Helen Thomas, MA, RCC

04/09/2022

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It is your birthright to be loved.

04/05/2022

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If we want to address mental health and issues that impact mental health and wellness, we need to dig deeper.
All social justice issues and social determinants of health affect us in various ways. www.ymhc.ngo

Artist: Alyse Ruriani Alyse Ruriani

04/04/2022

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The body is the key to the mind. You first have to calm the body’s response to trauma, shifting it from danger/alert to relaxed/controlled. Only then can you begin to recognize and process the mental and emotional aspects of the trauma.
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04/01/2022

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Here's the truth about grief: loss gets integrated, not overcome.

However long it takes, your heart and your mind will carve out a new life amid this weirdly devastated landscape. Little by little, pain and love will find ways to coexist.

It won't feel wrong or bad to have survived. It will be, simply, a life of your own making: the most beautiful life it can be, given what is yours to live.

May all that Refuge In Grief has to offer, the book: It's OK That You're Not OK (https://www.refugeingrief.com/book/), the website (https://www.refugeingrief.com/), the courses (https://www.refugeingrief.com/30daywriting/), and this beautiful community of broken and empathetic hearts, help you find the thread of love that still exists, following it forward into a life that you didn't ask for, but is here nonetheless.

We're so sorry you have need of this space, and we're so glad you're here.

04/01/2022

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We love you 🏳️‍⚧️

03/30/2022

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03/26/2022

CHILDREN DON’T HAVE THE CAPACITY TO SEE THIER PARENTS AS AGAINST THEM. ⁣⁣
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it’s not adaptive. it goes against the biological need to connect. to make sure we are cared for, fed, clothed, protected. ⁣⁣
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when we have parents who criticize us, berate us, insult or belittle us, instead of seeing them as mean or ill equipped to be good parents, we defend by taking the baton and shaming ourselves. ⁣⁣
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this can continue for years and years. sometimes lifetimes. ⁣⁣
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my dad spent a lot of energy telling me how i could improve. as soon as i was old enough to self-reflect, my own critical voice screamed louder than his ever could. ⁣⁣
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even after he died, my inner critic and i danced on. ⁣⁣
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and on. ⁣⁣
and on. ⁣⁣
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until i woke up. and began to understand that i was unconsciously protecting myself as a child by allowing my hateful voice to outspeak his. ⁣⁣
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and it was no longer protecting me. ⁣⁣
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in fact, it was straight up killing me. and it had to stop. ⁣⁣
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the inner critic never rests. and if you listen to it for long enough, you are naturally compelled to repress enough emotions to make you sick. ⁣⁣
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when we know why we do what we do, we become empowered to change our mindset. ⁣⁣
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this is the way to personal freedom. ⁣⁣
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i love you. let’s keep trying our best. ⁣links to mini retreats to help you in my bio. we can do this, guys. i promise. ⁣
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03/26/2022

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03/25/2022

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Conforming our child to who we want them to be VS. Celebrating our child for who it is they are.

This shift from projection to appreciation is key to our untigering. 💗
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Posted • “I think it may be an unconventional perspective to see parenting as not a mission to create a human you can be proud of... but instead a journey to learn about this wonderfully unique and amazing human that already exists.” J. Milburn⁣
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HT Responsive Parenting Inspirations

03/25/2022

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When your needs are unmet or ignored, you have to learn to recognize your needs, honor them, and safely share your feelings.

You can learn what you weren't taught or allowed to do.

03/20/2022