12/07/2025
Sunday morning contemplation
What are we doing to age well?
Not just our physical being but our emotional and spiritual self need to be cared for
Living in today with the wisdom of our past and our dreams for our future is what that looks like
“I turned 72 this year, and instead of blowing out candles, I sat at my kitchen table and quietly admitted the truths I’ve spent a lifetime avoiding.”
No dramatic moment, just me, a cold cup of coffee, and the familiar hum of the refrigerator. Aging, I've found, doesn't announce itself with fanfare; it arrives with slower mornings, quieter friendships, and a stark new honesty. One morning, I finally told myself: “This is a new chapter… whether you like it or not.”
The truths I had resisted for decades began to surface:
Truth #1: Children Grow, and We Must Too
We were taught that if you "raise them right, they’ll take care of you forever." That notion is obsolete. Our children are exhausted juggling their own families, jobs, and mortgages. They love us, but life dictates that love is often expressed remotely: a quick text replaces a visit, and a short call replaces an afternoon. We smile and accept it, but we feel the ache. Our children bring joy, but they are not responsible for filling the loneliness we refuse to face.
Truth #2: Your Body Is Not a Guarantee
One day, your knees sound like bubble wrap; the next, your breath feels shorter. You realize health was the foundation of every ordinary day, and now it demands attention, not assumptions. When you’re young, your body is on your team. When you’re older, it's your partner—and like any partner, it needs care, not neglect.
Truth #3: Retirement Is Not a Rescue Plan
It’s a quiet shock to realize that bills, groceries, and emergencies do not retire. Relying solely on systems and promises is risky. Relying on yourself? That's stability. Even consistent, small savings create a power you can feel: freedom. I had to rewrite my expectations and rebuild my life around wise, honest rules.
The Seven Wise Rules for the New Chapter
Rule 1: Take Care of Your Future Self. Set aside money, energy, and time—not out of fear, but for dignity. You owe yourself the comfort you once hoped would come from others.
Rule 2: Treat Your Health Like Your Most Loyal Friend. It is the one thing that follows you everywhere. Walk, stretch, drink water, and eat the foods your body thanks you for. Rest—not because you’re old, but because you are human.
Rule 3: Build Your Own Joy. No one else holds the map to your happiness. Create it yourself: notice the sunrise, find a new hobby, or simply enjoy a warm blanket. When you enjoy your own company, loneliness becomes quieter and manageable.
Rule 4: Aging Is Not Weakness—Unless You Surrender to It. Complaints eventually push people away. But strength draws people in and earns respect. Strength writes a different story: “I’m still here… and I’m still me.”
Rule 5: Release Yesterday, Gently. The past is a sweet place to visit, but a painful place to live. Let it go. Not because it wasn’t beautiful, but because it already gave you everything it was meant to give.
Rule 6: Guard Your Peace Like Treasure. Not every argument, argument, or person deserves access to your heart or your reaction. Protect what keeps you calm.
Rule 7: Learn One New Thing Every Day. A recipe, a fact, a technology. Your brain needs movement. Curiosity is a fountain that doesn’t dry up—unless you stop drinking from it.
The Final Truth
No one is coming to live your life for you. Not your children, not the government, and not the promises you made decades ago.
But here is the surprising part: You are still capable of shaping your days into something beautiful. Aging doesn’t take your power—it reveals it.
The choice is yours: Shrink into the shadows, or step into this new chapter with strength, clarity, and grace.
You may be older… but you are not done. Not even close.
Echoes of Insight
