Clear Vision Counselling

02/01/2026

Contempt (Superiority/disrespect): Mocking, eye-rolling, sarcasm, or hostile humor intended to make the partner feel despised or worthless.
Antidote: Build a culture of appreciation and respect.

From the Gottman's 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse

This can start out with passive aggressive jokes and it can lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Instead, try practising gratitude for what the other person is doing right. They will be more willing to listen if they feel respected and heard.

01/31/2026

Criticism (Attacking personality/character): Instead of focusing on a specific behavior, it attacks the partner’s core being, often starting with "you always" or "you never".
Antidote: Use a "gentle startup," express needs using "I" statements

01/25/2026

“Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.”
Buddha
We want to have a peaceful life but we fail to notice the rampaging flurry of negative thoughts inside our minds. This is what needs to be tamed first.
Love Christie

01/24/2026

“In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.”
Albert Einstein
When we are in the middle of a tough situation, it can be hard to see the opportunity. But with time, it will emerge.
Love Christie

01/19/2026

“Misery loves company, but that doesn’t mean you have to accept the invitation.”
Gary R. Renard
We can choose who we spend time with and what we believe and what we focus on. All of which will affect our day to day peace of mind.
Love Christie

01/18/2026

“There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice of the mind - you are the one who hears it.”
Michael A. Singer
We choose whether to listen to the voice for Truth or the voice for fear. The power is in the choice.

“There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice of the mind - you are the one who hears it.”

01/12/2026

“No matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.”
Maya Angelou
My mother used to say: "Everything will be brighter in the morning." And in general, it was.
Love Christie

01/11/2026

“When you feel yourself getting defensive, get quiet, then get curious.”
Jefferson Fisher
When I become curious I am open to different perspectives of self and other.
Love Christie

01/04/2026

"I never talk about joy without talking about gratitude... In 12 years, I've never interviewed a single person who would describe their lives as joyful, who would describe themselves as joyous, who was not actively practicing gratitude."
Brene Brown

"I never talk about joy without talking about gratitude... In 12 years, I've never interviewed a single person who would describe their lives as joyful, who would describe themselves as joyous, who was not actively practicing gratitude."

12/21/2025

This is the last message before Christmas and I want to extend my wishes for a very happy and connected holiday season. It has been an honour and a pleasure to work with you over the years.
I wish you a peaceful New Year filled with gratitude and love.

This is the last message before Christmas and I want to extend my wishes for a very happy and connected holiday season. It has been an honour and a pleasure to work with you over the years.

12/20/2025

Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
Rumi
When we change how we see ourselves then everything and everyone around us looks different. This is the power we all have. To change our perspective.

When we change how we see ourselves then everything and everyone around us looks different. This is the power we all have. To change our perspective.

12/15/2025

“Be strategic about productivity—do less exceptionally well, instead of doing more in an average way.”
Laurie Buchanan, PhD
If we are going in too many directions at once it can lower the value of what we are doing. One thing at a time.