01/27/2026
From Dr. Jonathan Shedler:
"Here’s one of the most important things I’ve learned:
Severe personality problems find camouflage. No one thinks “I’m a sadist” or “I’m a malignant narcissist.”
They find a belief system or social group that validates their most hateful, destructive impulses and construes them as virtues.
The most toxic and hateful people are utterly convinced they fight on the side all that is true and right.
They find a way to give free rein to their hate—to attack, to treat others cruelly and viciously—and find allies to cheer them on, equally convinced they’re on the side of all that is good and righteous.
For professional colleagues looking for a more theoretical explanation, the psychological processes are splitting, projection, and projective identification.
Splitting means not recognizing one’s own capacity for hate, cruelty, and destructiveness. The person is blind to the bad in themselves. Instead, they project the badness onto some designated other—who now becomes the repository of all that is bad and evil, and that must be attacked.
That’s the projection. What is split off from the self is projected onto someone else.
The person now feels fully justified in unleashing their hate on the other person, who is seen (via projection) as someone monstrous, who must be punished or destroyed.
If the person on the receiving end of the projection responds to the intense provocation with anger or dares to fight back, this is taken as further proof of how hateful and evil they are, and why attacking them is just and right. This process is called projective identification.
The end result is that the person can deny their own sa**sm, cruelty, and hate, while simultaneously acting it out without restraint—and feel entirely on the side of truth and right as they do it."
How personality pathology hides behind virtue.