Veronica Chase Coaching and Counselling

04/23/2026

02/22/2026

Arousal vs. Desire 🔥🧠

We use these words like they mean the same thing — but they don’t.

Arousal is your body’s physiological response.
It’s automatic. Hormonal. Neurological.
It can happen from touch, fantasy, stress, novelty — even without emotional connection.

Desire is the psychological longing.
It’s the wanting.
The pull toward someone. The anticipation. The meaning you attach to intimacy.

You can experience:
• Arousal without desire (your body responds, but you don’t emotionally want it)
• Desire without arousal (you deeply want connection, but your body is slow to respond)

And both are completely normal.

In long-term relationships especially, desire often becomes responsive, not spontaneous.
That means it builds after connection begins — through safety, presence, emotional intimacy, and feeling chosen.

This is where so many couples get confused.

They think:
“If I don’t feel instant heat, something is wrong.”
“If my partner isn’t always aroused, they don’t want me.”

Not true.

Arousal lives in the nervous system.
Desire lives in meaning, attachment, and emotional safety.

When you understand the difference, you stop personalizing what was never personal.

And intimacy becomes less about performance…
and more about connection.

— Veronica Chase Coaching & Counselling 💫

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12/02/2025

When you have a conversation ask this!!! 👆

Before you begin/ or start talking: Ask if they/you want to be helped, heard, or hugged. Which is the practical, emotional and social aspects.

Lead the conversation with what you need so the other person can meet you in the conversation.

Simple- useful - powerful!!!

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10/13/2025

Embodying alignment and consistency.
With your frequency attuned.
Not if, but When.
Create the change - not hoping for it to come.
Live with intension- with clarity. With conviction. Through discipline, decisions, and devotion & be them. Breathe them into your nervous system till become.

Speak. Live. Be.

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09/13/2025

Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM). Whether you’ve heard about polyamory in passing or you’re seriously considering opening up your relationship, understanding ENM is the first step toward making informed, respectful, and emotionally sound decisions. This guide explores what ENM is (and isn’t), key considerations, its common forms, emotional ups and downs, and the foundational pillars that help it thrive.

Ethical Non-Monogamy refers to a relationship structure in which all parties consensually agree to engage in romantic or s*xual connections outside of a primary relationship, or with multiple partners altogether. Unlike cheating—which is marked by secrecy, dishonesty, and betrayal—ENM is rooted in open communication, trust, and mutual agreement.
People practicing ENM agree to pursue other relationships ethically, meaning they do so with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. This distinguishes it clearly from infidelity. In ENM, there are no hidden affairs or broken promises—just clearly discussed boundaries and agreements.

❗Important Note: ENM does not mean cheating is acceptable. Cheating, by definition, involves deception or breaking established agreements. In ENM, honesty and transparency are non-negotiable values.

Read on….
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08/23/2025

What are you holding onto that no longer serves you…
What are you holding on to? Why hold onto it? What purpose does it give you?

Persist and Resist.

The definition of insanity is doing something over and over again thinking there will be a different outcome.

Why hold onto ways that no longer serve you, what has worked vs. Hasn’t.

Without change there will be no CHANGE.

Get up. Get out. Do it!

Make healthy choices.
Make solid changes and hold true to your values you hold dear to you.

Do not let others dim your light from shinning.

Sometimes you’ll change jobs, change careers, change relationships, even friendships. People change, you change and that’s good. Don’t hold onto the ways that harmed you or stunted growth, progress, successes.

You change your oil in your car to help your car, you workout to help strengthen muscles and rest to lower cortisol and recover. Why not change other things to help support the best version of you!!!!

You Got This!
Be proud, Be bold, Be you.

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06/02/2025

ENM
= Ethical Non- Monogamy

It’s not for everyone, and that’s ok…

Here’s what it is , some common questions and more…

Ethical Non-Monogamy: What It Is and What You Should KnowLet's face it, there are many forms of relationship dynamics out there, and more people are exploring alternatives to traditional monogamy. One of the most talked-about concepts in relationship psychology is Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM). Whether...

10/01/2024

This article explores infidelity in committed relationships, examining its definition, causes, emotional impact on both partners, and the process of overcoming its aftermath through couples counselling.

The article outlines the stages of emotional response to infidelity, such as shock, anger, sadness, and confusion, experienced by both the betrayed and unfaithful partners. It further details the impact of infidelity on a relationship, highlighting the erosion of trust, communication breakdowns, and emotional distance.

Finally, the text emphasizes the role of couples counselling in navigating these challenges by creating a safe space for open communication, understanding the context of infidelity, rebuilding trust, and facilitating healing.

Infidelity can shake the foundations of even the strongest relationships, causing a whirlwind of emotional turmoil and distrust. Couples counseling offers a path to healing and understanding, providing both partners with the tools to navigate this challenging experience. This blog post delves into w...

08/18/2024

A nice quick read on how to open the discussion in a respectful way

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Leading the Conversation on S*x in a Respectful WayIn today's open society, discussing s*x and s*xual preferences can still be daunting, even between partners. But why is it important to talk about s*x? Because effective communication about s*x can enhance intimacy, increase satisfaction, and help p...

01/31/2024

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12/27/2023

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Relationships sometimes can hit a roadblock and go through some challenging times. I have heard the same questions asked. "Should I Stay?" "Is it worth it?" "Shoujld I go?"

Well...In my latest post, we get to these troubling questions.
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Most relationships come to a crossroads where you hit a point. You ask yourself if you want to continue, want to stay, or want to reestablish the relationship. The famous line from F.R.I.E.N.D.S "We were on a break!" comes to mind. When there is no clear communication, clarity on direction, or certa...

12/07/2023

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Struggling with initiating s*x talks? Don't worry, we've got you covered! Learn some techniques and tools for better communication. 💑 http://wix.to/YF46GHe

How to talk about s*x with your partner... Even though it sounds easy, talking about s*x (not the dirty talk) can be a daunting experience. For most people, discussing s*x online or over text feels less awkward than discussing it in real life with s*xual partners. The conversation brings anxiety jus...