11/18/2025
When Your Heart Says No and Your Head Says Yes
What do you do when your heart and soul whisper no, but your head is yelling yes?
Most of us were raised to live from the neck up.
Logic. Reason. Justification.
We’re taught to build a life that makes sense on paper—even if it makes no sense in our bodies.
And the mind is so good at creating convincing arguments.
It can defend, explain, rationalize, and prop up a whole structure of “shoulds” based entirely on fear, habit, and old conditioning.
But the heart?
The soul?
They don’t speak in logic.
They speak in resonance.
And the truth is: whenever I bulldoze over my heart and force myself forward with my head alone, the energy becomes pushy.
Striving.
Efforting.
Clenching.
It never turns out the way I hoped because it was built on fear—not truth.
But when I get quiet…
When I breathe down into that deep inner knowing…
When I choose to listen to the subtle, steady pulse of my soul…
Everything shifts.
There’s more peace.
More flow.
More freedom.
Not because it’s easy.
Often it’s the opposite.
You can’t always explain it to others.
You can’t always explain it to yourself.
There’s no neat reasoning or tidy logic to present.
But there is a knowing—a grounded, ancient knowing—that says:
This is right for you.
Do this.
Trust this.
Follow this.
Recently, I found myself right in the middle of this crossroads.
My head was buzzing with excitement.
Programs to build.
Services to launch.
Momentum to chase.
Part of me felt lit up by the possibilities.
But my heart?
My soul?
They sat me down like a wise grandmother, put a hand on my shoulder, and said:
“No, love. Not now.
It’s time to rest.
To write.
To create for you.
To unplug.
To listen.”
And it wasn’t convenient.
It didn’t match my calendar or my plans or the speed of the world around me.
But I’ve learned something sacred:
When your soul whispers, you obey.
Because the soul is always early.
Never late.
It feels like contraction from the outside, but it is actually an expansion forming underground.
So here I am—listening, slowing, resting.
Not because my head agrees, but because my heart is leading.
And every time I dare to follow that deeper truth, a quieter, softer path opens up… the one that feels like home.
