Monarch Counselling

11/11/2025

Sometimes healing looks less like doing more and more like pausing.
Your nervous system is not built to run without rest.
It needs moments of softness.
A slow inhale.
A longer exhale.
A hand on your chest to remind you that you are here.
You are allowed to take the quiet moment.
You are allowed to breathe before you continue.
You are allowed to be human.
Take one slow breath right now.
That is enough.

11/07/2025

If love has ever felt unsafe, this post is for you. 💛

Secure attachment isn’t about being perfect — it’s about feeling safe enough to be real, to repair, and to trust again.

When safety is present, you:
🌿 Communicate needs without shame
🌿 Trust that love is steady
🌿 Know how to return to calm after big feelings

And if that doesn’t feel familiar, that’s okay. Attachment patterns aren’t permanent — they can shift with awareness, therapy, and safe relationships over time.
You deserve connections that feel steady, not scary.

Which of these signs feels most true for you right now?

11/05/2025

When love and fear got mixed together early on, your nervous system learned that closeness might not be safe.

Disorganized attachment often feels like being pulled in two directions - craving connection but feeling overwhelmed when it gets too close. You might notice yourself pushing people away just as you start to care, or freezing when things feel too intense.

This isn’t because you’re “too much” or “not enough.”
It’s how your body learned to protect you.

Healing starts with safety, compassion, and connection - the very things that once felt dangerous. 💛

10/26/2025

So many people with anxious attachment patterns love deeply — but often live in fear of losing that love.
You deserve connection that feels secure, calm, and mutual.
Healing begins with awareness — and with learning to soothe the parts of you that fear disconnection. 🧡 ❤️

10/24/2025

🌱Healing old patterns starts with understanding them.
Attachment theory helps you see why you connect the way you do - and offers ways to create safer, more loving relationships.

10/16/2024

🌿 **New Blog Post Alert!** 🌿

Did you know trauma doesn’t just affect your mind—it impacts your body, too? In the latest blog post, we dive into how trauma manifests physically and explore practical strategies for healing both mind *and* body. From somatic therapies to mindfulness and movement, discover how you can begin your journey toward wholeness.

✨ Your body holds the key to deep healing—honor it, nurture it, and take that first step today.

Head to the blog to learn more! 🧡

https://monarchcounselling.ca/the-impact-of-trauma-on-the-body-understanding-the-connection/

Trauma is often viewed through the lens of emotional and psychological distress, but its effects can extend deep into the body. Understanding the relationship between your emotional distress and physical symptoms can pave the way Read more…

10/14/2024

🧠 Understanding the 3 Phases of Trauma Treatment 🧠

Healing from trauma is a journey, and Judith Herman’s triphasic model is a powerful roadmap for recovery. It breaks down the process into three essential stages:

1️⃣ Safety & Stabilization – Establishing emotional and physical safety while building coping skills to manage overwhelming emotions.

2️⃣ Trauma Processing – Gently exploring and reconstructing traumatic memories in a safe, trusting environment to process the impact of those experiences.

3️⃣ Reconnection & Integration – Rediscovering yourself and creating a renewed sense of meaning, beyond the trauma.

✨ Recovery is possible, and each stage brings you closer to healing, empowerment, and wholeness.

10/11/2024

Trauma doesn’t just affect our minds—it shows up in our bodies too. From muscle tension to chronic pain, trauma can manifest in ways that often go unnoticed or are misunderstood. It’s important to recognize these signs and seek healing, whether through therapy, mindfulness, or other supportive practices. Your body holds your story—take the time to listen and care for it.

If you’ve noticed any of these symptoms, you’re not alone. Healing is possible. 🧡

05/20/2020

For a lot of us, this can be a very challenging and anxiety-provoking time, with so many worries and uncertainties. Which of these coping statements resonates most with you right now?

03/18/2020

For some, this is a time of heightened anxiety. Here are some helpful tips for caring for yourself and others.

Monarch Counselling is offering secure video counselling to current and future clients.

Video counselling is a safe, secure, hassle-free alternative to attending in-person sessions.

If you would like to schedule a video counselling appointment, please feel free to contact me by phone at (226) 646-7812 (phone call or texts), or by email at sarah@monarchcounselling.ca. Please visit www.monarchcounselling.ca for more information.