09/10/2024
"I'm so stupid.
I'm not enough.
Nobody ever gets me."
Imagine these were the thoughts that dominated my life?
I talk to clients every day who have these enduring, self-depricating thoughts.
I ask them: "Do you want to feel stupid? Do you want to believe the world is against you?"
If you do, then continue to think that way.
I wouldn't judge you if that was your choice.
I'm just not sure that you're aware of how much your self-talk game is stopping you from being all that you can be.
If you don't want to continue to feel stupid and you do want to stop self-harming, there is a way out of that prison.
Don't get me wrong.
I have these thoughts, too, for sure.
Daily - in fact.
I let my victim-minded self say what she needs to say.
That way, she doesn't nag me because I'm trying to drown out her voice.
I let her have her say, and then I let all the other thoughts come to life.
And then I choose which thoughts serve me the best.
I do feel stupid occasionally - for doing dumb things, wasting my time, wasting my money.
I look at the reno-project gone wrong, or the client who quit, and I feel little and stupid.
I look at what other influencers do, and then I feel I don't have enough impact.
Your inclination may be to try to make me feel better by saying - "Nancy, you shouldn't think like that. You're so smart. And you're an amazing coach."
I'd say your heart is in the right place. Except the "You shouldn't" part.
That sneaky "Should" hurts us just as much, if not more, than the actual negative thought.
Negative thoughts want to be seen and acknowledged too.
I just don't hold on to them and let them rule my life.
I let them have their say, so that they can pass on through me, not controlling my life.
So, if you're reading this and you too have negative thoughts about yourself or the world, that's ok.
And whenever you're ready to take on a new lens of yourself and the world, there's a whole new world out there for you too!
One of endless possibility and transformation.
Otherwise, you wouldn't be wrong.
If I thought I was stupid, that people didn't get me, and I wasn't good enough - I would walk around and live life that way, and that would be true for me.
And that's not how I want to live.
So choose your thoughts wisely.
Thoughts --> Beliefs --> Actions --> Results
Choose your thoughts wisely.
