03/06/2026
Human connection is what we want and it doesn’t come from being perfect.
It comes from being human.
We’re wired to read each other’s emotional states anyway. People can usually feel when someone is nervous, unsure, excited, emotional… even if it’s not said out loud.
So when someone names their experience or checks in with the people they’re talking to, it actually builds trust. What’s happening internally matches what’s expressed externally. That congruence is something our nervous systems LOVE. We relax when someone is real.
And you just heard me say “like” about a dozen times in this video.
Some might argue that this is just a lack of skill. And maybe it is. But I personally prefer it.
So many videos right now are so clearly AI or someone reading from an AI script. Perfectly polished. Perfectly packaged.
But when someone is too polished, it often creates distance. It starts to feel like a performance instead of a relationship. I am personally SO attuned to this.
And this isn’t just about speaking on a stage or posting online. This is relational life.
A lot of us learned somewhere along the way that if we could just be good enough… polished enough… perfect enough… we could avoid pain. Avoid criticism. Avoid rejection.
But when we’re always performing, we also avoid real connection.
Because connection requires congruence.
Especially in midlife, authenticity stops being optional. Eventually the body just doesn’t have the capacity to perform anymore.
And in this super divisive, consumerist, and often lonely digital world we’re living in right now, we need women to have the courage to speak up.
And to do so with the confidence that their humanness is more than enough.
I have work to do on this too but this is my invitation for you to show up imperfectly and authentically as an act of rebellion and see what happens.
