03/27/2025
"... I believed an old-fashioned narrative, which I think a lot of us are taught, about how desire works. We’re told it’s all passion and “spark” early in a relationship, and that lasts a couple of years maybe; then we have kids or buy a fixer-upper house or generally get busy with work and life, and the spark fizzles out, especially after 50, when apparently every hormone we ever had floats away on a sea of aging and we’re left, s*xless and neutered, to hold hands at sunset. Our options, we’re told, are either to accept the fizzling of our desire for s*x or to fight against it, to invest our time, attention, and even our money in 'keeping the spark alive.'" - Emily Nagoski
Great s*x over the long term is not about how much you want s*x; it’s about how much you like the s*x you’re having.