtains.

There is no bathroom. No running water. No sink to wash hands. She eats inches from the commode she must use to relieve herself. There is no privacy, a tattered curtain with holes. No doors. The lights are relentless, on all day and all night. There are no windows, no way to tell the time of day. Paper thin β€œwalls”; the noise never stops.

She is confused. She is a fall risk. She is elderly. She is lying on a stretcher that only increases her risk for falls and entrapment.

As a registered nurse, I was trained in the fundamentals of safe, ethical and compassionate care. These conditions violate them all. This environment is unsafe, unethical, and unhygienic. It places patients at heightened risk of infection, injury, and cognitive decline. It is disorienting to a healthy person, let alone someone in delirium.

This is not health care.
This is not dignity.
This is not acceptable.

I understand our health-care system is broken and strained. I have worked as an RN for the past eight years and I know the system all too well. I understand difficult decisions must be made. But the MTU is not a solution, it is concealment. It is hallway medicine hidden behind temporary β€œwalls”. It does not fix overcrowding, it institutionalizes it.

Immediate action is required. This β€œunit” should not exist as an option for admitted patients, especially not our elderly, our confused, our most vulnerable.

Tonight, this is my grandmother’s reality, and through curtains that falsely promise privacy, I hear the suffering of others just like her. The hopelessness is debilitating. The pain is immeasurable.

This demands immediate action. Every day of inaction allows preventable suffering to continue, and no family should have to ask how their government allowed this to become acceptable. No nurse should be forced to work without the resources needed to provide safe care, expected to perform the impossible while patients pay the price. Healthcare is governed by a fundamental duty, do no harm. What is happening now is harm. This is not care. It is a systemic failure.

Sincerely,
Katarina Lekborg, RN

Happy 71st Birthday to Joanne Pauley who is 71 years young todayπŸŽŠπŸŽ‰πŸŽ‚β€οΈ
01/05/2026

Happy 71st Birthday to Joanne Pauley who is 71 years young todayπŸŽŠπŸŽ‰πŸŽ‚β€οΈ

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Thank you Jonas Bell and Connor McLaughlin for entertaining the residents of SSSC tonight πŸ‘πŸ‘

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