MJNCounselling

09/23/2023

A great read!

2 keys to enduring, companionate love.

09/16/2023

This is a great piece on how much work and what kind of work healthy relationships take.

1. You're always walking on eggshells.

07/24/2023

Our deliberate decision to respond to bids tells our partner we see them, we hear them, and they matter to us.

Requests for connection happen between partners all the time. Sometimes they are extremely subtle, such as a touch on the hand, or very straightforward as in, “Take a look at this for me. What do you think?” Dr. Gottman’s research has shown that successful couples respond to bids more frequently than distressed couples do. If partners bids are consistently ignored or disregarded, they form a negative view of the relationship and distance themselves from their partner.

Learn more about how to keep the romance alive here: https://bit.ly/3rsWlRW

06/16/2023

Trauma is ignited as though we re-experience it rather than just recall or remember it. And we can change that.

06/12/2023

Growing humans requires love and support.

“We have to break the cycle of hurting children to raise children. Hurting children grow up to believe that children deserve to be hurt, that they MUST be hurt to be raised well. And thus generational pain is passed along. But, sometimes, hurting children grow up and recognize the destructive pattern. They do the work to heal themselves and to find ways to raise their children peacefully. And the generational pain cycle is broken. This is our time, our chance to heal ourselves and to heal the future. Let’s choose the path of peace, my friends. Let’s break the cycle, not the child. Let’s change the world, one little heart at a time.”🌎 L.R.Knost

Healing Your Hurts So You Don’t Hurt Your Child - http://www.littleheartsbooks.com/2014/02/07/healing-your-hurts-so-you-dont-hurt-your-children/

The Problem with Punishment - http://www.littleheartsbooks.com/2013/02/10/the-problem-with-punishment/

Toxic Parenting - http://www.littleheartsbooks.com/2014/07/19/toxic-parenting-spanking-shaming-threatening-manipulating/

Spare the Rod: The Heart of the Matter - http://www.littleheartsbooks.com/2014/05/10/spare-the-rod-the-heart-of-the-matter-2/

Practical, Effective Alternatives to Punishment - http://www.littleheartsbooks.com/2012/09/30/practical-gentl-effective-discipline/

06/08/2023

5 things to keep in mind during challenging discussions.

Do you ever find yourself in an argument, wishing you had the exact recipe to resolve it peacefully? Subscribers to our Love Notes newsletter receive a free monthly download, and this month includes 3 relationship recipes to help!
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06/07/2023

Important read for blended families.

"Remarried couples need a strong foundation of trust and communication in order to buffer the challenges that arise from stepfamily life, and with the understanding that marriage satisfaction determines stepfamily stability, a loving and well-adjusted stepfamily is possible when couples commit to taking the time and action necessary to get there." - April Eldemire, LMFT (Couples Thrive, Inc.)

In tomorrow's Marriage Minute newsletter, subscribers will learn tips to help blended families thrive. Subscribe today: http://bit.ly/2qB8FAc

06/01/2023

Today is the last chance to get the free May download for our Love Notes newsletter subscribers. This month, get a BINGO card of date ideas. How quickly can you get a BINGO? What about the outside edge or completing the whole card?
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05/30/2023

05/30/2023

"S*x also gets better as we are willing to embrace the honesty and vulnerability of our humanity. When we are not trying to prove ourselves to be right or good enough in our s*x lives, we are more available to each other. Masks and facades fall away, and we can be truly intimate. Honest intimacy keeps s*x connected and evolving, allowing us to love and be loved by our partners in profound ways." - From the book “Honest S*x: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Relationships Alive” by author Shana James

Read more: https://bit.ly/43iFD5B

05/26/2023

An important read…

"When I first had children, like so many mothers in this patriarchal society, I tried to do it all. I thought it was a sign of a “good mother” to be with my children all the time or at least as much as humanly possible. I rarely took time for myself and noticed growing resentment and increasing irritability." Learn more from Nicole Schiener (Peace and Possibility) about families sharing the invisible load here: https://bit.ly/437dIpg

05/22/2023

Make room for and normalize all feelings. ❤️🩵🧡🩷💛