10/15/2021
Oct 15 Is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day
Sending love to those of you that carry your babies in your hearts and not your arms.
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Posted • Today is Pregnancy +infant loss Remembrance Day.
T.W. Pregnancy loss
I was 7 months pregnant when I lost Lillian. I was young, and I could barely wrap my head around grief, let alone a grief that I couldn’t find words for.
I was 20 when I lost her, and I only started healing from it 4 years ago. My heart and mind had no idea how to even begin healing from this kind of loss, so I didn’t allow myself space to properly grieve at the time. It was as if because I never got to know her favorite color, what she was interested in or what foods she didn’t like— that I subconsciously told myself I had nothing to be upset about.
As you may know— that not how love, mothering, or being human works.
Every feeling I felt was valid. Every moment of anger, confusion, sadness, longing, resentment.
But was not valid was the little voice telling me that maybe it was my fault.
I did nothing wrong, my body did nothing wrong, and I wasn’t being “punished”. Which are all thoughts that ran through my 20 year old mind.
I didn’t need to hear “everything happens for a reason”, or that there was another plan for me, or her. Because sometimes terrible things happen, without reason and we just have to learn to move through them and be reminded that we are loved.
That’s it.
And if you also had this experience: your feelings, experience, grief are valid no matter how many weeks along you were and It was not your fault. ❤️
I dedicated my book to Lillian (and my mom) because the book I made is the world I would have wanted her to grow up in and she comes through in my art daily. I would have wanted her to know she is enough, worthy, whole and that the world needs her as she is— not as it tells her to be. ♥️
❤️If today is tough for you- my email is always open.