11/19/2025
The holidays can make intimacy feel… complicated.
You’re busy, stressed, overcommitted, and suddenly the person you love most starts to feel a little far away.
It’s not because anything is “wrong” but because the holiday season can feel like a lot.
Here are a few things I wish more couples knew to keep intimacy alive during the busyness of the season:
• Emotional connection comes first.
A 2-minute check-in can do more for your intimacy than a whole “romantic night” you’re too exhausted to enjoy.
• You can actually put intimacy on the calendar.
And no, it doesn’t make it less romantic. It makes it possible. Busy seasons need structure, not pressure.
• One tiny ritual goes further than grand gestures.
A warm drink together, writing love letters or silly sensual notes to each other, a nightly cuddle - these small things are often the glue.
Keeping intimacy alive during the holidays is not about doing more and something grand. It’s about communicating openly and scheduling connection/setting expectations with each other before the chaos of the holiday season.
Disclaimer: This post is for general education only and isn’t a substitute for therapy or personalized support.