12/26/2025
Why is it that the most wonderfully perceived time of year when we’re together with family is also considered the most stressful time of year?
The answer is complex and differs for many (simple answer, it all goes back to our childhood?!) but the reality is, for many, the holiday period brings stress that can stop people from sleeping.
To fall asleep and stay asleep, your body needs to be in a calm, relaxed zone. The rest and digest response of your nervous system (ie the parasympathetic) needs to be activated. Stress and anxiety however, activate the fight or flight response, making it more difficult to sleep well.
One of the best ways to switch off the stress response (ie sympathetic branch of our nervous system) and activate the rest and digest response is through deep, diaphragmatic breathing exercises. Now breathing won’t solve all your problems but it will nudge your body from a physiological standpoint to get better prepped and relaxed for sleep.
I love the box breathing technique because it’s simple and can be done at any time, anywhere.
While this breathing technique can be practiced any time throughout the day, I often encourage my clients to integrate breath work into their pre-bedtime wind down routine to help induce a relaxation response for their mind and body. If you haven’t done breathwork before though, you may want to practice it first in the daytime, when the stakes are lower.
INSTRUCTIONS
Start breathing in and out in your regular state for a few rounds and notice how it feels and where your breath is coming from. Focus on taking breaths further down in your diaphragm, so that your belly is expanding when breathing in and contracting (moving up and in towards the rib cage) when you’re breathing out. You can place a hand on your belly for feedback assistance. Start breathing in through your nose and out through the mouth.
Inhale through the nose for a count of 4.
Hold your breath for a count of 4.
Exhale through your mouth for a count of 4.
Hold your breath for a count of 4.
Repeat 3 more times (or for as long as you’d like).