HGT Counselling

01/22/2026

💚Some parents never learned how to regulate emotions, repair ruptures, or show up with consistency.

That doesn’t mean you’re too sensitive.
It means you were asking for something they didn’t yet have the capacity to give.

If you grew up feeling unseen, walking on eggshells, or becoming “the strong one” early — this may resonate.

This article gently breaks down what emotionally immature parenting can look like and how to protect yourself now, without guilt or self-abandonment:

🔗 https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/being-your-best-self/202504/handling-relationships-with-emotionally-immature-parents?msockid=24e460ad6e75614a306776636fb060af

Healing doesn’t require blaming your parents —
It asks you to stop blaming yourself.
Start setting boundaries and caring for the parts of you that adapted to survive. 🤍

01/18/2026

✨I can’t wait for the day you say, “I’m so proud of myself.”

We’re often taught that we’re not supposed to need that from others — that it should come from within.

But some of us never heard it. Or didn’t hear it enough.

So until your own voice learns how to say it, I’ll say it for you — loudly and often.
I am proud of you.

And when your voice comes online, I’ll still be here, cheering.

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01/14/2026

💚Sometimes healing looks like…

It’s about becoming aware, accountable, and kind while you’re still learning.
• Recognizing your role in situations without collapsing into shame
• Realizing you are part of the solution
• Letting “I’m human and doing my best” be enough
• Cringing at past behaviour (that awareness is growth)
• Apologizing without defending yourself
• Seeing your patterns — and sometimes still stepping into them with compassion
• Sitting with uncomfortable truths without spiralling
• Growing while grieving the comfort of who you used to be
• Knowing better and still occasionally doing the “dumb” thing
• Choosing growth anyway

Healing isn’t about becoming flawless —
It is about becoming aware, accountable, and kind while you’re still learning.

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01/14/2026

Dear men,

As humans we need community. Please see this opportunity below and offer yourself the chance at something new. 👇

Charlottetown Men's Shed Information session
Join us Jan 23rd from 230-400 at the Beaconsfield Carriage House, 2 Kent Street, Charlottetown to learn about how you can get involved in starting the first Men's Shed in PEI.

01/11/2026

🛑The HALT Check-In (a quick nervous system reset)

When emotions feel big or overwhelming, pause and ask:

H — Hungry
Have I eaten enough today?
Low blood sugar can look like anxiety, irritability, or panic.

A — Angry
Am I holding in frustration, resentment, or hurt?
Unexpressed anger often shows up as anxiety or tension.

L — Lonely
Am I feeling disconnected or unsupported?
We are wired for connection — isolation intensifies distress.

T — Tired
Am I mentally, emotionally, or physically exhausted?
Fatigue lowers our ability to cope and regulate.

Why HALT helps:

When one (or more) of these needs is unmet, our nervous system goes into protection mode.

Meeting the need doesn’t fix everything — but it often lowers the intensity enough to respond instead of react.

Small reminder:
Not everything needs to be solved — sometimes it just needs to be fed, rested, expressed, or shared.

01/07/2026

Anxiety doesn’t come from thinking about the future — we’re human, this is normal.

Anxiety comes from feeling like we need to control it.

👩‍🏫Overestimating the likelihood something will happen + Overestimating the severity something will happen - underestimating our abilities and resources =anxiety

The goal isn’t to stop future-oriented thoughts, but to build safety in uncertainty.

Your nervous system isn’t broken — it’s protecting you.

Therapy can support you on this journey.

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01/05/2026

❔Wondering what therapy with me is really like?
It’s not someone judging you, fixing you, or telling you who to be.
It’s being seen. Supported. Understood.
It’s having someone sit with you in the hard moments, remind you that you’re not broken, and help you grow at your own pace.
If you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or just ready for something to change, I’m here.
A safe, grounding space to talk, laugh, cry, and heal — without pressure or perfection.
If you’re ready to choose yourself, therapy can be your first step.
Booking link: https://hgtcounselling.janeapp.com/
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01/02/2026

This landed deeply for me.

Since January 2023, I’ve been intentionally slowing down — moving with more care, more presence, and more self-trust. Letting go of the belief that my worth is tied to productivity, output, or how much I accomplish in a day.

What I’ve learned (and what I see again and again in therapy) is that the hard path is often the right one:
• Choosing depth instead of rushing
• Going to therapy even when it feels uncomfortable
• Learning to value yourself without needing to prove it
• Breaking old patterns that once protected you, but no longer serve you
• Walking toward fear instead of around it

This is where real change happens — not quickly, but honestly. I look forward to continuing into 2026.

If you’re moving more slowly right now, you’re not falling behind.
You may be doing the most important work of your life.

12/28/2025

✨As we move toward a new year, many of us start thinking about changes we want to make — but the most meaningful shift isn’t a resolution.
It’s a decision.

A decision to stop leaving yourself behind.
A decision to honour your needs without apology.
A decision to stop shrinking for love, approval, or peace.
A decision to stay with you.

2026 doesn’t need a “new you.”

It just needs a you who is no longer abandoning yourself to make others comfortable.

Two things can be true:
You can love the people in your life and choose yourself.
You can heal old patterns and step into something healthier moving forward.

If this is your year to come home to yourself — I’m cheering for you and here if you want support

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12/25/2025

💚 Christmas holds a lot — joy, grief, overwhelm, quiet moments, and everything in between.

If today feels different than you hoped, if you’re missing someone, or if you’re simply moving through the day the best you can… you’re not doing it wrong.

Two things can be true:
You can hold love and sadness.
You can celebrate and set boundaries.
You can show up and need rest.

Be gentle with yourself today.
You’re allowed to be exactly where you are.

Sending softness to anyone who needs it today.
You’re not alone.

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12/21/2025

✨ This is what it is all about

Here are things I loved hearing in session this month: honest moments, tiny breakthroughs, and people choosing themselves one step at a time.

You can too, step into 2026 with you as the priority: info@hgtcounselling.com