04/07/2022
Mindset Reframing at The Nurturing Code 🧠
Shifting focus from a Goal Checklist to a Reverse Bucket List:
Can you remember the last time you crossed a major goal off your checklist?🏄♂️
Do you remember fantasizing about how happy you would be if you attained those things?
If you finally did attain one of those things, how did it make you feel? How long did the feeling last?
For most of us, that “happiness boost” is short-lived and fleeting. It didn’t last that long or wasn’t as intense as you’d imagined. So, what do we do? We get right on to forming an even loftier goal, achieve it, hoping to feel that happiness boost again. And again, until we are stuck in a cycle of chasing a feeling that was not meant to last.
This phenomenon is called Hedonic Adaptation in Human Biology. Every time we experience an emotion or a feeling, whether its negative or positive, within the first six seconds, every cell in our body responds to it, before we return to our baseline level again.
Now, don’t get me wrong. Being goal-oriented can be powerful, it keeps us driven, motivated, and can help to inspire others. But next time, you are on your way to forming and achieving a goal, I want you to pause and reflect on what are you chasing? Are you chasing a feeling of achievement or success that was never meant for human bodies and was never intended to last. What is it adding to your overall purpose? And what impact is YOUR goal having on the people around you.
Remember, you have an entire life to live outside of your goals. So, I am proposing something different than a goal checklist. I want you to try a Reverse bucket list. The concept is that instead of adding things onto your checklist, a longer sense of happiness can be achieved by SUBTRACTING things/tasks that drain our energy.