02/07/2026
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A devastating loss and the grief that accompanies it changes life in so many ways. And it changes who you are.
Perspectives change. Beliefs change. Plans change. Dreams change. Values change. Relationships change. Tolerance changes and the things that used to matter so much don't always matter as much as they did before.
While I'm still a patient and tolerant person, I have found I'm not as patient or tolerant for BS. There are conversations I struggle with now and especially if they are focused around complaining about small things, unkind, or lack empathy.
Things that were once so important to me have faded into the background and I have found myself spending time on very different things.
I hear this from grievers a lot but I also know it can take time for the grieving to sort through everything and feel comfortable with all the changes and with a new version of who they are becoming.
Great loss and grief tends to shift what matters to people and emotions often run extra high. So much of what is evolving and changing can feel overwhelming and confusing for months.
But eventually the fog starts to settle and people will begin to adjust to what can feel like a very different life. Eventually, people will start to find a path forward and adapt to the changes from the inside out.
Is it easy? No. Will life ever feel exactly the same? No. Will grief remain? Yes. But remember grief can soften and with time, grief doesn't have to consume you all day long.
If you have changed and you are struggling to recognize who you are right now, be patient and be gentle with yourself. Give yourself grace and know that so much of what you are feeling and experiencing is normal when grieving a heartbreaking loss.
I'm sending you lots of love and I'm here to listen to anything you are feeling or struggling with. We are all in this together and my heart stands in solidarity with yours.
Michele