Michael Kluba - Integrative Virtual Therapy Counselling + Assessments

Michael Kluba - Integrative Virtual Therapy Counselling + Assessments I help adults recover from trauma, addiction + intimacy disorders.

https://klubatherapy.ca

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🌱In trauma therapy, as brutally painful as it often is, the therapist is required to pace the work.•The therapist might ...
04/20/2026

🌱In trauma therapy, as brutally painful as it often is, the therapist is required to pace the work.

•The therapist might guide, in a sense, but the individual takes the lead.

🌱Oftentimes, and especially where there was emotional neglect, folks don’t realize they experienced trauma.

•As humans, we’re often not aware that when we think or say things like, “it could have been worse,” this is an indication that we experienced some sort of adversity. It’s a coping mechanism we so adaptively - yet, often unconsciously - built.

🌱The trauma therapist needs to recognize that as we provide psychoeducation, and as we explore and process early life events with those we work with, we’re often pulling the rug out from beneath them.

🌱Trauma therapy is always going to involve grief therapy, and part of that is the therapist’s responsibility to move along at a pace that recognizes we’re often helping folks unveil hard things that reveal big losses.

🌱Seeking support is a major part of breaking the pattern. 🌱We often think we can do it alone, but whether we can or we c...
04/19/2026

🌱Seeking support is a major part of breaking the pattern.

🌱We often think we can do it alone, but whether we can or we can’t isn’t the point. The point is that many of us have adaptively responded to adversity through fierce independence. Sometimes the fierce independence is a part of the pattern that needs to be broken.

🌱We can facilitate that through seeking support.

🌱We need to think broadly about what trauma is here. It’s not always - and often is not - the things many automatically ...
04/18/2026

🌱We need to think broadly about what trauma is here. It’s not always - and often is not - the things many automatically think of when we hear the word “trauma.”

•Sometimes it’s bullying. Sometimes it’s emotional neglect. Sometimes it’s never feeling seen.

🌱Exposure can be as simple as coming across a parent’s p-rn magazines as a child, or the increasing access to s-xualized content on digital media.

🌱When SELF-regulation isn’t modeled, and when CO-regulation does not occur, children will adaptively (and often unconsci...
04/16/2026

🌱When SELF-regulation isn’t modeled, and when CO-regulation does not occur, children will adaptively (and often unconsciously) learn what and how substances and behaviours may do the regulation for us.

🌱There are many factors at play though.

🌱In this way, the parent views the child as an extension of the parent.
04/13/2026

🌱In this way, the parent views the child as an extension of the parent.

🌱The veiling is often unconscious (but sometimes intentional).🌱These behaviours are initially so very adaptive. We can’t...
04/12/2026

🌱The veiling is often unconscious (but sometimes intentional).
🌱These behaviours are initially so very adaptive. We can’t feel it ALL, all the time.
🌱We’ll have moments of it that feel they’ll last forever for sure.
🌱And to some extent that is true. We can’t replace what we have lost. We can only learn how to carry it.
🌱It’s at the very moment these adaptive patterns begin to impair critical aspects of our lives that maladaptive-ness occurs.
🌱Sometimes, for some people, that has to be part of the path.

🌱We need to learn how to process and regulate big emotions, not how to suppress or project them.
04/09/2026

🌱We need to learn how to process and regulate big emotions, not how to suppress or project them.

🌱The emotional tension may be relieved through outbursts of anger, emotional surrogacy, triangulation, parentification, ...
04/08/2026

🌱The emotional tension may be relieved through outbursts of anger, emotional surrogacy, triangulation, parentification, and/or spousification.

🌱…and little opportunity to be the child.
04/06/2026

🌱…and little opportunity to be the child.

🌱Suppressed anger is strongly associated with autoimmune conditions.🌱If this resonates, tell me - what is it that you’re...
04/04/2026

🌱Suppressed anger is strongly associated with autoimmune conditions.

🌱If this resonates, tell me - what is it that you’re angry about? Reflect on that.

Image Description: Quote in centre. Background is a spread of blue, green, and yellow - from left to right. Bottom left is a Like, Share, Comment, Save graphic. Bottom right is my Instagram handle and name on script.

🌱Acceptance is non-linear.🌱We can experience acceptance, and later find ourselves triggered.Image Description: Four slid...
04/03/2026

🌱Acceptance is non-linear.

🌱We can experience acceptance, and later find ourselves triggered.

Image Description: Four slides. 1. Arrow pointing right - left end has green x with dashed squiggly line going up to Traumatic injury/loss; right end has red x with dashed squiggly line going up to Accept/move on/ let go. 2. Double-sided arrow at bottom. Left side has arrow pointing right from Traumatic injury/loss. Knotted mess of a line in centre. Right side has arrow pointing left from Acceptance. 3. Arrow pointing right - left end says We don’t experience trauma/loss…; right end says …and then just get over it. 4. Double-sided arrow at bottom. Left side has arrow pointing right from Traumatic injury/loss. Knotted mess of a line in centre. Right side has arrow pointing left from Acceptance.

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