11/12/2025
I ate a grilled cheese almost every day for four months. And not a sourdough, organic cheese homemade grilled cheese sandwich. A Tim Hortons grilled cheese melt. I might have also had a Timbit (or three) with it on many days.
A loved one was seriously ill in hospital out of town, and between the travel, the worry, the constant decision fatigue, keeping my practice running, teaching at the university, being the chair of a regulatory college along with the rest of my life, that sandwich was about all I could manage. It wasn’t nutrient-balanced. It wasn’t vegetable-heavy. It was what I could do.
And that’s the point.
We see so many posts about non-negotiables - the habits we should “never” skip: movement, hydration, vegetables, protein, deep breathing. I love those things. They matter. But sometimes life doesn’t leave room for “ideal.” Illness, caregiving, grief, burnout, hormonal changes, children, finances - these moments test every system we’ve built. When the non-negotiables fall apart, you’re not failing. You’re being human.
Health isn’t a checklist you pass or fail. It’s a relationship that bends with your life.
So when things get hard, instead of starting over from zero, lower the bar.
🔵Movement might be pacing hospital halls.
🔵Protein might be that grilled cheese.
🔵Deep breathing might be the heaving gasps you take after sobbing because it feels like nothing is ever going to be okay again.
Don't judge yourself based on the perfection you see in someone's social media post. Health & wellness isn’t about never missing a day. It's remembering you can always come back. And then coming back.