Counselling for All

Counselling for All We address Canada's critical need for accessible mental healthcare by offering affordable counselling to all individuals no matter their income level.

04/17/2026

Grief can catch you off guard, can’t it? One moment you feel okay, and the next a wave of sadness rises out of nowhere.
It’s easy to think this means you’re slipping backwards, that you should be further along by now. But grief doesn’t follow a straight path. It moves in waves, and each one is a natural part of healing, not a sign that something is wrong.
You might find yourself thinking, “Why am I feeling this again?” or “I thought I was doing better.”
In this video, Associate Therapist Eby Sebastian from Counselling for All shares a gentle way to understand and ride these waves with more compassion.
If this resonates, this video may help you feel more grounded as you move through it.

04/15/2026

バンクーバーで心理カウンセリングをさせていただいている靖子です。
今日は子供の癇癪についてお話ししたいと思います。
子供達、癇癪を起こしますよね。実は、感情をコントロールする力って、生まれつきではなく― 育てるスキルなんです。
脳科学的に言うと、子どもの感情調整は まず親との関係の中で発達します。
これを「共同調整（co-regulation）」と言って、 親が感情的に落ち着いていると、 子どもの神経系も、それにつられて落ち着いてくる。
だから、子どもが爆発したとき― まず必要なのは、叱ることより、一緒に落ち着くこと。
✴︎ 声のトーンをゆっくり・低くする
✴︎「そっか、悔しかったんだね」と感情に名前をつける
✴︎解決策は、落ち着いてから話す
子どもの感情調整力を育てるのは、 特別なトレーニングじゃなくて、毎日の小さな関わり方。親が感情の「お手本」になることが、 一番の発達サポートです。

Hi, This is Yasuko. Today I want to talk about meltdown and coregulation.
“My kid cries or melts down over everything”, which is normal.
Here's the thing — the ability to manage emotions isn't something kids are just born with. It's a skill that develops over time.
And brain science tells us something really important: emotional regulation first develops through relationships — especially with parents.
This is called co-regulation. When you're calm, your child's nervous system actually picks up on that and starts to settle too.
So when your child is in full meltdown mode — what they need first isn't a lecture. It's someone calm to regulate with.
✴︎ Lower your voice — slow and soft
✴︎Name the feeling: "You were really frustrated, huh?"
✴︎Save the problem-solving for after they've calmed down
Building emotional regulation in kids doesn't require a special program. It happens in the small, everyday moments.

04/14/2026

For many neurodivergent individuals, anxiety doesn’t start with worry; it starts with overwhelm.
Too much input, shifting expectations, or not knowing where to begin can quickly build into pressure. Neurodivergent nervous systems may be more sensitive to these changes, so anxiety can show up more easily and feel more intense. Over time, this can create a pattern of trying harder, pushing through, and still feeling like you’re falling behind.
You might notice thoughts like:
“I don’t know where to start.”
“This is too much.”
And instead of feeling supported, it can feel like something is wrong with you.
What if anxiety isn’t something to fight, but something your system is trying to communicate?
If this resonates, this video may help you understand your experience in a more supportive and manageable way.
- Shui Jiang, Associate Therapist with Counselling for All

04/10/2026

こんにちは。バンクーバーで心理カウンセリングをしている靖子です。
子どもが興奮したとき、怒ったとき。"落ち着きなさい"より効果的な方法があります。
今日は親子で一緒にできる、簡単な呼吸のテクニックをご紹介します。
名前は**"お花とろうそく呼吸"**。
やり方はとてもシンプルです。
まず、両手を胸の前で合わせて、お花のつぼみを作ります。
息を吸いながら、ゆっくり手を開いて――お花が咲くイメージ。
そして息を吐くときは、ろうそくの火を静かに消すように、細くゆっくりと。
これを3回繰り返すだけです。
なぜこれが効くのか。長くゆっくり吐く呼吸は、副交感神経を活性化して、興奮した神経系を落ち着かせることが神経科学的に示されています。
そして親子で一緒にやることがポイント。
co-regulationtというんですが、子どもは大人の神経系に同調するんです。
親が先に落ち着くことで、子どもの神経系も一緒に整っていくんです。
今夜、寝る前に一緒に試してみてください。 感情調整は、練習するほど身についていきます。

Hi, I’m Yasuko, offering Japanese/English bilingual counselling in the Vancouver area.
When your child is overwhelmed or melting down — 'calm down' doesn't work. But this does.
Today I'm sharing a simple breathing technique you and your child can do together — called Flower and Candle Breathing.
Here's how it works.
Bring both hands together in front of your chest — like a flower bud.
As you breathe in, slowly open your hands — imagine the flower blooming.
Then breathe out slowly and gently — like you're blowing out a candle without letting the flame go out.
Repeat this three times together.
Why does it work? A slow, extended exhale activates the parasympathetic nervous system — which helps bring an activated nervous system back into a regulated state.
And the key is doing it together.
Children co-regulate through us. When we as parents settle our own nervous system first, our children's nervous systems follow.
You're not just teaching a skill — you're becoming a calming presence.
Try this tonight before bed, or the next time things feel big.
Emotional regulation is a skill — and it grows with practice.

04/08/2026

Spring cleaning isn’t just physical; it can also apply to mental load.
In this video Associate Therapist, Kelly, explores how small changes and simplification can support clarity and reduce overwhelm.

04/07/2026

In recognition of World Health Day, I encourage everyone to try a simple mental health check-in. Pausing to reflect on thoughts, feelings, and energy can support overall wellbeing and self-care

04/02/2026

World Autism Awareness Day is a reminder of how important it is to understand and accept neurodiversity. When we respect differences in communication, sensory needs, and lived experiences, we help create more inclusive and supportive spaces 💛

03/31/2026

Learn more about the window of tolerance from Associate Therapist Kelsy Nelson.

Video Tanscript:
Hello, it's Kelsey, Associate Therapist with Counseling for All. So today I want to talk about your window of tolerance, which is when you feel like you can deal with life stressors or pressures without it bothering you too much.

On either end of the window of tolerance is hyper, arousal, and hypoarousal.

Hyper arousal is when you are anxious, angry, out of control, and overwhelmed, whereas hypoarousal is when you are spacey, zoned out, numb, or frozen.

Think of your window of tolerance like a meter, and throughout the day you may fluctuate up towards overwhelm, or down towards numbness, depending on the triggers that happen throughout your day. But if you stay within your window, you can remain regulated and balanced.

When you experience trauma or stress, the size of your window of tolerance can shrink, so it takes less for you to be pushed off balance. To help remain within your window of tolerance, it is beneficial to know what triggers you into either hypo or hyper arousal, and which state of arousal you enter and when.

Then you can utilize different regulating methods to help bring yourself back into your window of tolerance.
If you would like to know more about the window of tolerance and how the different regulation strategies could be beneficial, reach out to a therapist for support.

Bipolar disorder is not the same as the typical ups and downs kids go through. The mood swings are more extreme and acco...
03/31/2026

Bipolar disorder is not the same as the typical ups and downs kids go through. The mood swings are more extreme and accompanied by changes in sleep, energy level, and the ability to think clearly. Know the signs and symptoms via the Institute of Mental Health (NIMH): https://go.nih.gov/dUeZJ8O .

03/27/2026

Associate Therapist Stephen Spagnuolo:

Many people find themselves replaying conversations after they happen, wondering if they said the right thing. Noticing when reflection turns into rumination can help reduce unnecessary self-criticism.

03/25/2026

Associate Therapist Shui Jang:

Identity isn’t something you suddenly find.
It gathers slowly through living,
through moments that feel true and moments that don’t.
Uncertainty isn’t emptiness -
it’s space for becoming.

03/24/2026

March is often a time to “get back on track,” but pushing hard without pause can leave us drained.

In this video, Associate Therapist Abbey shares a gentle reminder: productivity and self-care aren’t opposites — they work together. Even small, intentional moments for rest, reflection, or relaxation can recharge your energy and improve focus.
Abbey’s learned that rest isn’t laziness — it’s essential.

Protecting your time for yourself helps you show up fully in all areas of life. 💛

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