sevda.psixolog

02/23/2026

10/15/2022

🔱About me:

I am Sevda Saf MEd Psychology.
I recently began a new life with my family in Canada. I love simple and positive people,travel and food.
Currently my focus has been to study in depth CBT techniques, as self development is the path to knowledge.
Previously I spent many years working with children. Every psychologist should begin their career working with children as this is when many issues that affect people later in life start to develop.
I believe that a person can achieve anything through desire and hard work.
For the consultation: I hope that you can entrust me with your most intimate thoughts and feelings, and leave fully charged with positive emotions, and to believe in yourself and your abilities. After all, you only have one life to live and you should live it to its fullest, so you can understand what you truly want for yourself.
A few of my favorite phrases:
⚜️Not everything you want is what you really want.
⚜️Transformation is a process, not a single event.
⚜️ The sun lives in every person,let them spread its rays.

08/03/2022

🔆The art of effective listening is essential to clear communication, and clear communication is necessary to management success.
-JAMES CASH

Listening is something that goes beyond the hearing process-it requires concentration and attention for you to
process meaning from words. According to Toastmasters International, there are four basic levels of hearing and listening:
1) Non-listeners are preoccupied with their own thoughts; they hear words but they don't listen to what is being said.
2) Passive listeners hear the words but don't fully absorb or understand them.
3) Listeners pay attention to the speaker but grasp only some of the message.
4) Active listeners are completely focused on the speaker and his body language. They understand the meaning of the words and the "message behind the words."
When you actively listen, you allow new ideas, opportunities, and solutions to filter into your awareness.

Without mastering the art of active listening, not only will it take you longer to be successful, but you will impose limits on your ability to grow, learn, and earn the respect of others.

⭐️There are two requirements to being a good listener.
The first one is argue less and listen more. Have you ever had to redo something because that's not what was wanted? Not delivering can be costly if payment is contingent on providing a product that your customer wants and will pay for. If you are a salaried employee, having to redo projects can be costly for the company and worse-it could cost you your job. Listen and repeat the request to verify that you're in agreement and you will eliminate or greatly reduce those situations.

The second requirement is to be interested rather than interest-
ing. Some people seem to think that always presenting themselves
in the best light, getting your story out first, self-promoting, and faunting your expertise and intelligence with words and comments is the way to successful relationships with others. But the road to success is actually paved with humility-that is, focusing
on others rather than on yourself.

07/28/2022

🔆Success follows doing what you want to do.There is no other way to be successful. MALCOLM S. FORBES

Do you know what your core genius is? It's the one thing that you love to do and do so well, that you hardly feel like charging people for it. It's effortless and fun-and could be your life's work if you could find a way to make it your
livelihood. Successful people recognize the value of their core genius and do everything they can to spend all of their time doing it- because that's where the financial rewards and the joy are.

When you concentrate on doing what you love to do, not only will you be more productive, you will find that life is much more enjoyable, too.

⭐️Let’s get the root of why most people have not arranged their lives to focus 100% on their core genius. Why don't people delegate tasks?

•They're afraid to give up control, even of tasks they hate
doing: While someone else won't do it exactly like you would, there are many ways to accomplish something. Different isn't wrong, it could even be better.
•They're reluctant to spend the money for help: Investing your time where you produce the greatest results, like increased income, likely means spending a smaller amount of money with people who can free up your time.
•They don't want to let go. Many people are control freaks and hoarders of everything. Let the little things go; they don't contribute to your overall success and happiness.
•They've made a habit of doing it: You want to create good habits to replace your poor habits, remember? Doing
something out of routine is unproductive and can become a pretty significant obstacle to reaching your goals. Those are destructive habits and it's time to quit.

Take a look at your life both professional and personal and identify these three things: What you enjoy doing most,
What you enjoy doing least, and How you can move those less meaningful and unproductive tasks off your plate and delegate them to someone else. The goal is to do more of What you enjoy doing most.

07/23/2022

🔆A man is literally what he thinks- James Allen.

We know that our thoughts have a powerful effect on our attitude, motivation, physiology, and even our biochemistry. Since our thoughts actually control our behavior, negative
thoughts can make us anxious, scared, sweat, spill things, forget our lines, and more. Consider polygraph tests-your body reacts to your thoughts, which are responding to the questions being
asked. Your hands get colder, your blood pressure rises, and other
physiological responses occur. Similarly, your body responds to
positive stimuli, too-you feel relaxed, centered, and cheerful.
Reinforce that response experience through positive self-talk-
you have thousands of opportunities every day to practice until it becomes a habit!

✨Avoid them:
•Always-or-Never.
If you think that something will always happen or you'll never get what you want, that's self-sabotage.
Stop using words like always, never and every time.
•Focusing on the Negative.
Choose to focus on the positive.
You'll become more appreciative and optimistic, which will attract more good to you.
•Catastrophic Predicting. Do you create the worst possible scenario in your mind, which you accept as a certainty?
• Mind Reading. Unless you're a psychic, you can't read any-
one else's mind. You don't know what another person is thinking unless he or she tells you. Don't do it.
•Guilt-Tripping. Words such as should, must, ought to, and have to will lead to guilt, which is never productive. Guilt is
an emotional barrier to success.
• Labeling. By labeling yourself or someone else with a derogatory term like jerk, idiot, or arrogant, you can't see the uniqueness of the person or situation.
•Personalizing. Things happen every day that aren't directed at you personally, so don't assign a personal meaning to a neutral event. There are hundreds of explanations for other peoples actions other than what your negative thoughts conjure up.

What if you could transform your inner critic into an inner coach who supports and encourages you and gives you confidence? With a little awareness, attention, and focus, you can do it.

07/19/2022

🔆“None of us can change our yesterday but all of us can change our tomorrows”-General Colin Powell

When someone has hurt you deeply- or even harmed you physically or emotionally-it's hard to let go of
the past and move forward to living a successful life.
The Total Truth Process is a tool that will enable you to release any negative emotions from your past. By expressing all of your true feelings to the person who hurt you, you can move past the hurt and reclaim the naturally optimistic person you are meant to be.
When you speak to the person (you can also write a Total Truth Letter to send them, share with them, or for yourself alone), be sure to address the negative emotions you're carrying by completing these phrases:
•Anger and resentment: I'm angry that or I resent that..
•Hurt: I feel sad when. .. or It hurts me when ..
•Fear: I was afraid that... or I feel scared when.
Regret and remorse: I'm sorry that.
•Wants: All I ever wanted . . . or I deserve ..
•Love, compassion, forgiveness: I forgive you for…

Award-winning author Isabelle Holland said, As long as you don't forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy rent-free space in your head." When you do forgive, it allows you to live in the
present where you can take action and create a successful future
for yourself, your family, and your company. Here's how:

1) Acknowledge your anger and resentment.
2) Acknowledge the hurt and pain it created.
3) Acknowledge the fears and self-doubts it created.
4) Acknowledge any part you may have had in letting the behavior or event occur or continue.
5) Acknowledge what you wanted and didn't get, then attempt to understand where the other person was coming from at the time and the needs he was trying to meet by his behavior.
6)Let go and forgive the person.

07/16/2022

As you move forward on your journey from where you are to where you want to be, you are going to have to face your fears. Fear is normal. And it keeps you on your toes.
If you are one of those people who run the other way when you feel a pang of fear, be aware that there's something far more scary: never really living the life you want. The truth is, people
do lose their footing, they do lose their jobs, they do forget their lines. William G. T. Shedd once said, "A ship is safe in the harbor, but that's not what it's for."
You have already clarified why you're here on this Earth. And you've made a commitment to reach your goals. The only way you will be successful and eventually become who you were
meant to be is to leave your safe zone and trust that you will make it.

It's important to remember that almost all of your tears are self-created, but once you decide that an idea is true, you attach yourself to it even though it has little or no merit at all. Freeing yourself from your erroneous beliefs can be difficult. Yet, because you are the one doing the fantasizing, you also have the ability to end the fear by facing the real facts and not giving into your negative images.

✨Here are 4 very effective approaches to overcoming unfounded fears:

1) Identify what you're imagining that frightens you, then replace that image with its positive opposite. Write it in the form of an affirmation.

2) Focus on the physical sensations of your fear, then focus on the feelings you would like to be experiencing instead.

3) Remember a time when you triumphed in the face of fear-like giving a speech or passing an important exam.

4) If your fear is so big that it's paralyzing, scale down the risk. Take small steps first, then take on the bigger challenges at a later time.

07/13/2022

Imagination is everything.
It is the preview of life’s coming attractions. -Albert Einstein

🔆Visualization is one of the most effective tools you can use to reach your goals because it accelerates your success immensely.

✨It allows your brain's reticular activating system to through" ideas, observations, people, and opportunities from amongst the millions of images it processes for you every day.
✨Through The Law of Attraction, visualization attracts 10 you the people and opportunities that will benefit you.

Make the most out of visualizing your affirmations by applying these same principles:

✨Add sounds, smells, tastes, and feelings to your images. What
does it sound like at your home on the beach? How does the sea smell? What feelings would you be experiencing?

✨Use emotions to add fuel to your vision. When confronted with intense emotions, an image or scene can stay locked in our memory forever. Use this phenomenon to its fullest benefit by infusing your visions with motion and energy!

You can also write your personal affirmations on index cards using color felt markers, then draw illustrations of your dream house or perfect job.

You may not be aware of it, but when you visualize your goals as having already been achieved, your subconscious mind will find a way to turn your current situation into the new vision that you have been feeding it. If you feed your mind pictures of a beautiful home, a loving relationship, and an exciting career, it will work on achieving those things. On the other hand, if you are constantly feeding it negative pictures, like a stressful job, an impossible feat, or a failing relationship- guess what?-it will work to achieve those, too.
Set aside time each and every day to visualize every one of your goals as already complete. This is one of the most vital things you can do to make your dreams come true. Some psychologists say that an hour of visualization is equal to seven hours of physical effort.

07/11/2022

🔆The core tenet of The Law of Attraction says: What you think
about, talk about, believe strongly about, and feel intensely about, you
will bring about. Once you know that, by using your thoughts, you can help bring about the opportunities, resources, and people who can help you accomplish your goals, you'll start paying greater attention to the direction of your thoughts and what you focus on throughout the day.

Everything-including you-is vibrating at a specific and unique frequency. That means you can learn to use the
power of deliberate thought to stay in a state of higher vibration and attract what you want in life. Here's how:

⭐️Step One: Ask for what you want.
Decide what you really want and use words that focus on thar goal. Replace negative images and thoughts with positive ones. Consistently ask for what you want and then let the
Universe worry about how you'll get it.

⭐️Step Two: Believe you'll get what you want, then take action.
Believing means being confident that you've put your future in the hands of a greater power and that your goals can be accomplished. Taking action is another form of belief-after all, we would only take action on goals we believe are possible
to begin with.

⭐️Step Three: Receive what you want.
One of the best ways to bring yourself into vibrational align-ment with what you want is to use affirmations statement of your goals and desires already achieved in present time
Repeat them regularly so that your subconscious mind main-tains a vibrational match to what you want.

07/06/2022

🌟
Let this thought encourage you: No matter what your age of
circumstance, you can always decide to do things differently. You
can start the process of deciding what you want.

Do you know that you were born with the seed of who you were meant to become already inside you? You were
also born without inhibitions or fears-you cried when you were hungry, you crawled all over the place, you laughed at silly noises and faces. As you got older, you were told to stop crying, to grow up, to stop being selfish. You learned to ignore the things you really wanted and to fit in with what your parents, teachers, or society told you was best. Now it's time to un-learn
and replace these childhood decisions.
Michelangelo, the renaissance sculptor and painter who spent
four years lying on his back painting the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel, said, "The greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it." Wow!
When we allow others to dictate our "wants" or determine what we should do with our lives, we end up settling for whatever is handed to us, or worse, pursuing a life we simply don't enjoy.
This can lead to depression, anxiety, stress, and a whole list of negative outcomes. Your life is exactly that-_yours. No one can determine what your life experience should be- other than you.
⭐️To help you decide what you really want, try these two exercises.

✨1. Make an “I want” list:
Write down 30 things you want to do. 30 things you want to have,and 30 things you want to be before you die. The big things-cars and houses will probably be at the top of the lis, but as you work your way down, you’ll rediscover your core values like making a difference.

✨2. Make a “20 things I love to do” list:
Think you can’t make a living doing the things you love? When you write them down and really think through what it would be like to pursue those activities every day-and how others pursue them already -you’ll discover you can make a career out of doing what you love!❤️
#мотивация

07/01/2022

💯%
We don't naturally want to take responsibility for our lives.
We want to give the responsibility to someone else.
We blame them when our lives aren't good(DONALD MILLER)

Good News😉:YOU HAVE TOTAL CONTROL OVER THE THOUGH YOU THINK, THE IMAGES YOU VISUALIZE AND ACTIONS YOU TAKE!!!
On your journey to a life of abundance, fulfilment and success taking 💯 % responsibility for your future is the starting line.
It is easy sometimes to think things “just happen” to you- that you were an innocent bystander or an unwitting participant. Don’t let yourself be tricked into playing that game. You are the one Creating or Allowing it to happen!
Start paying attention to “Signals”! There are always signals that tell you something is off or something is about happen. If you don’t pay attention to the internal and external alerts you will needlessly suffer. Internal alerts are feelings things like gut feelings, intuitive messages and feelings of stress, tension or pain. Paying closer attention to your internal and external alerts will enable you to change your actions or responses once you become aware of them.

Let this thought encourage you: Life becomes much easier when you take control of your own destiny! Don’t accept that things “just happen” to you-choose to create the life you really want!
🔆Look to the affirmations about this topic 👆(stories), try to repeat them with positive energy every morning and night.
Be 😊