Kendra Coupland

04/03/2026

So many people reached out to me about having similar struggles in their in*******al and heteros*xual relationships. Learning how we navigate power imbalances while also protecting our connection to another person isn't easy work.

When my mom got married to my dad in the 1970s, it was a very radical thing for this white woman to marry a black man. She often reminds me of a time she was at Kitsilano beach with him and people walked by and spat on her calling her a "n-word lover" - she also faced real risk like physical and psychological violence for loving my dad. So I don't blame them for never having capacity to work through the nitty gritty of power imbalances. They also had to work through many other struggles, my dad was living with undiagnosed schizophrenia at the time, and sometimes physically abused her.
So i didn't grow up watching them work through things, i grew up learning how to survive. Which means i have made a lot of mistakes in my own relationships because i was going in without a blue print on how to relate to others beyond survival. I knew it was okay to be in in*******al relationships but i was ill prepared to actually navigate the nuance of them, and I wasn't able to accurate name power imbalances or how they showed up or what my responsibilities within them was.
These are some of the lessons from failed relationships Ive had time to reflect on.

04/01/2026

Not every relationship that we have requires that we share the exact same understanding and capacity. It is true that sometimes limitations in capacity can equate the limitations in the depth that our relationship can go in terms of intimate partnerships and close relations.

But in terms of community building and coalition building learning how to work with people who may be at a different capacity or level of understanding than you can be the vital difference between an organized process thriving or collapsing .

03/16/2026

Are you informed or overwhelmed by the amount of information you're taking in lately?

03/13/2026

I'm excited to announce a new workshop that is aimed at supporting people who are "bad at meditation" at developing skills that help them feel grounded and stable in these destabilizing times.

As someone who lives with ADHD I always believed that I was just terrible at meditation. When I first discovered these techniques 20 years ago, it was life-changing for me, suddenly, I had a way to settle all of the noise in my mind and all of the noise of the world, and I was able to anchor into a peace of my own making. These tools became my survival techniques, and although I did not come up with them (they are over 5000 years old) I have felt deeply grateful to have had time to master them and to be able to share them as a Grandmaster Yoga Teacher over the past decade.

I will be teaching them every Friday at 6:30 PM from April 3 until May 8, we will be learning in small, digestible, bite-sized pieces that participants will be able to sustain even after the series. Join me! Click the link into my bio to register today.

10/23/2024

Friends: I have a new workshop with Daniela GR on Embodying Community Care. Folks talk a lot about the importance of community care but a lot of us are unclear on how to practice it in a tangible way.

Join us for a nurturing workshop series designed to deepen our connection to ourselves, each other, and the land through the practice of embodied community care. Through subtle, gentle, and intuitive movement, we will explore self-consent and boundary-discovery, creating space to listen to our bodies and understand our personal limits. This embodied practice will extend to boundary communication, learning to express and respect limits in ways that honor both ourselves and our community.

Together, we will engage in visioning exercises to dream into the community we desire, building curiosity and intention towards collective care. As part of this practice, we will include the land as an active participant, grounding our vision in our relationship with the earth. We will honor the healing properties of plants by creating a nourishing body oil to carry us through the winter months, using plant medicine to care for our skin and cultivate resilience.

This workshop is an invitation to co-create a space where we practice and embody the values of care, boundaries, and connection—both with each other and the natural world. This is an inclusive, trauma-informed space designed for participants to explore at their own pace, with no prior experience needed.

Sliding scale tix available. If you are not able to attend please consider donating towards a ticket for someone else who is surviving in the margins can!

Join Daniela & Kendra for a nurturing workshop designed to deepen our connection to ourselves, each other, and the land through the practice of embodied community care.

09/23/2024

A reminder that today is my last free class at before I go into retreat mode. Classes will recommence at regular time on Monday Oct 7th, in the meantime students can access a free class on my website at kendracoupland.com/move-with-me

Looking forward to seeing everyone next month after I’ve had some time to fill my own cup so I can better pour into others!

08/16/2024

Not an ad! Just really excited to offer some new scents from for aromatherapy after yoga nidra on Thursday nights at

Join me at 6:30pm every Thursday to decompress & meditate with yoga nidra, followed by a community hangout with other meditators, grounding tea & snacks and some aromatherapy.

Best of all? It’s open to everyone, it’s low barrier / accessible, and it’s free.

05/11/2024

A few years back I posted a version of this and it’s time for an update because it’s been three years and we’re not any closer to these rights than we were three years ago. In fact the Conservative Party of Canada is aiming to repeal abortion laws in Canada - which would force so many people to become unwilling mothers if those repeals passed.

MP Arnold Viersen (Conservative Caucus) of Peace River—Westlock Alberta filed a petition on May 7th claiming that The Morgentaler Decision to have zero abortion law goes directly against the charter since it DOES NOT protect life; and that over 98% of abortions are for reasons of social or personal convenience - both of which are factually incorrect.

This Mother’s Day instead of flowers or gift cards or brunch out consider fighting for the rights of mothers and those who choose not to be mothers. Here’s what you can do:

Write you MP to let them know you want to protect abortions and ensure access to universal contraception coverage.

Demand better s*x education & consent education at yours or your child’s school.

Call out disinformation where you see it.Disinformation is one of the most sinister weapons the anti-abortion movement uses in their attempts to weaken our rights.

Make informed decisions at the polls. Many politicians have publicly signaled their support of the anti-abortion movement.

Join (Canada’s Planned Parenthood) in their efforts to protect abortion rights. They do advocacy work and help make emergency abortions affordable to marginalized communities (such a refugees or immigrants without healthcare).

https://www.actioncanadashr.org/take-action/how-you-can-take-action-abortion-rights-canada

Or support the world of these organizations who work with our most marginalized populations to ensure they can address reproductive health.

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05/04/2024

Join me Mondays at 11am and/or Fridays at 10:45am for some gentle hatha yoga. With a focus on mindfulness & self observation over physical dexterity, this class can be practiced from the floor or chair. Modifications will be suggested/can be made for this all levels class. Weekly. Drop in. Open to all, and best of all - it’s at a great price - FREE.
If you’ve ever thought about working with me this is a great opportunity to try a class out!

02/27/2024

Urgent request for support

Trans, neurodivergent refugee from Ukraine requires immediate housing support, after escaping a violent housing situation

Please help by donating towards moving costs and a storage locker for Serafi… Gail McCain needs your support for Ukrainian refugee in violent living situation

02/27/2024

Well I’m exhausted. I’ve gone from reaching 12,000+ people to reaching 29.
Yesterday I posted some important videos in my stories regarding self regulation & anxiety but no one is seeing them 😩🥴

Punishment for being vocal about colonialism & other systems of oppression 😞

What sucks is the it’s actually the larger community that suffers when I get shadow banned - I do a lot of organizing using what little platform I have here. It’s through this platform that my followers have helped support at-risk youth, immigrant workers being abused by employees, house unhoused refugees & help them find work, and provide support and care for single moms and families that are struggling to get by. Not to mention i have used my platform to organize healing spaces from support for survivors of s*xual violence to communal retreats for Black community to fundraising to ensure people could access and afford medication, food and housing during peak covid.

Please engage with my stories, with my posts by saving, sharing and commenting. When my reach is increased I can help more people. When I am purposely silenced it doesn’t affect me personally - my income is not dependant on IG at all - but it does limit how I can be of service to others.

12/31/2023

2023 was a heck of a year for me. So difficult in so many ways, beautiful in others. In the past few years my output has been high, but it hasn’t been balanced and in 2022 I hit a brutal burnout. I spent most of 2023 moving through depression and anxiety and finding myself again - re-centering myself in my own life (which has meant I have had to work through a lot of feelings of shame around being selfish.)
But some of the things I have learned to do (and am learning to practise) this year are to prioritize collaborative & generative intentional relationships over relationships of convenience or (S)kinship. This year I have practised going more slowly and it has been really hard, because I have had to acknowledge the way my internal capitalist exploits, depletes, and abuses me. And I have had to face the ways that I busy myself - in order to avoid my own suffering. I have created more space in my life for stillness and boredom. And I am learning that boredom is space my creativity pours from. My therapist has told me more than once to practice being bored, or being in boring relationships (read: not chaotic or codependent). 🥴 it’s uncomfortable because it’s unfamiliar.

This year I also took multiple courses on nonviolent communication - both as a refresher (I’ve been studying NVC since 2016) & to expand on my practice. it has has been a reminder to get more in touch with my own feelings and needs and to be intentional about where I focus my attention in my attempts to get my own needs met - to find people who want to help me meet them and who I want to help meet theirs in reciprocal & mutually satisfying ways. It’s teaching me to centre connection over who is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’.

In 2024 I wanna shift away from this dynamic of suffering in silence or not voicing my needs and making clear enough requests to the point that I become so frustrated I have to yell to feel heard and I know part of that is choosing to be in relationships with people who want to hear me in the first place.

I’m also over overriding and ignoring my body - which, needs more slowness, tenderness, rest & creature comforts lately.

I’m curious to discover what lessons 2024 brings.