Ginger Henderson Counselling Services

Ginger Henderson Counselling Services I provide safe, collaborative and solution focused therapy to clients who are in need of support and

I will be out of office until April 20th! Message response will be delayed. If you are need of urgent response please co...
04/07/2026

I will be out of office until April 20th! Message response will be delayed. If you are need of urgent response please connect through my website and someone on the team will be happy to assist you. Cheers, Ginger 😊

I’ve created these April groups to be a space where both new and experienced therapists can come together, not just to l...
04/01/2026

I’ve created these April groups to be a space where both new and experienced therapists can come together, not just to learn, but to refine, expand, and reconnect with your work.

More experienced therapists come in looking for depth, perspective, and renewed energy
Newer therapists often come in looking for guidance and structure

Both belong here.

These groups are collaborative, honest, and practical. You’ll leave with new ways of thinking about your cases, fresh tools you can actually use, and connections with other therapists who are doing this work alongside you.

April dates:
April 22
April 24
April 29

If you’re wanting support, new resources, and a space that challenges you in the right way, I’d love to have you join us.

Spots are intentionally limited to keep the groups meaningful. ~ Ginger 😊

After years of sitting with couples, these are three things I come back to again and again.Positive regardChoose to see ...
03/28/2026

After years of sitting with couples, these are three things I come back to again and again.

Positive regard
Choose to see your partner beyond the moment you’re frustrated.

Self responsibility
Catch your reactions before turning them into blame.

Bids for connection
Reach for your partner in small ways, often.

Doing the work in a relationship isn’t about big moments. It’s about being consistent, accountable, and intentional in the small ones.
If you focused on just these for the next month… you would start to feel a shift.
Not overnight. Not perfectly. But noticeably.

Save this and come back to it when you feel disconnected ~ Ginger 😊

My People pleasers… quick check in.One thing I see in my clients all the time is this.Someone around them is upset, frus...
03/16/2026

My People pleasers… quick check in.
One thing I see in my clients all the time is this.

Someone around them is upset, frustrated, quiet, or disappointed… and their brain immediately starts scanning for what they did wrong.
Often this pattern didn’t start in adulthood.
It can come from growing up feeling like you had to be ā€œgoodā€ or perfect to be accepted.
Being the peacekeeper in the family.
Feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions.

So your nervous system learned something early.
If someone is upset, it must be because of me.

Something small I would love for you to try this week.

When someone around you is upset, pause before going into fix mode and ask yourself
ā€œDid I actually do something wrongā€
OR
ā€œam I just uncomfortable with someone else being uncomfortableā€

That pause alone can start to change the pattern.

And please remember as cliche as it sounds
You don’t have to believe and act on everything you think!! ~ Ginger 😊

03/06/2026

(Permission to post!)

One of my awesome Supervisee’s sent me this reel last week with a ā€œ wow how me today 🤣 ā€ text I laughed!

But then it stoped me for a minute to think about how vulnerable a therapist can feel from time to time. This therapist has been in practice for 17 years, but had a very difficult session…and that’s okay, normal and important!

Knowing this therapist knew right away they could ask for a quick call warmed my heart. This is the real reason I feel so passionately about the work I do and the therapists I support. Whether you are in your 1st year, or your 20th year of practice I got you.

So….. Can you talk for a sec?’
Yes. I can. And will always make time for a quick call text or email if you need it! That’s what supervision is for.
This work is meaningful and heavy and sometimes confusing , you don’t have to hold it alone.

I’m here for the questions, the doubts, the ā€˜did I handle that right?’ moments, and everything in between. not only do I hold my work very tenderly, I hold yours, just as carefully too! ~ Ginger 😊

March dates are now out! I know many of you wait for these to be released each month, so here they are! March 13, 18, 25...
02/27/2026

March dates are now out!

I know many of you wait for these to be released each month, so here they are!

March 13, 18, 25 and 27.

This group is for therapists who care deeply about doing thoughtful, ethical, skillful work. Supervision is not something we scramble for when a client is in crisis. It is part of ongoing professional development and responsible client care. Consistent consultation sharpens clinical judgment, strengthens decision making, and supports you in navigating complex dynamics with clarity.

I also know there is a lot of uncertainty right now around regulation changes and association updates. I have intentionally built in dedicated time for questions and discussion so we can talk through what is shifting and what it means for your practice.

These spaces are always small and they do fill.

If you have been meaning to prioritize your growth and your standards of care, this is your invitation.
~ Ginger 😊

A rare opportunity. Only 2 Couples Intensive spots available in March! For over a decade, I have guided couples through ...
02/24/2026

A rare opportunity. Only 2 Couples Intensive spots available in March!

For over a decade, I have guided couples through breakthroughs they once believed were impossible in a single focused intensive.

This is not weekly therapy. This is a high level, concentrated experience for couples who are ready to confront what has been left unsaid, understand each other at a deeper level, and commit to meaningful change.

If you are tired of circling the same arguments and feeling stuck in the same patterns, this is where real movement happens.

A Couples Intensive is designed to create clarity, reconnection, and lasting impact in one powerful day of intentional work.

Two March spots are open.

If you and your partner are both willing to show up fully, this could shift everything! Reach out to secure your spot or for more information. ~ Ginger 😊

Valentine’s weekend can feel like a lot. Here’s a reminder for couples who want connection over perfection.It does not n...
02/13/2026

Valentine’s weekend can feel like a lot. Here’s a reminder for couples who want connection over perfection.

It does not need to be about pressure.
It does not need to be about perfection, grand gestures, or proving anything.
What matters most is how you are showing up for the person you have committed to loving.

Connection is built in the small, consistent moments where you choose accountability over defensiveness. Leaning in means noticing your impact, taking responsibility for your tone, and staying emotionally present even when it feels uncomfortable.

It means remembering that effort, empathy, and perspective are active choices.

Romance grows when both partners are willing to turn toward each other rather than pull away.
This weekend can be about intention, not expectation.

If your relationship does not feel exactly where you want it to be, start here:

• Pause before reacting and ask yourself how you want to show up in this moment
• Respond to a bid for connection, even if it feels small or uncomfortable
• Take ownership of one thing you can do differently and do it consistently

Sometimes leaning in is the most meaningful gesture there is. It can be a subtle way of saying ā€œI am trying, and this relationship is valuable to meā€ ~ Ginger 😊 ā¤ļø

Valentine’s weekend can feel like a lot. Here’s a reminder for couples who want connection over perfection.It does not n...
02/13/2026

Valentine’s weekend can feel like a lot. Here’s a reminder for couples who want connection over perfection.

It does not need to be about pressure.
It does not need to be about perfection, grand gestures, or proving anything.
What matters most is how you are showing up for the person you have committed to loving.

Connection is built in the small, consistent moments where you choose accountability over defensiveness. Leaning in means noticing your impact, taking responsibility for your tone, and staying emotionally present even when it feels uncomfortable.

It means remembering that effort, empathy, and perspective are active choices.

Romance grows when both partners are willing to turn toward each other rather than pull away.
This weekend can be about intention, not expectation.

If your relationship does not feel exactly where you want it to be, start here:

• Pause before reacting and ask yourself how you want to show up in this moment
• Respond to a bid for connection, even if it feels small or uncomfortable
• Take ownership of one thing you can do differently and do it consistently

Sometimes leaning in is the most meaningful gesture there is. It can be a subtle way of saying ā€œI am trying, and this relationship is valuable to meā€ ~ Ginger 😊

IMPORTANT READ FOR THERAPIST. Lately, there’s been a lot of noise in therapy marketing trends. Some are very concerning ...
02/09/2026

IMPORTANT READ FOR THERAPIST.

Lately, there’s been a lot of noise in therapy marketing trends. Some are very concerning when we pause to remember why we do this sacred work that many of us we are called to do.
Just one of the top trends is ,

ā€œMarket your niche. Specialize so you can fill your practice!.ā€

As a supervisor and therapist with 13 years of experience, I want to offer a quieter, steadier reminder.

Ethical niching doesn’t come from interest alone. And it certainly doesn’t come from wanting a ā€œthrivingā€ practice quickly.

A true niche develops through years of broad clinical work, extensive training, and ongoing supervision ,all with client safety at the centre.

When we rush to specialize before that foundation is built, we risk ethical practice and client safety.

You can absolutely build your practice by speaking to your ideal client!
You can name areas you feel drawn to.

But a niche grounded in integrity is not a marketing strategy it’s a responsibility.

Yes, this is your business.
But it must be built on trust, clinical judgment, and ethical care.

Let’s stay mindful, cautious, and grounded in why we are entrusted with this work in the first place. ~ Ginger 😊

01/21/2026

Ooooof…. This one might sting a little.

If a hard conversation feels too risky to have, it’s worth asking why?

Closeness isn’t measured by how much you love each other, but by how safe it feels to tell the truth.

In relationships, accountability isn’t about demanding more from your partner.
It’s about asking yourself the hard questions. Here is a few I get my couples to dissect for themselves.

Try writing these down and use them for your own self reflection for the next month. If both partners are doing this you will see a shift in your emotional safety and bond.

Am I someone my partner feels safe being honest with?
Do I listen without defensiveness?
Can I stay present when the conversation is uncomfortable?
Do I show empathy when my partner is experiencing a need from me?
Do I focus on being right in conflict or hearing my partner?

Emotional safety is built in moments like these.
~ Ginger 😊

As a couples therapist it is a must that couples are continuing the work in between sessions. Having books to read to he...
01/08/2026

As a couples therapist it is a must that couples are continuing the work in between sessions. Having books to read to help keep the momentum going is always helpful!

These are some of the books I return to again and again when working with couples. They’re trauma-informed, attachment-aware, and grounded in what actually shows up in real relationships , not perfection, not performance, but repair.

I’m often asked which book couples should start with, and the honest answer is: it depends on what you’re navigating. Some of these are better for understanding patterns, some for healing old wounds, and some for learning how to fight in a way that doesn’t cause lasting damage.

These recommendations are inclusive of all couples. You don’t have to be on the verge of a break up , or even in a good place to benefit from them. Read slowly, take breaks, and don’t use these books as weapons against each other. They work best when approached with curiosity, accountability, and compassion.
I highly recommend taking 20 minutes a couple times a week to sit beside each other, read out loud and have a discussion. This shows commitment, increases bonding and helps with relationship growth!

If you’re not sure where to start, feel free to DM me for more information about these books!
~ Ginger ā˜ŗļø ā¤ļø

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