Angela Geddes Integrative Support and Wellness

Angela Geddes Integrative Support and Wellness Providing customized Social Work assessment and support services for people with complicated emotional, and sometimes behavioural and learning challenges.

We are aiming for clarity and helping people to live their best lives.

Let’s be like Lacey. Heading into 2026 - jumping right in…. running in circles in wide open spaces … slightly confused w...
01/01/2026

Let’s be like Lacey. Heading into 2026 - jumping right in…. running in circles in wide open spaces … slightly confused with so may places to go and so little time, but filled with passion, hope, opportunity and enthusiasm. Follow me for more of Lacey’s life tips.

We do functional assessments within our scope of practice that families are finding game changing…. and work with other ...
12/28/2025

We do functional assessments within our scope of practice that families are finding game changing…. and work with other disciplines to help build comprehensive assessments that provide diagnostic clarity for a variety of conditions including . This post is worth a share. I see the weight lift off peoples shoulders weekly when they realize that their challenges are organic and not their fault.

When Silence Becomes the Story a Child Tells About Themselves

At first glance, this image feels heavy. Not dramatic, not loud, just heavy in a way that settles slowly in the chest. It challenges a belief many people hold with good intentions: that avoiding labels will protect a child. That if we do not name a difference, the child will not feel different. But the truth this image exposes is uncomfortable and deeply important. Children always notice. They notice long before adults are ready to talk about it.

Not giving a child language for their experience does not erase the experience. It only changes the story they tell themselves about why they are struggling.

Children Notice Long Before They Understand

A child does not need a diagnosis to realize something feels off. They notice when they are corrected more often than others. They notice when tasks that seem easy for classmates feel exhausting to them. They notice when they are told to try harder, behave better, focus more, calm down, or stop being so sensitive.

They may not have the words for it, but they feel the difference in their body and mind. They feel it when routines overwhelm them. They feel it when attention slips despite effort. They feel it when emotions come faster, louder, or heavier than expected. Silence does not protect them from this awareness. Silence simply leaves them alone with it.

When There Is No Explanation, the Mind Creates One

The image makes a painful but honest point. When a child is not given a framework to understand their struggles, they will still reach a conclusion. The human mind does not tolerate unanswered questions for long, especially a child’s mind.

If no one explains that their brain works differently, the explanation often becomes personal and cruel. Instead of thinking, “I am struggling because my brain processes things differently,” the child begins to think, “I am struggling because something is wrong with me.”

This is where shame quietly takes root. Not because the child is weak, but because they are trying to make sense of their world with limited information.

The Difference Between a Label and an Identity

Many adults fear that a diagnosis will define a child. That it will limit them or make them feel broken. But what often happens in the absence of explanation is far worse. The child still forms an identity, but it is one built on blame.

Words like lazy, difficult, annoying, dramatic, careless, or unmotivated slowly replace curiosity and compassion. These words may never be spoken out loud, but they are felt. And once they are internalized, they shape how a child sees themselves far into adulthood.

A diagnosis, when handled with care, does not reduce a child to a label. It gives context. It separates who the child is from what they are struggling with.

Growing Up Without Language for Your Experience

Many adults who discover their ADHD or other neurodevelopmental differences later in life describe a similar grief. Not because of the diagnosis itself, but because of everything that came before it. Years of self-criticism. Years of wondering why effort never seemed to equal results. Years of believing they were fundamentally flawed.

They often say the same thing: “If I had known earlier, I would have been kinder to myself.”

This image speaks directly to that reality. It reminds us that children grow into adults, and the stories they tell themselves do not disappear with age. They simply get quieter, more ingrained, and harder to challenge.

Understanding Changes the Direction of Shame

When a child understands that their brain works differently, something important shifts. Struggle becomes information instead of evidence of failure. Support becomes appropriate instead of reactive. Accommodations become tools instead of rewards.

Most importantly, the child learns that difficulty does not equal defect.

This does not mean the struggle disappears. It means the child does not have to carry it alone or turn it inward. They learn that needing help is not a moral failing. They learn that difference does not equal inferiority.

The Cost of Waiting Too Long

Waiting to name a difference often comes from love and fear. Fear of stigma. Fear of judgment. Fear of limiting potential. But the cost of waiting is rarely neutral. The cost is often internalized self-blame.

Children are remarkably good at adapting, but adaptation without understanding often looks like masking. They hide confusion. They suppress needs. They overcompensate. On the surface, they may seem fine. Inside, they are working twice as hard to appear normal.

By the time support arrives, the child may already believe they are the problem.

Reframing the Meaning of Diagnosis

A diagnosis is not a sentence. It is a map. It does not tell a child who they are; it helps explain how they experience the world. When framed properly, it can be empowering rather than limiting.

It allows adults to adjust expectations instead of increasing pressure. It allows educators to teach differently instead of punishing difference. It allows parents to respond with curiosity instead of frustration.

And for the child, it offers something invaluable: relief. Relief that there is a reason. Relief that they are not alone. Relief that they are not broken.

What This Image Is Really Warning Us About

This image is not arguing that every child must be labeled immediately or carelessly. It is warning against silence without support. Against the belief that avoiding hard conversations spares children from hard feelings.

Children do not need perfect explanations. They need honest ones. They need language that matches their lived experience. They need to know that struggle does not mean they are unlovable, weak, or wrong.

Choosing Understanding Over Assumption

When we give children understanding, we give them a foundation for self-compassion. When we withhold it, we leave them to fill in the gaps alone. And children are rarely gentle with themselves when they do.

This image matters because it reminds us that the stories children tell themselves begin early. We may not be able to remove every obstacle, but we can influence the story they build around those obstacles.

Understanding does not create difference. Difference already exists. Understanding simply decides whether that difference becomes a source of shame or a starting point for support.

And that choice can shape a life.

12/24/2025

Ottawa families: save the date for this upcoming in-person event from Red Shoes Rock Ottawa, “Adulting: Resources for Youth and Young Adults with ”. Funding by Health Nexus santé
When: Sat, Feb 21, 2026 • 1:00 to 4:00 p.m.
Where: Queenswood Heights Community Centre, Orleans
Registration: https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/adulting-resources-for-youth-and-young-adults-with-fasd-tickets-1978808460373?aff=ebdsshother&utm_share_source=search_android
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Check this out. Donations and support like this can be game changing for people. We need more of this type of support, a...
12/21/2025

Check this out. Donations and support like this can be game changing for people. We need more of this type of support, advocacy, awareness and prevention efforts. Let’s keep these conversations going.

The holidays are just about here. Don’t forgot to offer alcohol free choices when hosting your gatherings… for everyone…...
12/19/2025

The holidays are just about here. Don’t forgot to offer alcohol free choices when hosting your gatherings… for everyone… and especially for folks who may be planning a pregnancy…. Let’s do our part to ensure they are as healthy as they can be. Xo

This is so heartbreaking and we need to focus some of our investment on prevention. We can do better. We need to be.
12/13/2025

This is so heartbreaking and we need to focus some of our investment on prevention. We can do better. We need to be.

Ottawa, ON December 10, 2025:
“It’s not right this is happening!” “This is heartbreaking…”
These are the voices of Ontarians reacting to the escalating crisis in our province’s Developmental Services sector, a situation that’s been decades in the making.

Twelve Agencies in the Ottawa area have partnered to call for urgent action and long-term investment to help adults with developmental disabilities who are being left behind by a system that has been underfunded far too long.

More than thirty years of chronic underinvestment have led to over 53,000 adults with intellectual disabilities waiting for essential supports and services. Some of our most vulnerable citizens are slipping through the cracks, forced to live in extreme poverty, on the streets and increasingly at risk of being lured into crime or s*x trafficking.

“The situation we’re in right now is the result of successive governments not funding the Sector properly,” says Al Roberts, Chair of the Ottawa-Carleton Association for Persons with Developmental Disabilities (OCAPDD). “Parents and families in the Ottawa area are in crisis and they regularly share their concerns and challenges with us. We’re feeling that the system is on the verge of collapse if significant steps aren’t taken immediately.”

In Ottawa alone, there are 3,710 adults with developmental disabilities waiting for supports and services and in East Region there are even more, with 5,724 languishing on waiting lists. Many have waited decades for help with medication management, basic life skills and assistance to find homes, jobs, and community activities that would allow them to live a life of dignity and inclusion.

Filipa Saraiva is one of many parents at a breaking point. “My daughter Ana has been on a waiting list for ten years to find supportive housing,” explains Ms. Saraiva. “Ana has cerebral palsy and a developmental disability. I had to leave work to look after her when I couldn’t find help. She’s in a day program now but I constantly worry about the day when I’m no longer able to care for her. What will happen to my daughter then?”

Release continued in comments.

12/10/2025

💫 You asked, we listened — revisiting one of our most-loved holiday episodes. ❄️

The holidays can be the most wonderful time of the year… but not for everyone.
In this week’s episode, Angela dives into how we can reduce both the impact and incidence of prenatal alcohol/substance–exposed pregnancies — especially as new research shows FASD prevalence in North America has risen to a still-conservative 8%.

She also shares thoughtful ideas on making the season gentler for you and your circle:
✨ Re-evaluating traditions
✨ Creating new, meaningful rituals
✨ Setting compassionate boundaries that protect your wellbeing

A powerful conversation for anyone navigating the holidays with intention and care.

🎧 Listen In >> https://www.angelageddes.ca/podcast/episode-116
🎙️ BONUS: This episode is also available en français!

12/03/2025

📚 NEW EPISODE — EP 115: Deep Dive | Not Your Typical Teaching Guide

Educators are supporting “complicated and beautiful brains” every day — some misdiagnosed, many without proper assessment, and sometimes with outdated or incomplete information, especially around FASD. This makes things harder for teachers and students than it needs to be. This episode explores why updated knowledge matters and how it can transform classroom support.

Instead of a traditional audiobook, this conversation-style episode offers a warm, accessible walkthrough of the key ideas from Angela’s 3rd book in the series.

We explore:
• Why terms like “FAS” are no longer used
• How common FASD truly is
• Why invisibility + underdiagnosis lead to misunderstanding
• Why traditional behaviour strategies often fall short
• How updated curriculum guidance empowers teachers

A powerful reminder that when we understand the neurdevelopmental roots of behaviour, we replace judgment with insight — creating safer, more supportive learning environments.

🎧 Listen to EP 115 now >> www.angelageddes.ca/podcast/episode-115

📖 Want more? Check out the full book for deeper learning.
www.angelageddes.ca/not-your-typical-teaching-guide

What a story. Certainly worth the read.  She refused to compromise the health of unborn babies.  She waited for evidence...
11/25/2025

What a story. Certainly worth the read. She refused to compromise the health of unborn babies. She waited for evidence that would guarantee safety. She said ‘No’. So…. Why are health care professionals not relying on evidence when it comes to alcohol use during pregnancy? As recent as yesterday I was told that a physician told a young mother to be that a glass of wine a day is safe during the pregnancy. I say more of us should say, ‘No’. The evidence is clear. Yet still such permissive language in drs offices, in parenting prep books and apps, and around that puts thousands of babies at risk every year.

The doctor who protected an entire generation of children did it with one quiet, stubborn word: no.

In the late 1950s, a sedative called thalidomide was sweeping across Europe. It was advertised as gentle, modern, safe. Pregnant women took it to ease morning sickness. Drug companies praised it as a miracle. By 1960, an American manufacturer was eager to bring it to the United States. They submitted their paperwork to the U.S. Food and Drug Administration, expecting an easy approval.

The file landed on the desk of a new medical officer, Dr. Frances Oldham Kelsey.

She had been at the FDA for barely a month. Only seven full-time physicians reviewed drugs for the entire country, and this was supposed to be her simple first assignment. Other countries had already approved thalidomide. Her supervisors assumed she would sign off quickly.

But she didn’t.

Kelsey noticed problems immediately. The company claimed thalidomide was safe, yet the studies were incomplete. Their animal research was poor. They had almost no data about the drug’s effect on pregnant women. And the “evidence” they submitted was little more than promotional material disguised as science.

She asked for more information.

The company didn’t like that. Not at all.

At the time, the law allowed the FDA to delay a drug for only sixty days at a time. After that, it was automatically approved unless the agency found a clear reason to stop it. So every sixty days, Kelsey sent new questions. Every sixty days, the company responded with half-answers and assurances. Every sixty days, she refused to sign.

The drug manufacturer, Richardson-Merrell, grew furious. Their warehouses were already stocked with ten million tablets. They planned to launch nationwide by Christmas and make a fortune. Instead, one doctor—an unknown newcomer—was blocking them.

Representatives called her constantly. They crowded into her office. They insulted her, mocked her, tried to pressure her supervisors. Over the course of eighteen months, they pushed her roughly fifty times to approve the drug.

She never gave in.

Her instincts came from years earlier at the University of Chicago, where she had studied how drugs moved through the bodies of pregnant animals and crossed into developing embryos. That knowledge lingered in the back of her mind. When she looked at thalidomide’s thin data, she began to wonder whether anyone had truly examined what the drug did to a fetus.

No one had.

In late 1960, she read a British report describing nerve damage in patients who had taken thalidomide for long periods. Another warning sign. She asked for updated studies. The company sent glowing testimonials instead.

So she continued to say no.

Meanwhile, in Europe, something horrifying was unfolding. Babies were being born with devastating deformities—limbs missing or severely shortened, organs improperly formed, hands attached directly to shoulders, eyes and ears malformed. Doctors were baffled until two physicians, one in Germany and one in Australia, made the connection: the mothers had all taken thalidomide during the early weeks of pregnancy.

It was a medical disaster. More than ten thousand children across dozens of countries were affected. Many died shortly after birth. Many more faced lifelong disabilities. Thousands of pregnancies ended before term.

Thalidomide had done it.

Germany pulled the drug from shelves in November 1961. Britain followed. Other nations scrambled to stop the damage. But the tragedy could not be undone.

In the United States, something remarkable had happened: nearly nothing. Because Frances Kelsey refused to approve the drug, it never reached American pharmacies. Richardson-Merrell had quietly given out samples to physicians during clinical trials—millions of tablets that were not legally allowed—and even those limited distributions caused seventeen confirmed birth defects.

Seventeen American children suffered. In Europe, it was thousands.

The difference between catastrophe and containment was one woman’s insistence on proper evidence.

When newspapers published the truth in 1962, the nation was stunned. A Washington Post reporter wrote a front-page article calling Kelsey a heroine who had prevented “the birth of hundreds or indeed thousands of armless and legless children.”

Public outrage exploded. Americans were horrified by the European tragedy and furious that a company had tried to force an untested drug onto the market.

On August 7, 1962, President John F. Kennedy invited Frances Kelsey to the White House and awarded her the President’s Award for Distinguished Federal Civilian Service—the highest honor a civilian federal worker could receive. She was only the second woman ever to receive it. Cameras flashed. The president praised her judgment and her refusal to bow to pressure.

But her impact didn’t end there.

Kelsey’s resistance sparked sweeping reforms. In October 1962, Congress passed the Kefauver-Harris Amendment. It transformed American drug laws. Companies now had to prove drugs were safe and effective. They had to report side effects. They needed informed consent for clinical trials. Standards became stricter. Oversight became stronger.

Frances Kelsey helped write and enforce these rules. She led the FDA’s Investigational Drug Branch. Later she headed the Division of Scientific Investigations, where her inspectors gained the nickname “Kelsey’s cops” for their uncompromising scrutiny.

She spent the rest of her long career preventing another thalidomide.

Kelsey retired from the FDA in 2005 at ninety years old. She had reshaped drug safety around the globe. Nations worldwide updated their standards because of what she uncovered. In 2010, the FDA created the Dr. Frances O. Kelsey Award for Excellence and Courage in Protecting Public Health. She accepted the first award at age ninety-six.

She moved to Canada to live with her daughter and died there on August 7, 2015—exactly fifty-three years after Kennedy placed the medal in her hands. She was 101.

Frances Oldham Kelsey never invented a life-saving drug. She never led a laboratory or developed a breakthrough cure. What she did was far simpler and far braver.

She refused to compromise.

She demanded real science. She refused to be bullied by wealthy corporations. She protected the public by insisting that “safe” must truly mean safe. She changed the expectations of medicine and drug regulation forever.

Her legacy lives in every prescription bottle, every clinical trial, every drug label backed by real evidence.

Sometimes the most powerful act in science is not discovery.

Sometimes it is the courage to say no—calmly, firmly, and at exactly the right moment.

Frances Kelsey did that. And because she did, untold thousands of American children were born whole, healthy, and safe.

Her quiet refusal saved a generation.

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