04/28/2026
This is a pattern called self-abandonment. It develops in people who grew up in environments where their emotional needs were ignored, dismissed, or made to feel like too much.
Over time the brain learns that expressing needs is either unsafe or pointless, so it stops. You become an expert at holding everyone else while quietly falling apart alone.
You were never too much. You were just never shown that your needs mattered too.
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