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Resurrecting the Male Divine, Victoria, BC (2025)

11/16/2025

This Conscious Kiss

For so many of us kissing is a prelude, something we do that leads to something else. And for some people it’s something they have to do to get to the next step.

Conscious Kissing is its own incredible moment of being. There is nothing else other than the delicious sensation, the feeling, the taste of our mouths.

Kissing is one of the most intimate acts we can share with a partner, in fact there are times when kissing is more intimate than s*x. Kissing brings us closer together than anything. Because kissing is so intimate, it also expresses our emotional state.

Kissing is the sharing of our essence. In the exchange of fluids and breath we mix ourselves with our lovers.

Our kiss is a communication. As well as being arousing it’s a journey we take our partners and ourselves on. In the delicate touch of lips and tongues we tell where we are. Our intention, our love and our desire are communicated in the moment.

We can bring ourselves into presence during our kiss. It’s not just a prelude to s*x, rather a world of sensation and emotion on its own. When we’re present during a kiss it has no need to go anywhere, be anything other than the beautiful connection it is.

We can ride the waves of gentleness and fire, kissing slow and soft, hard and deep and urgent. Our mouths become the expression of all that is within us at that moment. My hand in your hair pulling you to me as I share my fire with you. My hands on your face surrounding you, enclosing us in connection.

Kissing is playing, celebrating our joy in each other.

Kissing is s*x and lo******ng on its own. We get lost in the taste, in the sensation. My whole body, my whole being, my heart is expressed in my kiss. It’s a dance of energy as we move in and out and around each other. It’s the song of our intimacy in our sighs and our moans. And it’s the portal to lo******ng divine in the sacred element of our kiss.

There are reflexology points on the tongue.

There is a connection between the tongue and the brain. We often hold a great deal of tension in our tongues, which is linked to tension in the jaws. The more relaxed your tongue can be, the quieter your mind can become.

Kissing becomes a meditation, on sensuality, on presence.
When I teach massage and touch it begins with a Heart Connection.

You can do the same with your mouth.

Connect with your Heart, feel your Heart Centre in the middle of your chest.

Maybe even put your hands there.

As you breathe, imagine that you’re breathing in to your Heart.
There might be a feeing, a sensation, a warmth, a colour…
As you breathe, allow that to get stronger, brighter, more intense…
Then as you breathe, allow that to move to your mouth, let it be in your lips, in your tongue, in your teeth, everywhere…

When your mind wanders during your kiss, come back to your breath.

Then focus on the feelings and sensations you’re experiencing. This will intensify the moment.

Look into your lover’s eyes.

Bring the energy from your Heart into your gaze.
Approach them slowly.

Allow the first moment to be soft, to be gentle, a greeting, a melting…

Explore all of their mouth, their lips, their teeth, their tongue…
Suck their top lip into your mouth, then their bottom lip…
Gently bite and nibble their lips, then not so gently…
As you suck their top lip, they suck your bottom lip…
Be absolutely passive, allow them to kiss and explore you, to lick your lips, circle their tongue on your lips, in your mouth…
Mirror each other’s dance, whatever they do, you do…
Sigh your breath, your moan, your love, your desire into their mouth…

Slowly, so slowly you kiss…

And then a wave of passion as I grab you with my arms, squeeze you as I kiss you hard and deep…

Change your position, the angle of your mouth on theirs…
Laugh as you kiss…

Look into each other’s eyes as you kiss…
Suck their tongue into your mouth…
Surround their mouth with yours…
Lick outside their lips…

Kiss from your heart, it will be an expression of your love.

~ Jonti Searll
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11/14/2025

Woman is not meant to be suppressed, she is here to be celebrated. That is the true meaning of feminine energy.

Her pleasure, her or**sm, her wetness, her devotion, her surrender, her joy, her breath, her body’s cells, her body parts, her soul, are all meant to be celebrated.

It begins when she connects with her masculine energy.

When a woman feels desired, something ancient awakens in her. A slow warmth spreads through her body, reminding her that she is made of both fire and tenderness. Her energy deepens, softens, expands.

Her feminine essence becomes magnetic. Every movement, every breath carries a quiet invitation—one that speaks of closeness, connection, and the kind of intimacy that is felt before it is touched.

When she feels seen, truly seen, her entire being responds. Her voice softens yet becomes more powerful. Her body relaxes into its natural rhythm, opening to the flow of sensation and emotion within her.

Her sensuality is not just in her body, it is in her intention, her presence, the way she listens, the way she allows herself to feel. She becomes a living expression of invitation and mystery.

The dance between her feminine energy and masculine energy becomes a slow-burning spark. Not rushed. Not forced. A delicious tension that builds with every moment of recognition and trust.

Masculine energy gives her something to lean into—a feeling of grounded steadiness that allows her to melt, to surrender, to open the doors she keeps closed to the world.

In that space, her breath deepens. Her skin becomes more alive. Every part of her senses heighten as she steps into her inner erotic intelligence—the quiet knowing of what feels good, what feels right, what feels true.

Her touch carries meaning. Her presence becomes intoxicating. She feels the current of desire move through her like a river—steady, warm, and full of potential.

The intimacy she creates is not just physical; it is energetic. She invites connection that touches the soul before it ever touches the skin, a closeness that lingers and grows.

And when she follows the pull of her own sensual truth, she becomes irresistible—not because she tries, but because she allows herself to feel everything fully, unapologetically, beautifully.

If you are ready for this kind of transformation—if you desire deep, guided, supported healing—message me. I’ll share the details of my 3-month, one-on-one deep-healing, hand-holding coaching program designed to support you through every step of your awakening and restoration.

I will walk beside you, holding space for your emotions, your stories, your tears, and your transformation.

This journey is about helping you return to your truth, to the woman you were before the pain, before the conditioning, before you forgot how powerful and worthy you are. Message me for more information

- Abhikesh
*xuality *xuality

11/13/2025

After making love, a lot of women feel loved in the moment… but sometimes afterward, they can feel distant, or even a little rejected. It’s not always about what just happened, it’s about what happens next. The way a man handles that quiet moment afterward can make all the difference.

If you really want her to feel wanted, appreciated, and secure, treat her like the queen she is even after the intensity fades. Don’t be so quick to roll over or pull away. Stay close. Let her feel your warmth. Let her know you’re still there not just physically, but emotionally.

Say something soft in her ear. It can be s*xy or sweet, just something to make her smile or blush. Play with her hair, trace little circles on her skin, or hold her hand while your bodies are still close. Those little things matter. They stick with her.

Tell her how amazing she is. Let her know how much you enjoyed her, how much you still want her. Look her in the eyes—really look—and let her see how much you care. Wrap her in your arms and make her feel like she’s the most important thing in the world right then and there.

That’s when intimacy deepens. Sometimes round two just naturally happens when she feels emotionally safe and desired. And if it does, go with it. No pressure, just presence. Later, take her to the shower, laugh a little, maybe get a little playful. If it turns into round three, let it. If not, no big deal.

Then bring her back to bed, wrap her up in your arms, and fall asleep together with nothing but peace between you.

Moments like that stick with her, not just because of the s*x, but because of the way you made her feel afterward. Seen. Wanted. Safe. Loved. And that’s what keeps her coming back, not just to your bed, but to your heart.

~Darryle Holloway-Hughes
Art: Pinterest
Empower Wholeness Intimacy
*xuality *xuality

11/13/2025

He is your man… the man whose presence feels like an ocean swelling inside your body,
filling you with warmth, wetness, and a surrender you can’t hide.

This is your journey. Your destiny. Your unfolding.

When you heal your wounds, you finally meet him. And the moment you do, your body recognises him before your mind does.

Your breath shifts. Your thighs soften.
Your chest opens. Your soul whispers....Yes… this is him.

When you find him, cherish him. Nurture him.
Nourish him. Love him with the fire of your feminine heart.

Give him your softness, your warmth, your desire, your devotion. Offer him everything your feminine was born to give.

He never asks for anything. He never demands.
Because your masculine man gives first. He protects. He provides. He holds your body with an energy that makes your knees weak.

A healed woman feels him even before he touches her. His presence slides down her spine like warm fingertips. His silence deepens her breath. His eyes awaken heat between her thighs.

She doesn’t chase. She opens. She doesn’t control. She melts. She doesn’t fear. She surrenders to the truth running through her body.

When the right masculine meets the right feminine, your body reacts instantly. Your lips part. Your breath shortens. Your thighs press together. Your chest rises without thought.
A slow ache builds inside your belly.

He doesn’t touch you to take. He touches you to awaken the sleeping woman inside you. He reminds your body how deeply it can feel.

His hands on your waist command your surrender. His voice melts your resistance.
His energy doesn’t just enter the room, it enters you.

A man like this makes you wetter with his presence.

He becomes your desire… your madness… your calm… your fire.

And when you nurture him back, when your fingers trace his skin, when your breath meets his, when your body opens for him, he becomes even more powerful.

More protective. More masculine. More your taste… so you can finally relax into the kind of safety your body has been craving for lifetimes.

This is the love that awakens your feminine body and makes a man rise into his divine masculine.

But only a healed woman can receive this.
A wounded heart closes. A healed heart opens.

If you desire this level of connection, this depth, intensity, surrender, and s*xual awakening, I invite you to my 3-month one-on-one deep healing, hand-holding coaching program.

We go into your wounds, your feminine energy, your desires… so you can finally receive the man who is your ocean. Message me for details.

- Abhikesh
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11/11/2025

If a man and a woman truly want to give something meaningful to their partner, then give them your healed version. Do the inner work. Heal your wounds. Sit with your truth.

When two individuals grow individually and rise together, they become a blessing for each other.

That is the most beautiful gift you can ever give to your children, a home built on awareness, not wounds.

Because children don’t need perfect parents.
They need parents who are willing to heal.
They need parents who choose understanding over ego, softness over chaos, and presence over projection.

Your healing becomes their safety.
Your awareness becomes their foundation.
Your love becomes their blueprint for future relationships.

When a man heals, he learns how to hold, how to stay, how to respond instead of react.
When a woman heals, she learns how to receive, how to trust, how to soften into her true nature.

Together, they create a home where love is not a trauma response, it is a conscious choice.

If you want to give your partner something divine, give them your healed self.
If you want to give your children something sacred, give them a healed home. That is the real legacy.

And if you feel called to heal, to break old patterns, and to finally create the relationship and family you deserve,
I can support you.

I offer a 3-month, one-on-one deep healing, hand-holding coaching program.

This is not surface-level work, this is root-level transformation. I walk with you through every emotion, every trigger, every layer.

Your healing becomes my responsibility for those three months. You will see your growth from day one, not because healing is fast,
but because healing is honest.

It unfolds slowly, softly, gently, and that is my promise to you. I hold you through the process with presence, depth, and safety.

If you are ready to choose awareness over wounds, love over fear, and a healed future over a painful past, I am here to walk that journey with you, step by step, message me for more information.

- Abhikesh
*xuality *xuality

11/11/2025

Brother, you break a woman’s sense of worth when you constantly let your eyes and attention roam to other women.

When you, as her man, continuously consume s*xual images, linger on other women in public, or flirt like it’s a harmless game, she will feel diminished, hollowed out. Maybe not immediately, but slowly, quietly, until she wonders whether she was ever the one you truly wanted.

That uncertainty corrodes trust.
It drives her away…
makes her settle for less…
or pushes her toward someone
who makes her feel seen.

This isn’t only about individual weakness. We live in a society that excuses a man’s wandering gaze. Sexy imagery floods our feeds and screens. Ads, clips, movie scenes, crafted to yank our attention and keep it fractured.

Instead of being guided through healthy curiosity and real intimacy, young men are offered a stream of cheap stimulus and taught to chase it.

At the same time, young women learn early that s*xual display gets results. It’s an effective lever. And so the dance becomes transactional: attention traded for validation.

Behind closed doors, men seek to indulge fantasies they’re ashamed to admit, while women try to satisfy desires that don’t make them feel truly desired.

Everyone ends up playing roles that were never meant to be the whole story. Men grow distracted and restless; women grow wary and transactional. Genuine closeness gets crowded out.

Brother, if you cannot steward your s*xual focus, you are not in control of a core part of your life. That lack of discipline has consequences. It signals a deeper fragility. Mastery of attention is an inner strength, and its absence shows up in how you behave toward your partner.

A man who cannot direct his desire lacks the strength to lead himself, let alone love another well.

But men who can direct their erotic energy intentionally, who choose where to place their desire, and who protect their partner’s emotional safety, are strong, centered, and in control.

For a woman, being with a contained man means she can relax into being desired, rather than competing for scraps. She feels honored, secure, and free to be her true self. And that safety fuels the alchemy of true intimacy.

If we want relationships that last and love that deepens, men must cultivate discipline. It raises the bar for what a man is worth, because he is able to govern himself, and honor his woman and his relationship.

On the other hand, women need to learn that they don't have to use their s*xuality for validation. It raises the bar for what a woman is worth, because she is able to honor her body, herself, and her man and the relationship.

They finally become people who can stand still in a world built to pull them apart.

Bas Waijers Baumann
Art: Pinterest
Source-Empower Wholeness Intimacy
*xuality *xuality

11/10/2025

Brother, you break a woman’s sense of worth when you constantly let your eyes and attention roam to other women.

When you, as her man, continuously consume s*xual images, linger on other women in public, or flirt like it’s a harmless game, she will feel diminished, hollowed out. Maybe not immediately, but slowly, quietly, until she wonders whether she was ever the one you truly wanted.

That uncertainty corrodes trust.
It drives her away…
makes her settle for less…
or pushes her toward someone
who makes her feel seen.

This isn’t only about individual weakness. We live in a society that excuses a man’s wandering gaze. Sexy imagery floods our feeds and screens. Ads, clips, movie scenes, crafted to yank our attention and keep it fractured.

Instead of being guided through healthy curiosity and real intimacy, young men are offered a stream of cheap stimulus and taught to chase it.

At the same time, young women learn early that s*xual display gets results. It’s an effective lever. And so the dance becomes transactional: attention traded for validation.

Behind closed doors, men seek to indulge fantasies they’re ashamed to admit, while women try to satisfy desires that don’t make them feel truly desired.

Everyone ends up playing roles that were never meant to be the whole story. Men grow distracted and restless; women grow wary and transactional. Genuine closeness gets crowded out.

Brother, if you cannot steward your s*xual focus, you are not in control of a core part of your life. That lack of discipline has consequences. It signals a deeper fragility. Mastery of attention is an inner strength, and its absence shows up in how you behave toward your partner.

A man who cannot direct his desire lacks the strength to lead himself, let alone love another well.

But men who can direct their erotic energy intentionally, who choose where to place their desire, and who protect their partner’s emotional safety, are strong, centered, and in control.

For a woman, being with a contained man means she can relax into being desired, rather than competing for scraps. She feels honored, secure, and free to be her true self. And that safety fuels the alchemy of true intimacy.

If we want relationships that last and love that deepens, men must cultivate discipline. It raises the bar for what a man is worth, because he is able to govern himself, and honor his woman and his relationship.

On the other hand, women need to learn that they don't have to use their s*xuality for validation. It raises the bar for what a woman is worth, because she is able to honor her body, herself, and her man and the relationship.

They finally become people who can stand still in a world built to pull them apart.

Bas Waijers Baumann
*xuality *xuality

11/09/2025

She wants to be taken dark and deep

And this power and capacity lies in your unexpressed primal desires and impulses

Desires are not the issue, it is the suppression of them that is!

Every time you shame these parts of yourself, you create massive blocks in your energy and emotional body and so your life force gets stuck

Thus your s.exual energy cannot sublimate because of massive knots of shame

However once you free up this shame — MASSIVE openings occur and your sxxual energy can now move UP and be transmuted

This is where you experience long love making, that rejuvenates you both, your full power comes online because your life force is channeled into higher states of consciousness and the intimacy deepens to a whole new level where your hearts blast open to cosmic love ~ this is t@ntra

Witnessing him express his deepest and darkest taboos, desires, fetishes and fantasies .. I have seen massive transformation

A man who has owned his desires and is a man who can take a woman deep and dark, yet remain attuned to the heart

When a man hasn’t owned these parts of his sxuality, the primal urges can often take over him, he is no longer in control of this beast and this is legitimately unsafe for women and society

This is the deep work inside S.EX GOD

~Tantric Alchemy
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11/08/2025

When a woman heals her wounds, she finally meets her masculine energy — the energy that builds her, pours into her, loves her, meets her, tastes her, and protects her. That is the sacred work of the masculine — to hold her softness with presence and devotion.

When she meets this energy within, her body starts to awaken. Every inch of her skin begins to breathe again. The parts of her that once felt numb now throb with aliveness. Her lips become warmer, her chest rises with deeper breaths, her spine straightens as if she’s remembering something ancient — the way she was meant to be touched, seen, and felt.

Her masculine energy touches her without hands. It caresses her from inside. It whispers to her heart, you are safe now, my love. The safety opens her. Her breasts soften, her belly relaxes, her yoni begins to pulse with the rhythm of life. Pleasure becomes prayer — her whole body turns into a temple of divine union.

He builds her from inside — not by force, but by presence. His energy enters her like sunlight melting over her skin. It flows through her veins, reaching her neck, her shoulders, her spine — grounding her, awakening her, reminding her of her own power.

Every breath she takes feels like he’s breathing her. Every exhale feels like surrender. Her body becomes a language, expressing what words never could — the meeting of her feminine softness and her masculine depth.

When this union deepens, her ni***es become gateways of sensation. They ache not for attention but for presence — the kind that sees, holds, and honors. When her inner masculine meets that ache, it’s like warm waves flowing through her chest, expanding her heart wider than ever before.

Her yoni, once closed by fear, begins to bloom. She opens not out of need but out of trust. The masculine energy within her moves through her hips, her thighs, her womb — filling her with strength and sweetness at once. Every cell of her being begins to sing, I am home.

Her breath slows. Her body arches gently, meeting herself. She feels her own masculine entering her feminine — not as dominance but as devotion. The more she receives, the more she glows. Her pleasure becomes an offering, her surrender becomes strength.

When she is in this state, she doesn’t seek a man to complete her. She becomes the dance of both — the giver and receiver, the protector and the nurturer, the sun and the moon. Her energy moves like liquid fire — soft yet unstoppable.

This is what happens when a woman heals her wounds — she becomes the living expression of divine lo******ng between her own masculine and feminine energies. Every breath, every touch, every heartbeat becomes a sacred reminder that she is both the desire and the fulfillment of it.

- Abhikesh
Art: Pinterest
Source - Empower Wholeness Intimacy
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11/07/2025

When the masculine desires feminine surrender ... And the feminine yearns to surrender into her heart

It is not a mental decision
It is not a choice from the mind
It is an entrusting state of being...
A complete release of guarded control

When a woman is in her feminine energy, she does not desire to be the boss of the relationship...
She cannot surrender into the unlimited potency of her heart space, when her mind is activated to make decisions or keep her heart protected from harm

She desires her man to lead ...

However ...
Whether she can surrender and allow him to lead ... That all depends on if she can trust him ?

If she can trust him
To keep her safe ...
Does he protect her heart as his own ?

If she can trust him
To keep her held ...
Does he delight in her flow of expression ?

If she can trust him
To keep her free
Does he encourage her to be her authentic self ?

Once a woman feels
Safe
Held
And free
In the arms of her man

Once she can trust him
To always have her best interests in mind

Once she can trust him
To make decisions from a space of unity

Once she can trust him
To pe*****te her heart from a place of love

Once she can trust ...
His inner strength
His resilience
His humility
His integrity
His devotion

Then and only then
Will she will be able to trust him
To lead her ...

To lead her to a place
She has never been before

To lead her on a journey
Through rapture and pain

A journey together...

Deeper and deeper
Into love

~Gemma Star ❤

*xuality *xuality

11/06/2025

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We often hear about safety for women and how we, as men, can create it in conversation, in conflict, or in moments of emotional connection.

We hear how we can step up, become more present when a woman needs to vent, cry something out of her system, release tension from her body, or explore the possible limitations of her emotional expression.

But what about safety for men? What do we need from women to feel safe enough to share and express?

When a woman feels safe sharing with a man and feels held in his presence, she often relaxes. Her stress dissolves; she becomes more open physically, emotionally, and verbally. Her energy softens into trust.

But for me (and many other men), it’s not always safe when I share with women, especially when I share from an emotional place. Sometimes, the way I express myself, the more masculine energy behind my words, the different language I use, triggers emotions in her that she can’t always hold.

Then the game immediately changes.
Suddenly, I have to manage the emotions my sharing brought up in her. The space shifts from 𝘮𝘺 expression to 𝘩𝘦𝘳 reaction, and my safety quietly disappears.

In those moments, I feel unseen and unheard. And I lose trust in being able to show up in my authentic expression.

It becomes safe for me again when the woman I’m speaking to can simply be receptive, silent, grounded, and present, allowing me to take a breath, say “thank you,” and choose to move on. There’s no judgment, no “yes, but”s, just acknowledgment. She might ask for consent before responding or reflecting. That presence alone restores trust.

Many women, especially when there’s a pause in a man’s sharing, feel the urge to ask questions or take over the story. It often comes from care, but it can be deeply unsettling for a man trying to speak from his heart, his gut, and his balls.

Men often process 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘦 talking. Our pauses are not the end of our thought; they’re the space where we find it. When we take pauses, we figure out either what we are feeling or how to express it.

When a woman fills that space, it breaks our rhythm. We need her curiosity more than her impatience, and far more than her judgment.

So, it doesn’t help when a woman assumes she knows what we’re trying to say and takes over. Let us finish and honor our pauses.

You might be amazed how much we share if you can lean back, breathe, and receive us in our words 𝘢𝘯𝘥 in our silences. That kind of presence helps us stay connected to what we’re feeling and clarify what’s true for us as we speak.

Many men were never taught how to feel, let alone how to express those feelings. Speaking them out loud is often how we 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯 what’s real. Sometimes, only after saying something, do we realize it’s not quite accurate, and then we adjust. That process builds integrity and trust.

With this post, I’m not saying that women are solely responsible for creating safety for men. Safety begins within.

Still, we must recognize that sharing our truth will always affect the energy and emotions of the person receiving it. That reaction is beyond our control, and it doesn’t automatically make the space unsafe.

What we 𝘤𝘢𝘯 do is support each other by setting the space with care: asking for consent before sharing, clarifying intentions, honoring silence, and allowing differences in pace and language.

We are in it together.

Bas Waijers Baumann

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