02/18/2026
A deeper dive based on my last reel…
This topic is cultural, inter-generational, and it’s massive.
I believe at the core the message is this:
All men will play out s3xual behaviours that hurt them and others due to their trauma, and for a long time there’s been a divide created in men based on who they choose to be s3xual with.
This has confused men.
This has positioned us against each other.
This has resulted in very rigid labels around how we need to show up on our s3xual relationships and what it means if they interact with a man or woman.
This has resulted in a lot men fearing their natural proclivity to connect with other men.
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In my work I’ve helped men to better understand themselves, and in that they questioned what they understood to be “gay”. That the shame and guilt around it shifted. And with that came a different approach to their s*xuality. Ultimately, self-acceptance was found there, and that’s what matters.
Indeed, the same can occur for a heteros*xual man. In that if he feels the desire he gives himself the permission to explore with another man without fear, shame, or guilt.
The big question is: where are his desires rooted? Shame and a desire to be validated and loved? Or, from a place of love, curiosity, and security.
If it’s rooted in shame and ultimately a desire to be validate, loved, accepted, etc… then regardless of who he is choosing to be s3xual with, there is something to be addressed and worked on there.
Thus, it’s not the s3xual presentation, but why that s3xual behaviours is being played out.
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My work aims to help men lead s3xual lives that are fulfilling to them, based on a sense of security, embodiment, and where the wisdom of Eros can flow naturally.
And if you are struggling to lead a s3xual life that’s fuelling and healthy for you as a man, let’s chat.