04/09/2023
What happens when you think about making a change in your life?
Does your mind come up with many reasons why you won't be able to do it?
If it does..take a breath..this is normal.
In his book "The Confidence Gap" Russ Harris gives the four most common "reason giving" categories.
1) Obstacles: Our mind creates barriers that block our path
2) Self Judgement: We judge all the ways in which we are not up to the challenge
3) Comparisons: We view others as superior in some way
4) Predictions: Our mind makes up an unsuccessful outcome before we begin
He says that it is not about eliminating the thoughts, but reframing them; making them "workable".
Ask yourself
"If I allow this thought to guide my actions, will it help me create the life I want?"
When I set out to start Bodhi Bodies I was also about to become a new father, still setting my life up in Canada after 4.5 years abroad, and working full time to pay bills. I had many limiting thoughts. One example was the obstacle: "I do not have enough time or energy to even launch a business, let alone run it". If I let that thought guide my actions I wouldn't be writing this post two and a half years later. Instead, I reframed the thought to "My time and energy is limited, but if I stay organized and use my time well, and also take care of my body and mind, I will be able to do it. Even if it isn't completed as soon as I desire"
That simple shift in thinking from a reason why I can't do it, to what I can do to still accomplish the goal, made all the difference. It made the thought workable, and if I followed it (which I did), it would help me create a life I wanted to live.
So I ask you now to thinking about a change you are wanting to make (big or small) in your life. And do this exercise. What thoughts come up? Can you reframe them to make them workable?
I hope this helps you as we move into a season of new life and change. I invite you to welcome in Spring with a fresh start, and healthier more balanced lifestyle. There are still a few spots left in my new program "Strong Body, Mind and Spirit". If you are an open minded person who wants to become stronger and more balanced in body in mind in the next 60 days message or DM "Balance"