Nightingale Counselling

Nightingale Counselling Vancouver Counselling Therapy and Research clinic.

Myths About Couples Therapy (That EFT Breaks)Let’s clear up a few common fears we hear from couples before they start th...
12/23/2025

Myths About Couples Therapy (That EFT Breaks)

Let’s clear up a few common fears we hear from couples before they start therapy.

At Nightingale, EFT sessions are calm, structured, and guided. You won’t be asked to debate or re-argue old fights. Instead, we help you understand what’s happening underneath, and how to change it.

If you’re not sure whether EFT is right for you, your next step doesn’t have to be big.

Start with a free 15-minute consult.
Ask questions. Learn the process. Get matched with an EFT-trained therapist who fits your relationship.

No pressure. No commitment. Just clarity.

What Is Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT)?Emotion-Focused Therapy didn’t appear overnight.For years, therapists noticed the ...
12/20/2025

What Is Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT)?

Emotion-Focused Therapy didn’t appear overnight.

For years, therapists noticed the same thing: couples were trying really hard. Despite communicating more, reading books, and learning skills they were still getting stuck. The problem wasn’t effort. It was that fear, attachment, and emotional reactions were driving the conflict underneath the words.

So researchers, led by Dr. Sue Johnson, studied thousands of real couples to understand why loving people get trapped in painful cycles.

What they found became EFT.

EFT is now one of the most researched and effective forms of couples therapy in the world. It’s based on attachment science, which looks at how safety, connection, and emotional closeness shape relationships.

Instead of teaching scripts or rules, EFT helps you:
• Understand your emotional pattern
• See what each reaction is protecting
• Change the bond itself, not just the behavior

That’s why EFT works even when other approaches haven’t.

At Nightingale Counselling, EFT is one of our most trusted approaches for couples across Vancouver and BC. Why? Because it respects how hard relationships really are, and gives you a clear path forward.

The Cycle Is the EnemyMost couples don’t fight about new things.They fight about the same thing, wearing different outfi...
12/19/2025

The Cycle Is the Enemy

Most couples don’t fight about new things.
They fight about the same thing, wearing different outfits.

One partner reaches.
The other pulls away.
Someone gets louder.
Someone shuts down.

Over time, that cycle becomes exhausting, even personal. It starts to feel like your partner is the problem.

EFT gently flips that story.

In Emotion-Focused Therapy, we slow things down and help you clearly see the pattern that’s running the show. Once the cycle is named, something powerful happens: the blame loosens. You can finally breathe again.

Instead of “Why are you like this?” the question becomes,
“How did we get stuck here and how do we get out together?”

That shift alone can change everything.

This is why EFT feels different from other couples therapies. It doesn’t ask you to communicate better while you’re still emotionally flooded. It creates safety first. Then connection.

At Nightingale, couples often tell us:
“I finally feel like my partner is on my side again.”

And that’s where real change begins.

EFT: The Couples Therapy with No Bad GuyOne of the biggest reasons couples delay therapy isn’t money or time; it’s fear....
12/18/2025

EFT: The Couples Therapy with No Bad Guy

One of the biggest reasons couples delay therapy isn’t money or time; it’s fear.
The fear sounds like this: “What if the therapist takes sides?”
Or worse: “What if I become the bad guy?”

At Nightingale Counselling in Vancouver, we use Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) because it removes blame from the room entirely. From the very first session, EFT shifts the focus away from who’s at fault and toward what’s happening between you.

Instead of arguing against each other, you start looking at the pattern that keeps pulling you into the same fight — again and again. That pattern becomes the problem. Not you. Not your partner.

This is often a huge relief. Couples tell us that within just a few sessions, things feel calmer, clearer, and more hopeful. Not because everything is “fixed,” but because for the first time in a long time, you’re finally on the same side of the table.

EFT helps couples reconnect faster because it treats you as a team from the very beginning. It’s not about winning arguments. It’s about understanding what’s really happening underneath them — and changing it together.

If you’ve been stuck in the same loop and feel exhausted by it, this approach was designed for you.

When our inner worlds are dominated by disconnection and chaos, we can often feel lost from the compassionate, clear, an...
11/27/2025

When our inner worlds are dominated by disconnection and chaos, we can often feel lost from the compassionate, clear, and confident versions of ourselves. Internal Family Systems therapy helps us unify these parts, building a transformative pathway towards wholeness.

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☎️236-259-3499

The challenges that transitions bring, whether planned or unexpected, can often feel too big to tackle on your own. Toge...
11/11/2025

The challenges that transitions bring, whether planned or unexpected, can often feel too big to tackle on your own. Together we aim to pause, reflect, and continue forward through life’s greatest opportunities for change.

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📧admin@nightingalecounselling.com
☎️236-259-3499

Welcome to the team Ken! 🎉🎉 Ken Best is one of our newest Associate Counsellors! He is av...
11/05/2025

Welcome to the team Ken! 🎉🎉

Ken Best is one of our newest Associate Counsellors! He is available for in-person sessions at our Granville location, and virtually.

To learn more about Ken and the rest of our team here at Nightingale, please follow the link in our bio.

Welcome to the team Leor! 🎉🎉 Leor Elizur is one of our newest Associate Counsellors! She ...
11/05/2025

Welcome to the team Leor! 🎉🎉

Leor Elizur is one of our newest Associate Counsellors! She is available for in-person sessions at our Granville location, and virtually.

To learn more about Leor and the rest of our team here at Nightingale, please follow the link in our bio.

When you’re ready, we’re here. Check out our website nightingalecounselling.com or contact us at:📧admin@nightingalecouns...
10/30/2025

When you’re ready, we’re here.

Check out our website nightingalecounselling.com or contact us at:

📧admin@nightingalecounselling.com
☎️236-259-3499

We’re here to meet you where you’re at, and take you where you want to go. Check out our website nightingalecounselling....
10/21/2025

We’re here to meet you where you’re at, and take you where you want to go.

Check out our website nightingalecounselling.com or contact us at:

📧admin@nightingalecounselling.com
☎️236-259-3499

Looking for support? We’re here to help. Check out our website nightingalecounselli...
10/16/2025

Looking for support? We’re here to help.

Check out our website nightingalecounselling.com or contact us at:

📧admin@nightingalecounselling.com
☎️236-259-3499

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3195 Granville Street Suite 60
Vancouver, BC
V6H3K2

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Monday 9:30am - 8pm
Tuesday 9:30am - 8pm
Wednesday 9:30am - 8pm
Thursday 9:30am - 8pm
Friday 9:30am - 8pm
Saturday 9:30am - 8pm

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